KyleS

The escort told me he will go to the gym before we meet. So I asked him is it ok for him not taking the shower before I come, cause I want the sweat and the smell.
He replied:
No problem, but we can meet earlier. I can't keep sweet for a long time.
 
Can't believe I almost jizzed over a typo there.

Damn agreed! And it's even better seeing veins pop out from the giver's forehead, and the receiver keep feeling the giver's arms. (Is it a fetish btw?)

Me: Let's meet at the Starbucks at 2nd and Main
 
Escort: I work there during the mornings

The giver needs to keep his eyes open and look up at the receiver!

Sorry, I can’t get past first few words...

Hello no, it’s not!
We’re all going to die. The REAL tragedy would be if you didn’t live every day with gusto and enjoy the hell out of life ! Celebrate with the men you meet! Kiss... fuck... connect... sweat... laugh out loud !

I have very particular and narrow tastes in men. Very few men excite me. I find many, many more women attractive.
 
It's just easier (but not easy) for me to find a man to my taste by going the male escort route.

I hire because I'm in a sexless marriage, and this hobby allows me to stay sane and feel sexually fulfilled. It allows me to fulfill the fantasy of sleeping with the hot jock/muscled bodybuilder/hairy muscle daddy types that aren't normally interested in me. And since I've had so little experience in my life, hiring is allowing me to explore what I like sexually in a non-threatening environment (when I can quell my nerves about an encounter, that is). I'm learning as I go.

Why do you hire an escort?
 
Because they won't do it for free.
 
Kevin Slater

As did I. I have an MS in Occupational Therapy. I worked clinically for almost 15 years. I worked directly with patients and in upper management, all over the US, and in hospitals, nursing homes, rehabs, neuro units, NICUs, mental health facilities. I specialized in cognition and mental health, and spent years training other therapist to sharpen those skills. I left over 2 years ago, and I feel more successful, more fulfilled, more happy than I ever did before. I use many of the same skills that I developed as a therapist and I'm grateful for my training and time, but this feels like a much better fit for my interests and the way I want my life to go.
 
Regarding the OP's question - I find that when someone asks a question, they are really telling you something about what they believe and understand. On some level, some people might think that escorting/porn, etc are fields where you don't to be smart and/or smart people do not do this work. There isn't a reason to get offended. Be smart, and have a conversation.

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Okay, I'm another guy just came out of the "no posting, just watching" closet in this forum. Have to say this forum is just great
Well, let's get to the topic. I found someone said hiring escorts is like a therapy, and I didn't really understand it. But recently, I found it ture, although it's likely to be in a different meaning.
I am in my late 20s, I have just finished hiring an escort for the second time in my life, they are both wonderful BTW. But afterwards, it kept me wondering about myself, about a fundamental issue:
 
Am I straight, or am I gay?
 
I had a thorough analysis on myself, listing all the things that REALLY turns me on, all the things that not really turns me on, and all the things that turns me down, from both men and women. (That's not a pretty list, trust me)
 
And after analyzing them, this is my conclusion:
My sexual needs can by fufilled by: f**king lady c**ts (sexual behavior) + worshiping man muscles (mostly non-sexual behavior).
 
The two needs do not appear at the same time and there is in no way do I appreciate lady muscles (just like you love vanilla ice cream and roast beef, but you will never want beef-flavored ice cream).
And when the need is fulfilled, I don't know which need will come next. And I don't think I can be sexually aroused both to a sexy lady and a muscular guy at the same time, because they belong to two separate systems, just one at a time is good. (Having beef with vanilla ice cream may not be so bad though)
 
I don't know whether I fall into the category of "bisexuals", and I don't what to be categorized as "queer", I'm just not a fan of that scale theory.
I wonder if there are people like me in this forum. I have a relatively good job now and want to have kids and a family before I become 35, but what should I do with my needs? Am I going tell my future wife "Not tonight baby, I'm not in the mood of f**king you today, cause I really need to eat some man pecs now. Damn I need a huge escort on my bed!" ?

Okay, I'm another guy just came out of the "no posting, just watching" closet in this forum. Have to say this forum is just great
Well, let's get to the topic. I found someone said hiring escorts is like a therapy, and I didn't really understand it. But recently, I found it ture, although it's likely to be in a different meaning.
I am in my late 20s, I have just finished hiring an escort for the second time in my life, they are both wonderful BTW. But afterwards, it kept me wondering about myself, about a fundamental issue:
 
Am I straight, or am I gay?
 
