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There is a documentary available on Amazon Prime consisting of interviews with "gay for pay" porn actors, many from Sean Cody. I thought it was very well done. The guys interviewed covered a wide spectrum of attitudes towards what they were doing. Most were self-aware and insightful. I was particularly impressed with Curtis (*see disclaimer below) who was a central character. Well worth watching. (The interviews are often accompanied by R-rated clips from films they have done.) *I don't know how to access my viewing history on Prime, so I can't supply the title (it may even have had "Gay for Pay" in it), nor am I 100% sure that it was Curtis who was the central SC actor. (Added 1/5/19: @Rangar, in post #22 below, identified the film as "I'm a Porn Star." Many thanks!)

Charlie -- if you log in each time you come here, you can click on "New posts" (at the top of the page), which will give you a list of all the posts you haven't read -- not sorted by forum however. Just before you log out, be sure to click on "Mark forums read" (also at the top of the page) and confirm. That will mark everything as read, so the next time you come back, you won't find among the new posts things you hadn't read because you weren't interested.

In a perverse way , I'm glad you got frustrated enough to post -- I never knew you existed and now, thanks to @@azdr0710, you're on my SF to-do list! More seriously: Checking back with clients in the couple of days before should at least provide advance warning that someone is likely to flake. As client, I similarly check in once or twice before an appointment. Works 99% of the time, although once or twice guys have no-showed despite having confirmed less than 12 hours before.

Replying to my own post : Like the thingamabobby which tells you instantly whether the poster is currently online, and the drop-down which tells you some basic stats about the poster.

This is my first look at the new forum. Haven't tried any of the new bells and whistles yet, but they don't look like they would be hard to learn. What I instantly disliked was the blue format and the wallpaper behind the actual posts, both of which impeded my reading. I doubt that I will get used to them over time. The default style (thanks @TXDav) is much better for me. Am I misremembering that in the old forum the posts extended much more across the width of the page than they do now?

Best thing about friendboy, IMO, is that "inscores" and "outscores" are (often) listed. That alone puts it way above any other site for me. I didn't understand earlier comments about not being able to search -- there's a prominent search box which brings up my city as soon as I type the first few letters. The profiles on FB seem generally much shorter than on RM, but the basic information and pictures are enough for me -- I always have a phone conversation before making a decision.

Doesn't have the same associations. It's all in the mind.

I like the PR&WI -- which I almost never look at -- for the reason highlighted in Charlie's post. I sure hope y'all find a way to bring it back.

I watched this on Prime -- definitely worthwhile.

And I don't see a message box! Do I have to be a member of A4A to do this?

I can't see a way to contact him in that profile. Am I missing something?

Oh, yes....on the list for my next LA trip. Hope someone reports back by then.

Just read the book. Not as much sex as I fantasized there might be , but a glimpse into a culture that is very foreign to me. Looking forward to the movie.

You would help others if you posted the names. Or PM me if you prefer not to do that in public.

I've had my eye on Ryan North for the many years he's had an ad up, but never got around to calling. I thank everyone who posted here -- you've helped me to avoid a big mistake (although if he'd treated me the way he treated the OP, I wouldn't have made the mistake, I guess).

He lists therapeutic and sensual, but not erotic. Can that be ignored ?

There are many more escorts listing themselves in Montreal than there were, say, 10 years ago. When I started visiting Montreal, I could expect less than a 25% success rate in hiring dancers out of the clubs, and that often required an elaborate courtship of multiple backroom dances over days until they felt comfortable. As time has progessed, a much larger percentage of dancers seems open to escorting and they are much more open about it.

My mileage definitely varied from what appeared to be the forum consensus.

To the OP: you can believe the reviews. Their pictures are accurate. That should be enough to help you make a decision (if you really can't do both ).

A former Stock dancer whom I met at Campus claimed that there was a mass migration of 15 Stock dancers to Campus around December (IIRC, this was reported here in the MC at the time). When I challenged him about the number, he started counting on his fingers and, without much difficulty, came up with 12.

I had exactly the same reaction when I was there a couple of weeks ago. A local source reports that the derelict evangelical church at the corner of Papineau will be coming down soon, to be replaced by condos. And there is an upscale development at Montcalm and Rene-Levesque that is being heavily advertised in Fugues. Several years ago, a local friend told me that the Village was about to gentrify (based on various things, including the relative proximity of the new University Hospital). His prediction seems to be coming true.

I've always believed that the strip clubs in Montreal and Fort Lauderdale should recognize reality and provide tissues and wastebaskets in the lap dance rooms. 'nuf said.

How about the administrators putting a sticky at the top of this forum similar to the one in the Escort Travels forum: "README: Only put City and specific Dates in Subject."

Keeping emotional balance in such situations is learned behavior for most of us -- if you succeed, you open yourself up to many wonderful experiences. And you don't learn without trying and making mistakes. Whether you can learn without emotional scarring is so completely dependent on who you are and what your tolerances are that giving simple yes/no advice is pointless. The OP now has lots of warnings about the dangers; only he can decide what he's willing to risk.