Dchan

Hello all!
Poster from the U.K. here - looking for some recommendations of local guys in New York City.
There are a tonne of options so it’s actually quite overwhelming going through the various profiles! I know NYC has been covered a lot but I am out of luck searching so any advice/recommendations welcome.
Am looking for a Caucasian top (can be vers top), BFE, who can host (as I can’t host).
Are there any recommendations people have?
Some options I have been considering with mixed feelings/success:
(1) https://rentmen.eu/mackmahoney Mack but I understand he has cancelled last minute on people and is probably a bottom.
(2) https://rentmen.eu/Jared_Cross Jared Cross who some people have had mixed experiences with on other posts.
(3) https://rentmen.eu/BryanGrove Sounds great but can’t host unless I also include his partner (Im not massive on threesomes), so not really an option.
(4) https://rentmen.eu/drtynycman Can’t host unfortunately.
(5) https://rentmen.eu/TommyColeXXL 
(6) https://rentmen.eu/BlessedBoy Not 100% my type (nothing personal!).
(7) https://rentmen.eu/nycfitjock Not sure he can host. Haven’t seen a face pic.
(8) https://rentmen.eu/RouX Not sure if they can host, but doesn’t sound like it from the post.
Any others I should try to meet based on the above?
thanks a lot!
x

You're right. A lot (even perhaps most, I have to say) of the Brazilian escorts currently working the gay escort scene in London are into playing with chems (usually 'Tina' and 'G'). 
I think they tend only to use if the client also uses, though.
All the escorts I've been with who use chems have always respected my decision not to partake, when they offered me. I have never felt pressured or rejected because I decline the offer to do chems. And most have been OK with not taking any chems themselves whilst they are with me, though I have no problem with them using if they want to, as long as they don't mind me not using.

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Thanks for the advice gentlemen! It went very well indeed - was quite an interesting dynamic as you have to spread your focus across multiple people! Some vers play and we all got a turn so it was super fun! 

At the beginning, was super nervous but things escalated quickly and became quite relaxed!

Communication beforehand is key to getting what you wish.

I've typically had pretty successful threesomes. The main thing I'd suggest is the power of the reset. If things are kind of not going the way you would like (or one person likes), feel free to just take a break. Sometimes I like to have porn playing and just have a little moment where we're all just jacking off and kind getting hyped again.
 

Thank you! That’s a good way to break the ice! 

The threesomes I've had as hookups (always with couples) have always ended up with one person left on the sidelines a bit. Mostly it's one of the couple who's more into it, but sometimes it's the couple who are most into themselves.
With escorts, I've done a three way twice. One, in Birmingham, was with a couple who were mostly into each other and it was pretty unsatisfying. Another, in London, was great. We talked about what I wanted beforehand and they did everything on my wishlist and more, after starting with an amazing 4 handed massage. I was definitely centre of attention and it was a great experience.

Thanks. There was no hint of what was to come. I prefer to think that the overdose was accidental. He had so much to live for. 

They’re great fun (with the right crowd) but yes you do need to be comfortable with being watched 🙂

It's important to ensure that everyone gets a turn being the center of attention for the other two people.  It's easy for the two people with the most chemistry to gravitate towards each other and leave someone feeling left out and undesired.  You can make a game of that with a playtime rule, like: every time the song changes on the music playing, we switch up who's the centerpiece.
Deciding to sleep together as a threesome is a whole different set of logistic challenges.  Whoever sleeps in the middle better like to be very warm when they sleep.

A good option is to try group sex at a sex party. If I’m at a party the groups tend to break off into 3’s for some reason. I mean there will be lots of guys in a room but if you watch it tends to be mostly multiple groups of 3 playing together. People move between the groups. When you’ve had enough in one group you move to another. 
I think this is because 4’s tend to split into a two, any number more than 4 tends to focus on one recipient (say a guy getting gang banged). So 3 seems to work best for everyone to feel fully involved. At a party you can try lots of different guys in groups of 3 to see what you like best! That’s why I prefer parties for group sex rather than setting a 3some up. 
 
 

I've had a number over the years. Used to get it for free in my youth, now I pay to set it up. I always choose the two to ensure compatibility with me. But in one case I did hire a couple from LA who turned out to be great at satisfying me altho not to be repeated as one of them was Jay Dymel who unfortunately died several months later. His partner in life as well was Ryan Stone another porn actor. Ryan was a top and Jay top vers. And they both topped me and Jay bottomed for Ryan. Great memory but tinged with sadness. 
 

I have had a few, one with two providers in Melbourne who advertise as working well together - and that they did .  Both Tops - I had a delightful couple of hours with them.  Its best not to overthink it but to discuss what you want before and during 

I had threesomes when I was younger.  They rarely worked out for me.  Seems to always be an odd man out 

Thank you Jamie !

Yes I do know one of them. Always a good time together 

Lots of people giving advice here, risks you having all sorts of expectations. I’d say don’t overthink it or have unrealistic expectations about how it ‘should’ feel. There’s no right or wrong group sex experience. Sometimes it’s great, sometimes it isn’t. If I think about why that is, it’s usually because of my expectations about the event beforehand.