Re ageism. Even though guys have commented that part of my attraction is my self-confidence, I still worry that I’m too old for some guys and, consequently, shy away from pursuing non-hobby relationships. Just this past Saturday, I met a group of girls and their one gay friend at a neighborhood watering hole. I found the guy, 34ish, very cute a fun. On Tuesday night, I dropped by and he was there with one co-worker, female, who left after few minutes. We chatted for over an hour and I summoned the courage to tell him I’d like to keep in touch and he then suggested we share numbers. Outside, we hugged and went our way. The self-limiting mechanism kicked in and now I’m thinking of avoiding this place for a while. Talk about self-sabotage!