In my 30s I was out and about. Pride, Folsom Street, WeHo, the Boom in Laguna after a day at West St Beach. I haven’t been to a gay bar, except for the occasional strip club, in 20 years and never to a bath house. Even though I’m told I look good “for my age” the reality is that I’m too old for the party scene. The hobby is my outlet. Otherwise, my close friends and immediate family are the things that matter now.