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    Meeting for “fun” after a hire

    in Questions About Hiring

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    Laid out my expectations. If he contacts me no payment and just for fun. If I contact I’ll schedule a massage. 
     

    We met Friday night. Great massage. Fun after. Paid massage fee plus tip. Left happy. 
     

    He messaged me to join him out for drinks. He paid. Went back to his place. He offered a massage. I was reluctant and he could tell. He said he enjoyed working on me. 
     

    Ended up in his bed. This AM he asked for a “tip” as I walked out of the door. 
     

    Just messaged him that we won’t be connecting again. 

    Should’ve seen it coming. Thanks for the suggestions.

     

    Meeting for “fun” after a hire

    in Questions About Hiring

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    26 minutes ago, KennF said:

    There is a lot of discussion about clients confusing the boundaries and turning a paid-for experience into something more.  I think you have the opposite issue.  The provider is blurring the lines.

    It sounds like he might genuinely enjoy your experiences, but still wants to have his time paid for.  That's creating a lack of clarity.  You might want to decide for yourself if you want to explore a relationship or just keep it professional.  Once you decide for yourself, you need to have an clear communication with him so that there is no mix up.

    One thing you shouldn't do, is allow the dysfunctional aspect to continue.  You are already starting to feel awkward (or you wouldn't be asking).  By the way, there is nothing wrong with having a for-pay fuck buddy that is really turned on by you.

    I agree there is nothing wrong with a for pay fuck buddy. I don’t think it’s a huge deal if we don’t connect again. That being said, the massage was really nice and I’d like that again so will try to clarify and set boundaries that when I reach out it’ll be for massage alone. Anything we do outside my scheduling a session is between two consenting adults and for our enjoyment. If he’s not on board with that no worries. I’ll have to move on. 

    Meeting for “fun” after a hire

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted · Edited by MDinNY

    5 hours ago, BiDude420 said:

    You're getting something you used to pay for for free. On the one hand it indicates the escort does have poor boundaries and is a pushover. That is a red flag for any scenario. On the other hand you're having a good time. It all comes down to risk/reward and how much crap you want to (potentially) deal with. 

    I would probably phrase it differently - he’s getting something he wants that I had previously paid him for. I had a lot of fun hence my return visits. But I wouldn’t pay for fun alone - my focus was on the massage and the rest was good but not needed and not what I sought. 

    Meeting for “fun” after a hire

    in Questions About Hiring

    Posted · Edited by MDinNY

    Hello. Want some feedback. 
     

    I met a guy for a massage. Went very well and after the massage was completed, we played for almost an additional hour. 
     

    I did not prompt that - the masseur invited me to his room and bed. 
     

    He messaged me last week and asked to meet me this this past weekend for some fun - no discussion about massage. When I got there, he had his table out. Told me to get on. I told him I hadn’t planned to get a massage and that we probably have a misunderstanding. He told me it got him in the mood to massage me. We moved to the bed about 20 min later. 
     

    At the end, as I was headed towards the door, he asked for his fee. I told him again I came per his request since we had fun recently but was not scheduling a massage. He was upset but said he would be clearer next time. 
     

    He just messaged again and asked to meet. I asked if it was for fun or for a paid session. I told him I would reach out when I needed one. He then told me to come over for free. 
     

    The massage was excellent but I now see him as too much drama. What would you do? Stay away? Or give him another shot? If so, as part of a session only or only for non paid fun?

    San Diego

    in Spas & Masseurs

    Posted

    This isn’t a new topic but have a consulting job that will put me there 2-3 days a week for a year. Historically, have been underwhelmed and my go to guy isn’t massaging much. Any recommendations for a quality deep tissue massage?

    Escort “pestering”

    in The Deli

    Posted

    My buddy does this when he’s contacted and he’s up for more play - 

     

    “Great to hear from you. Been meaning to contact you. Finances tight but hopefully I can book in the next couple of months...”

     

    “…are you sure it’s ok if I only pay $**?”

     

     

    ”See you tonight”.

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