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Much like the Great Wall of China, I'm betting your tallywacker is visible from outer space!! It also puts me in mind of the old song-with suitably changed lyrics (of course)-"Tell me, pretty lady, 'Are there anymore at home like you?'" So are there more in your family equally blessed, Lance, or was the Tallywacker Fairy just particularly enamored of you? Gman

When I say 'normal' I'm talking about 'normal' mostly, but not entirely, in a more mathematical sense -where it signifies more the usual and customary state of things-where things trend toward the average/the middle. Whereas your use of the word 'abnormal' (and I'm not saying you think this obviously-it's just the example you are giving) is implying, I think, moral judgements if I'm understanding correctly what you wrote. Gman

I'm probably going to get lambasted for this. But I'll contend that IT's (heterosexuality) assumed the norm because it is the norm. This is a hilarious video. But on a biological basis it seems to ring very true to me. Gman

At the time it came out, I was deep, deep in the closet (although I was hiring frequently) and living in a city of population 325,000. I know I didn't want to see it in case someone saw me there by myself-I didn't have anyone there to go to the movies with. I probably also didn't want to see it because of the reasons stated above. Since then, while I'm not exactly closeted, but also not exactly out-or perhaps it's more accurate to say that sometimes maybe I'm still in and other times I'm out depending on the circumstances, I've thought about seeing it multiple times. But I haven't made a lot of effort to accomplish that. One of the reasons may be due to Heath Ledger's untimely death-but maybe not. As an aside, I did watch the first two seasons of Queer As Folk (although at the same time I was watching QAF, I religiously avoided Will and Grace and didn't watch it for years). However QAF came on in the privacy of my own "boudoir." When it came out, I was still a year or so away from having my first sexual experience. The producers/directors were really trying to shock in that first episode and really dialed up the sound when Brian took Justin's virginity. The scene was making me sick to my stomach, and I had to turn the program off. Gman

Let's say gay-themed movies then. In general I don't watch them. Gman

The difference is I'm not straight. I'm gay. So I identify more with the gay movie as opposed to the straight one. Gman

It's funny y'all say that. When dear departed Rentboy was around, I can remember looking at LA and NYC-the cities with the most selection in the United States-and the majority of guys listed were tops. Gman

I was over at my Mom's, and we were looking for a movie to watch-it was a movie I had bought on iTunes. I had seen it before. But I couldn't think of anything else we might both enjoy. Before we started, and me thinking of that scene, I told her that she was going to need to ignore one part of the movie. Gman

My four year old niece had her 1st dance recital last Saturday. I unfortunately missed it. But she received several bouquets. My mother asked one of my niece's 7 year old twin brothers (whom we'll call Twin B as he was born second) if he would have liked some flowers for his first piano recital a few weeks back. Twin B* thought a second and said no he would have preferred money. Gman

Go PRO or go home!! Gman

I have the advantage over the article of this being my thread. So I can define my own milieu as it were. Gman

For the purposes of this discussion-if you just list an age then the assumption will be that the lister is talking about anal intercourse. If the lister decides to describe things in more detail, then the reader can form his/her own opinion on whether the lister satisfied the reader's definition of having lost the proverbial cherry. Gman

In my case they were one and the same. Gman

17.6 years!!!! I guess since I lost my virginity at 41 the spread of the standard deviation must be really wide. https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/02/05/the-average-age-gay-people-lose-their-virginity-has-been-revealed/ Gman

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I have no intention of seeing it. So you won't be the last. I'm not really into gay themed movies. The actors are either incredibly handsome and having sex right and left, or handsome but just can't find the right guy until they come across their soulmate-I find that depressing. Or there is the fat bald guy who looks a lot like me -and is either comically inept or possibly evil- and that's depressing too. Gman

He now lists oral. Gman

I'm sure he's great if you like straight guys. Gman

I talked with him once by text years ago. He's definitely matured a lot since he started out. His ad says he is 30 now. If I hadn't recognized the name, I doubt I would have known it was the same guy. Here's a picture from back in the day. Gman

When I indicated I "Liked" your post, I meant that to indicate that I'm sorry about your situation with your Mom. My father had Alzheimer's. So in many ways I probably have some idea of what you are going thru. I'm keeping you and your Mom in my thoughts. Gman

Oh yeah that was a 4th thing. But really, if he's actually straight, that makes sense. He probably prefers massaging. Gman

It has to do with what we consider respect for the dead. That's why we don't do viewings or open casket funerals. For some reason that I can't remember, one of my grandfathers did have a viewing. I was in college at the time. I couldn't decide whether I wanted to go. My Mom finally said to me that my brother -he's the second oldest grandchild and the oldest male grandchild-was going, and I should let him be my representative. After that I never really had an opportunity to go to a viewing or an open casket funeral until I was in my thirties or my forties. I have to tell you I that I find them creepy. At my father's funeral a year ago, we, and the rest of the mourners who wanted to, did shovel dirt into the grave. But it was more symbolic. There were still people from the cemetery who finished the job after the last of the mourners put in the last shovelful. In large cities there are burial societies called Chevra Kadisha (Holy Society) that prepare the body for burial-all male groups for men and all female for women. These are volunteer positions. There can be more than one per city affiliated with different synagogues. The deceased is never left alone. There is always someone present -sort of like an honor guard. Working on the Chevra Kadisha is considered a mitzvah-holy/good deed/commandment. My oldest cousin was on one for years. She helped with at least one of our grandmothers-possibly both. She said it was the last respectful thing she could do. This was twenty or so years ago. I still get teary thinking about it. Gman

It has to do with what we consider respect for the dead. That's why we don't do viewings or open casket funerals. For some reason that I can't remember, one of my grandfathers did have a viewing. I was in college at the time. I couldn't decide whether I wanted to go. My Mom finally said to me that my brother -he's the second oldest grandchild and the oldest male grandchild-was going, and I should let him be my representative. After that I never really had an opportunity to go to a viewing or an open casket funeral until I was in my thirties or my forties. I have to tell you I that I find them creepy. At my father's funeral a year ago, we, and the rest of the mourners who wanted to, did shovel dirt into the grave. But it was more symbolic. There were still people from the cemetery who finished the job after the last of the mourners put in the last shovelful. In large cities there are burial societies called Chevra Kadisha (Holy Society) that prepare the body for burial-all male groups for men and all female for women. These are volunteer positions. There can be more than one per city affiliated with different synagogues. The deceased is never left alone. There is always someone present -sort of like an honor guard. Working on the Chevra Kadisha is considered a mitzvah-holy/good deed/commandment. My oldest cousin was on one for years. She helped with at least one of our grandmothers-possibly both. She said it was the last respectful thing she could do. This was twenty or so years ago. I still get teary thinking about it. Gman

He only has three flaws. 1. Straight 2. Top 3. Earrings Gman

He only has three flaws. 1. Straight 2. Top 3. Earrings Gman