I had a thorough analysis on myself, listing all the things that REALLY turns me on, all the things that not really turns me on, and all the things that turns me down, from both men and women. (That's not a pretty list, trust me)
 
And after analyzing them, this is my conclusion:
My sexual needs can by fufilled by: f**king lady c**ts (sexual behavior) + worshiping man muscles (mostly non-sexual behavior).
 
The two needs do not appear at the same time and there is in no way do I appreciate lady muscles (just like you love vanilla ice cream and roast beef, but you will never want beef-flavored ice cream).
And when the need is fulfilled, I don't know which need will come next. And I don't think I can be sexually aroused both to a sexy lady and a muscular guy at the same time, because they belong to two separate systems, just one at a time is good. (Having beef with vanilla ice cream may not be so bad though)
 
I don't know whether I fall into the category of "bisexuals", and I don't what to be categorized as "queer", I'm just not a fan of that scale theory.
I wonder if there are people like me in this forum. I have a relatively good job now and want to have kids and a family before I become 35, but what should I do with my needs? Am I going tell my future wife "Not tonight baby, I'm not in the mood of f**king you today, cause I really need to eat some man pecs now. Damn I need a huge escort on my bed!" ?

Thank you so much for the reply! I had no idea that you have such bitter life experience...
 
I believe it's true. I have various needs, what I should do is to acknowledge them, admit them, even if they might not be accepted by the major society. And if I find someone who likes me and even accepts who I am, this person will be the one I'll treasure for the rest of my life.

Kyle welcome.
 
I was happy in my marriage to a woman and if she had not died, I contentedly would have lived my life in a monogamous loving relationship with her. After her passing, and for reasons too involved to go into again on this forum, I started seeking out muscular men for fun and sexual pleasure.
 
At first, as in your situation, these were mainly encounters for admiring and appreciating the body of a man who had worked long hours to develop a hypermasculine physique. As I played with men more often, I recognized that I needed to expand the depth and variety of those interactions. I became less afraid and more adventurous. Once my fear was confronted and seen as guilt and self doubt, I was able to minimize it. Once I accepted that I am able to enjoy many different kinds of pleasure, I was able to do just that. Now, sometimes, I am content with the most vanilla of experiences, but many times I want a lot more spice and at times my wants might even spread to what some consider kink. I embrace them all.
 
My sexuality, and I believe the sexuality of most of us here, is evolving. Sometimes it evolves in ways I never could have predicted. Based on the questions you are asking, I think that will be true of your life. As such, I say that you should not expect what you do now to be the same as what you will be doing 5 years from now. What you want now, will not be what you want in the future. How you see yourself now, will not be how you view these years in retrospect.
 
In recognition of the vicissitudes of my sexual awareness, I have stopped trying to classify and codify my desires. Instead I just recognize them as my desires and I work on fulfilling them. I advise you to do the same.
 
As for the future, you do not have to give up your hopes of a future spouse and family. I would advise you to be totally honest with yourself about your desires and eventually you will need to be bluntly honest with your partner. Early in any relationship with long term potential, you need to say something like" "I like men and I like women". It might not be conversation for the first date, but it should be an early conversation. The longer you wait to discuss it, the more difficult it will become to broach the subject.
 
You are a young man. You may expect that you should have the answers to many of life's riddles, especially to a question as seemingly simple as "What is my sexual orientation?". I can assure you, you have very few answers and most of those answers will change as you age. By the time you reach my age, you will realize, that the answers aren't important. That answers are transient illusions and that life is never steady and safe and sure. Life is a changing amorphous existence swirling through time and the best we can do is enjoy the ride. Do not crowd out the potential for enjoyment with self doubt, fear and self recrimination. That is not to say that you should push headlong thoughtlessly in the pursuit of pleasure, but do not be afraid to do it once in awhile. Enjoy those things that bring you pleasure and do not be afraid of what others think. Do not restrict your present day with past standards.
 
I wish you luck as you move ahead. When there is doubt, seek out counsel from the wise people around you and from inside your soul. Ultimately, you know what you should be doing, do not be afraid to admit it. Do not be afraid to do it.