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This was per [uSER=13124]@KongKingBing[/uSER] sentiment that he wanted an escort trainer which I was implying wasn’t necessary as most trainers can grasp the concept of “hooker body.” Trust, I wholeheartedly support being swole for the sake of being swole, hello. Lol.

Lol I think “Hooker body” is universal and self explanatory. No one needs “escort proportions” nor a body so meticulously crafted unless you’re competing or doing sex work, as there is no health benefit to being so aesthetically pristine.

You didn’t actually specify what he quoted you for. An hour, a few hours, an overnight, a weekend? Also, celebrating oneself for nabbing someone with 150k followers sounds silly considering most of these boys purchase followers/likes to inflate their “influencer status.” Good for you?

That seldom happens which leads me to believe a lot of these stories are outdated or slightly fabricated for a reaction.

Because BB isn’t marketable to everyone. As are many other things that an ad will be wiped cleaned of to avoid financial loss.

Idk, I think you are inserting an unnecessary and precautionary step because of an isolated incident.

I think sending a photo of oneself is encouraging a rotten behavior. And over time it’ll be a prerequisite to hire, making it even more difficult to meet a provider. But I mean...if that’s what everyone wants.

If there’s a screening process for giving someone a massage, they shouldn’t be a masseur at all.

Bingo.

Lol we’ve watched more pages unfold on worse topics, I assure you.

One, thank you for elaborating (rather thoroughly) about your relationship with your husband to give us all a little perspective as to what’s going on, why you indulge and why it is becoming an issue. I was waiting for a topic like this to emerge, as it is seldom discussed. I am in my early 30s and find I am increasingly being hired by guys my age who are married or simply do not have the temperament nor patience to play the game of Tetris that is Grindr/Scruff. It has turned into “punching out,” dating and socializing outside of the confines of a transaction, none of which I can say are productive or warrant a healthy “friendship,” as genuinely interesting as one party may find another. While it is inevitable as you are a 30-something hiring someone your age, it is your responsibility just as much as it is the escorts to say “end scene.” Maybe more so yours. Discipline. The only advice I can give to you is to axe any re-hires developing into anything outside the confines of a transaction, as difficult as that may be. It will continue to happen and will often times be perpetuated by the professional because there is an unfamiliar allure, and that allure is someone your age hiring you.. and it does not at all feel like a transaction. And a professional who has not had the opportunity to sit through your eloquent elaboration of where your marriage stands doesn’t give a shit about what you want lol. Hell, if you did elaborate he probably wouldn’t give a shit. Emotions get involved, even if one-sided and it has the potential to get very messy. I apologize if that sounds ominous but you really need to stick to your guns and pull out (no pun intended) when you see anything developing. Few escorts our age (if any at all) are going to say “hey, I respect the boundaries you have set and I am going to leave now” if they enjoy you. Especially considering the current dating landscape in big cities like NYC. I’m not at all shocked that happen in NYC because young men are eager for companionship, so much so they are willing to dock their hourly rate for it.

One, thank you for elaborating (rather thoroughly) about your relationship with your husband to give us all a little perspective as to what’s going on, why you indulge and why it is becoming an issue. I was waiting for a topic like this to emerge, as it is seldom discussed. I am in my early 30s and find I am increasingly being hired by guys my age who are married or simply do not have the temperament nor patience to play the game of Tetris that is Grindr/Scruff. It has turned into “punching out,” dating and socializing outside of the confines of a transaction, none of which I can say are productive or warrant a healthy “friendship,” as genuinely interesting as one party may find another. While it is inevitable as you are a 30-something hiring someone your age, it is your responsibility just as much as it is the escorts to say “end scene.” Maybe more so yours. Discipline. The only advice I can give to you is to axe any re-hires developing into anything outside the confines of a transaction, as difficult as that may be. It will continue to happen and will often times be perpetuated by the professional because there is an unfamiliar allure, and that allure is someone your age hiring you.. and it does not at all feel like a transaction. And a professional who has not had the opportunity to sit through your eloquent elaboration of where your marriage stands doesn’t give a shit about what you want lol. Hell, if you did elaborate he probably wouldn’t give a shit. Emotions get involved, even if one-sided and it has the potential to get very messy. I apologize if that sounds ominous but you really need to stick to your guns and pull out (no pun intended) when you see anything developing. Few escorts our age (if any at all) are going to say “hey, I respect the boundaries you have set and I am going to leave now” if they enjoy you. Especially considering the current dating landscape in big cities like NYC. I’m not at all shocked that happen in NYC because young men are eager for companionship, so much so they are willing to dock their hourly rate for it.

