Michael PhD

The lines get blurred but I consider sensual to include more seductive touch. Mutual touch may be a part of it. Release +/-. Erotic often includes mutual touch and release and often more. Would be careful with expectations as these definitions are not universally accepted.

Yes, you’ve made that suggestion a couple times… thanks for your continued interest none the less.

@pubic_assistance, I don’t have influence anymore…

I understood your point. Again, it does not apply to me. I can’t make anyone do anything. My question was how I should handle this. And I’ve gotten sound advice. Thanks for your input and the time you spent reading this.

Appreciate hearing your perspective. I’ve gotten good recommendations on how to handle the situation. This current topic about relationships between a son and father albeit tangentially related to what I am dealing with does not apply specifically to me (maybe something the two of them need to explore) so not much I can add but thanks for chiming in @pubic_assistance!

Well I don’t usually resort to anecdotes to make conclusions but as someone who is also bi, I have met married couples where the man is bi and they have gay children. Most I imagine aren’t out to their children as this lifestyle is not one I find to be easily accepted but I may be wrong. My experience would challenge your statement. Don’t have the data to make a conclusion but would just point out that our experiences do not align so your statement may be true for you and mine true for me.

Yes, that’s my issues. Sorry if I wasn’t clear.

Yes

Appreciate the feedback. I am not planning to see either. My bi buddy isn’t out and I don’t plan on outing him by telling his son that I know his dad in that way. He’s upset and hasn’t talked to me after this all came out and I promised I wouldn’t see his son again. My buddy’s son and I have met for almost 3 years. We are more than fuck buddies. Friends at minimum. No long term potential but we have mutual respect and what I find challenging is how abrupt this will be for him to hear without sharing context. I’ve been vague with him this past month when he texts but he can tell something is off. Doesn’t feel right to ghost him. Doesn’t feel right to lie. Doesn’t feel right to not share something to help him understand. Anyway, thanks for the feedback. I’m not sure how I’ll handle it aside from not meeting either for play… navigating how to end the “relationship” is challenging.

Met him this past week. Great massage. Really deep pressure. If he was local, I’d be a regular. Strictly therapeutic.

He’s great. I think there is some options you can consider that may allow for a more personalized experience when booking.

I didn’t plan for this or set this up. I’ve made connections with them both. But after the input and much thought, it’s clear that I’ll have to move on from both.

Thanks. I know you are right.

Hey guys. I’ve gotten into a predicament. Over the last year I’ve casually been seeing a divorced bi man. We have had a lot of great sexual adventures, one on one and with a third (male and female). Recently, I asked if he wanted to meet with a submissive bottom who likes “daddy” types. He jumped at the idea. I sent over pics and a video of the two of us. What I failed to consider is that the guy I was suggesting we tag team is someone he knows… his son. My long term buddy is pretty upset and wants me to promise to not see his son again. I like the young man and have a lot of fun. Is it wrong to continue seeing them both without letting the other know? My head says I should stop but I’m hoping some can convince me it’s not as bad as I’ve made it out to be…

Had a great session. Will be a repeat customer. Thanks!

As someone who has enjoyed meeting masseurs even after they transition from a sensual experience to a strictly therapeutic session, I think you should wait for the clients to come across your ad and reach out to you. I don’t like when I’m solicited for scheduling a massage unless I asked to be contacted (for the out of town visitors) although I recognize that may be a personal issue and not applicable to others.

I had a masseur I met when I was in my early 30s. Great technique, well trained. Met him almost every month when I would travel to New York for 2 years. On a trip to New York one summer, I got in a bad accident. He and I texted often and when he found out I was admitted to the trauma unit, he came and visited. He came probably 15 times over a 6 week hospitalization… fast forward 10 years, we still keep in touch. And I’m the godfather of he and his husbands daughter. A business transaction led to this friendship. Life is too short to pass up making a friend when the right connection is made.

Pretty hot… I’m intrigued. Lol.

There may be options but only a couple well trained masseurs. If you are a trained masseur and have a variety of techniques including deep tissue, I would imagine you’d have clients line up.

I would also suggest doing some research. It’s not just about being a dick sucking enthusiast. I meet masseurs and the best ones are those that want to make the client happy, truly enjoy what they do, and have motivation more than just supporting their other costly passions as a driver for their pursuit of a career in this industry. Would be a bit naive (and disrespectful to the professionals out there) to think that being in this industry is straightforward or easy.

I would probably chat with a guy in the biz that can give you an insiders perspective. If it’s something you think you’ll enjoy and be good at, may be worth trying it out. if you think you’ll have regret in the future, I would consider alternatives. Would be interested to see what your profile would say… your sales pitch so to speak… care to share here?

Don’t have much to add. I host masseurs at bellagio, aria, wynn, cosmo. Most need keys to access room via elevator. Some only require this at night and day access does not require key. Of note, if you are worried about being seen in lobby by friends or colleagues, you can ask the masseur/escort to meet you on one of the non-room floors (restaurant level, gym, spa, conference room, etc) as these are typically open to the public.

In my original post I had inadvertently left out the masseur in questions link to Rentmasseur profile.

I just updated the original post. On a side note, if you come back to San Diego some day, you’ll have a lot of clients! Come back!

Hello. I saw this guy is visiting. Any experience? I’m very interested in meeting him. I may give it a go if no one has any experience to share. https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/30145/