I feel the same way about providers. I just added a young man who’s a bit effeminate but over-the-top passionate. The deep kissing and roaming hands alone is worth the session!
A young provider I saw a half a dozen times around 2005 hanged himself in his closet. It was a bit of a sensation at the time. Several providers I know are on several medications. It’s a brutal world out there.
That’s about the same verbiage that I use. It’s to the point, non-triggering, and opens the conversation up to an adjustment in fees, if the provider desires.
A very hot regular and I have discussed the addition of a third. He’s spoken to an equally hot friend about it and he’s in. He’s asked if I’d like the attention on me, and I said yes. I’ve only done this years ago. Any pointers from posters who have done this more frequently?