AJ Doyle

Take care of yourself first. Make sure that you minimize the possibilities of you having an awful experience, with a hooker, no less. Put it all out on the first email or phone call. Phone call would work better because you can hear an unrehearsed honest response. If you perceive any hesitations, chose someone else.
 
Life is too short for you to put your vulnerable and beautiful self in the hands of someone who might not handle it with the love and care it deserves.
 
And don't ask the general "Do you have any restrictions when it comes to ____?".
 
Directly, honestly state your stats. If you were 350 pounds don't write you are heavy boned, if you are of ay race, mention it, don't say you are mixed or something like that. The more info he gets and the more chances he gets to react to that, the more certain you'll be he might be a nice guy and will take good care of you if you meet.
 
"But shouldn't all escort be able to deal with....?"
 
Honestly, who cares! You come first. Take care of yourself. Only put yourself in hands of loving people. Learn to weed out the ones that aren't.
 
A lot of clients might try to convince you to force the escorts to accept you, to not disclose, equating disclosure with some kind of acceptance of shame. The argument has been made before that letting the escort know in advance is abusive to yourself, as if not confessing the fear will make you love yourself better. Don't let yourself be dragged into this conversation.
 
You come first. Put yourself only in situations in which you will have better chances of being treated lovingly.

This...Racism is everywhere, it just is, that's a fact...SO
 
Always ask...NEVER assume, when it comes to issues of race, age or weight etc. Just because an ad doesn't mentions limitations or preferences, does not mean there aren't any. If it is an issue for you, it might be an issue for the escort, give the escort the opportunity to express limitations or preferences. I have in the past experienced numerous situations that became uncomfortable. All of which could have been avoided.
 
Now whether or not an escort should state limitations and or preferences in his ad upfront, is another whole argument.
 
p.s. I like your new avatar @Lab12

If the ad does not state something to the effect that all are welcome, I ask if he has any sensitivities regarding age, weight, or race.

Unfortunately, I have learned that ask an escort means you need to ask the specific escort that you intend to hire. It appears no one answer fits all situations for any question. We all have differing opinions on the topic, but unfortunately, you never really know how the escort is going to react to anything until the meeting.
 
Some would say disclose it, others will say the most professional escorts can perform professionally with any and all types. Sometimes you can pick up clues from their advertisements, reviews, or 411 on the message center. Other times some clues can be gotten from the reviewers themselves if they list any demographical information about themselves that match yours.
 
I guess if it is a great concern to you, and you absolutely do not want any "in person rejection", you can include your stats (including race) with any inquiry you send to the escort (like to verify rates or availability or ask a question) and take a positive response as an indication that things will be ok. Take a negative reply or NO REPLY as an indication that things are not.

Cuts both ways. On one hand you'd like to be friends/family, but on the other, money for time spent is earned money. Guess it depends on what you have planned...

I plan to help out a fella that needs to make rent by month end!

They say there's no rest for the weary. Many professions have to work holidays. And those times can be very lonely for some clients.

I used to think that quasi-holidays (Columbus Day, et al) were good for work: half the couple is off to work and the other half gets it off (as it were).
 
Kevin Slater

I am curious; as service providers, do you find that public holidays and associated long weekends, have a significant impact on your client volume or inquiry volume?
 
My (bias) assumption is that volume/inquiries will be down due to clients spending time with family or traveling. Providers will likely also want to spend time with their loved ones.
 
The counter point is that I know providers here in my city that are foreigners, they don’t have family obligations here. One of them reaches out to me and asked if we could meet this weekend, he has a light schedule. Not the first time this has happened either.
 
What is your experience? Do you prefer not to schedule for public holidays or resulting long weekends?
 
Thanks!

Two days ago my friend posted on Twitter that advertising rates are going up for all on Rentmen. I've had my ad on there for 6 years, and am paying the original price for my gold ad, but it's sounding like they are gonna be bringing everybody up to the current rate of $79. Has anyone else already seen this happen on their last billing? How do you feel? On one hand, there's no contract guaranteeing or grandfathering old rates for anyone, but also, it doesn't seem they are offering anything more, nor are they letting providers know about it.

It's been $80 for Chicago for a while I think. I just recently renewed mine and cried a lil.
 
Hugs,
Greg

I agree. If they advertise "anything goes" it's reasonable to assume they are barebacking with clients or in their personal lives (or both). I never get offend if someone asks my STI status... A client does have the right to inquire.

You can ask any question till the cows come home. As for STI's at the time of question the escort might be free of them as far as he knows. But if you book days in advance he might pick something up along the way and not realize it till a week or few days later. And if he got syphilis he might never know till he gets tested for STI's. As for having a higher chance of getting an STI cause a hooker goes bare is dumb imo. How many of you hookers and clients wear a rubber for sucking dick? How many use a dental dam when you eat ass? The op really needs to pull his head out of his ass and go talk to a Dr. Hell, maybe one of our medical guys on here can chime in?
 
Hugs,
Greg

One thing I know some clients do, and I actually think is kind of a smart approach to figuring this out, is to ask the escort if they're willing to bareback for you. If they say yes or even try to negotiate it, then you can probably assume they've done that with clients before. If they say no, then you have the answer you were hoping for.
I've definitely been tested with that question by clients a few times. It doesn't bother me though because I also never bareback so it's not like that sort of question is something that puts me on my toes haha.