I love this.

My only concern is that you’re aspiring to have an “escort physique” which is often times not a natural one. I think you should focus on being in the best shape possible per your age, body type and workout history. Awesome that you have a mood board for how you’d like to look but I also think it’s important to identify your muscle group type (ectomorph, endomorph, mesomorph) to simply ensure what you’re aspiring to is a realistic goal. If you are serious about elevating your aesthetic, I’d highly recommend hiring a certified fitness professional.

It took over Berlin and many a major city awhile ago. An epidemic in London and NYC for sure. Vice even made a full length documentary titled “Chemsex” on the drug x sex culture among the LGBT community in the UK. It’s been bad everywhere truthfully, it’s just the elephant in the room.

This is super helpful and relevant per the inquiry at hand.

Delivery of refusal of services isn’t the issue, friend. Only you can control your thought process regarding rejection, regardless of how it’s handed to you.

Fair.

“To be honest I already have a weekend of bottoms, looking for tops at the moment.” First thing I want you to do is provide for us in the above statement what you thought was “racist” and why that qualified the provider to be called a bigot, ageist or an asshole in your mind. Second, a provider is ALWAYS entitled to decline service to a client he does not want to offer services to. Now his reasoning, that’s on him. But no one ever has to service you because you rang. Third, if he is indeed versatile and truly did have a “weekend of bottoms and looking for tops,” GOOD FOR HIM for seeking some pleasure of his own after a weekend of hard work. Most escorts simply want you to get off and that translates in the experience. Unfortunate you got turned down but if he is indeed seeking pleasure out of his experiences with clients, he’s on the right track.

It is a common gesture on behalf of the client in every major city that says “hey, I’m serious, let’s get things moving.” It cuts down on a lot of the back and forth and saves both of you time. A) It’s reassurance for the provider because a fake/flake isn’t going to offer you a car B) the client knows exactly where his provider is and those “ETA???” texts can be avoided. I always request a car late night hours and communicate to clients it’s to confirm “legitimacy of your booking” because those days of going all the way cross town in the wee hours of the morning to arrive at a fraudulent apt or hotel number or knock on an unanswered door are over. It’s seldom a problem. For those nickling and diming, consider it a convenience fee.

I am a person of color from the US and now based in Paris, and that should be the least of your concerns, I assure you. There’s a huge community of Brazilian providers in Paris, as well as guys from the islands and I seldom here of any problems and have never encountered any myself. Providers in Berlin speak enough English so that you can effectively communicate what you want but it’d be ideal to know a little Spanish in Barcelona and definitely a little French or Portuguese in Paris as some of the Brazilian and French providers speak no English at all and things can get clumsy with Google Translate. Paris: Book your accommodations in Le Marais for easy access to the bars and the providers. There are cruise bars and saunas in the area. Barcelona: The Axel Hotel. I can’t speak to the quality of providers but I can reach out to Tim Kruger if you need any recommendations. Berlin: Schoenberg can be a little desolate when the bars aren’t open but it’s alive at night. A lot of the bars and clubs are very fetish specific, as well as the providers so be very clear in what you’re looking for. Make sure you visit Lab.Oratory once during your trip. It’s a sprawling sex club below notorious Berghain and one of the best in the world. Also BOILER, one of the cleanest and most laid back and social sauna atmospheres I’ve ever been to, and I don’t like saunas. I can make additional recommendations for you via private message. Truthfully, I haven’t seen a plethora of “Bel Ami” types in the cities you mentioned. You might need to go to Czech Republic or somewhere similar for that fantasy.

“Ok.”

This sentiment was from February. I’ve moved on from the topic.

When it comes to hygiene I think it’s important one is transparent, most people appreciate it. A simple “hey, let’s hop in the shower before we begin” will get the message across.