There are times when I’m quite turned on by cute and feminine guys. I’m told I come across as masculine, although I do spend time grooming and I dress expensively but understatedly, if there is such a word. Since I have a more dominant personality, I find that more feminine younger twinks are attracted to me, so it works out for me. That said, there’s a clear preference in our community for more masculine men and I can see why that’s a problem for some.
I also urge our unhappy friend to seek therapy. It will no doubt be very helpful!