bostonman

I've never really been an "ass man" - not a part of the body I find particularly sexy, and anal sex in general has never thrilled me (I've tried it, and it's just not something I enjoy). But ironically, when I was much younger (college age, etc) I did rim, and with the right guys, really enjoyed it. But somehow at some point I decided I just didn't really want to do it anymore. I guess we all find out eventually the things we really crave sexually, and the things we just don't need or want. But I do remember having some fun times rimming, way back when.

This past summer, an escort ad online caught my eye. No reviews to go on (and I'm generally careful about that) but I was drawn to give this a try. I was interested in some roleplay, he was very into the scenario and we had a few great discussions about what we would do. We set a tentative date to meet, but then due to some heath/emotional issues that I was facing, I felt I had to cancel. But also in the back of my mind, I was feeling a bit leary because he was such a shot in the dark. So I wrote him a gracious note saying that I needed to reconsider, at least for the time being. His response was interesting. In the short term, he was very unhappy that I was cancelling. But he did also say that when I felt ready, he'd still be glad to meet, and would be looking forward to that. We haven't been in touch since, though I would still like to consider meeting, once I feel I'm ready, and if I find myself trusting the situation. But ultimately I'm glad that I didn't meet him when we had planned, as it would not have been the right time for me to do it.

Ugh. I remember a guy I was planning to hook up with that had to insert emojis for everything as we texted. I finally just gave up on him - I couldn't stand it.

I have had at least one side effect, which seems to be going away at this point. (I've been joking that I must be going through menopause, as I've been getting something like hot flashes - but as I said, not so much now.) At least it's been nothing more severe. They say that drugs like this can make the anxiety worse before it gets better - I can't say I've noticed that so much, though every day is a new adventure lol. Today went very well, as a matter of fact. I'm sure I'm not anywhere near "cured" yet, and truly don't expect that, but holding on to days like today sure helps. I will say that I tried a small dose of CBD oil last night, and felt that I slept a bit better than I have been, and didn't have quite the level of anxious jitters that I've tended to have in the mornings lately. Who knows if the CBD actually did anything, but I guess it certainly didn't hurt. And yes, though it may not be a major comfort that anxiety is so prevalent, it is somewhat reassuring. More reassuring is that I have at least 3 people I know (a student, a musical colleague, and another theatre professional I've done one show with) who have shared with me their own struggles with anxiety (and all of them having dealt with it for much longer) and it really helps to be able to share and be open with them. Learning that I'm not alone in this may not help much when my stomach feels full of butterflies out of control, but it does help on some level.

I don't tend to like it when the escort can't seem to decide on his name. There's a Boston area guy who spells his name one way in the headline and another way in the ad. (Daroius vs. Darius, I think.) There are others who will use one name (i.e. an actual first name) in the headline but then introduce themselves in the body of the ad with a different name. Sloppy.

I don't tend to like it when the escort can't seem to decide on his name. There's a Boston area guy who spells his name one way in the headline and another way in the ad. (Daroius vs. Darius, I think.) There are others who will use one name (i.e. an actual first name) in the headline but then introduce themselves in the body of the ad with a different name. Sloppy.

In addition to everything else, text-speak can be frustrating to those of us who prefer regular old English. After all these years, I still hate "ur" for "your." But I particularly hate those that use "no" as a deliberate (?) shortcut for "know." I also see the obnoxious word "tryna" more and more (i.e. "trying to") which always seems like a first name to me.

I think I knew him once. Good man, that Lorem. He gave me a great piece of advice once - semper ubi sub ubi.

Ok - so, full disclosure - I've been dealing with a fairly recent and fairly sudden onset of anxiety lately. (This started in mid-August.) I'm on meds and have started seeing a therapist. It sucks, but I'm doing my best to pull through. I thank god for the incredible support around me including friends, parents, and my students (at first I wasn't going to discuss it with them but I'm glad I did, the support has been overwhelming and wonderful). I'm also fortunate to love my work (I'm a musician for those of you who may not know) - it seems to be good therapy and often, if not always, allows me to take my mind off my problems. I'm generally happiest when I'm working, although every day is its own thing right now. All I can do is trust and hope and keep going, and hang on to the good moments and don't forget them. I haven't been out on this site as much recently, but I'm starting to post more often again. I'm here and I'm trying to live my life as normally as I can. I'll pull through. I have not mentioned this out here yet, but now I have. In any case, a friend (someone who has been on this site at times) introduced me to CBD oil as a possible addition to the meds I'm already taking. (My doctor approved it also.) I initially found that it was making me more emotional than maybe I wanted to be, and I stopped regular use after a few days. I've tried it occasionally since and it may be helping a little, at least temporarily, but it's hard to tell. I know it's the "new fad" but people seem to believe in it. I'm wondering if anyone out here has had any experiences with it - has it worked for you?

When I was a kid (late 60's through the 70's), it seemed that just about all my relatives on my father's side smoked. As did my dad, until he decided to quit. I always thought it was a nasty habit, and vowed I would never smoke - which I never have. Then, in my early 20's, I met a smoker who would become my lover for the next 6 years. Go figure. But I agree - I'm glad that smoking indoors is no longer a thing.

There's also Russ, who's been the subject of other threads out here. I met him once and had a great time with his pits. https://rentmen.eu/Russ_NYC I've also found that some gingers have a very distinctive natural scent to their skin - musky, almost waxy might be the best way to describe it. Again, it may be appealing to some (like me), appalling to others. But it's not a question of not being clean - it's just their natural scent.

Ha! No prob. I totally understand that this is not for everyone - hence this thread.

Ha! Though as I said originally, it's better for me when it's something I'm expecting, or at least when I know the guy I'm meeting knows that's something I would like. If a guy shows up like that out of nowhere, it still might be fun, but I might wonder about his grooming habits in general if that's what he would tend to do anyways. I remember a guy I dated some years back. The first time we fooled around, I told him about my pit fetish, and he found it intriguing, but said that it might be tough for him to show up without deodorant given his job, etc. I reassured him it wasn't something he needed to do. Then we met one night for dinner at my place, and we're making out, and all of a sudden he says "you haven't noticed." "Noticed what?" "I didn't wear deodorant today." Well, to be honest, he didn't have that much odor there. But I was very touched that he clearly did that just for me, and that was good enough lol. And I did have fun with his pits that night. There was another guy I saw on and off as a "fuck buddy" for a time - and from our first conversation, pit odor was the subject. He loved working up some "skank" as he called it. (And here's where those of you who are turned off by BO might stop reading, lol.) The first time I met him, I remember meeting him at the door and shaking hands. And, even standing that arms' length away from him, I could pick up his scent - it was that strong. For me, it was heaven. But again, this was planned, so it was ok. Occasionally, I'll encounter someone cute on the subway or street or even at work who is showing signs of needing deodorant lol - and I'm always tempted to want to say something and offer those pits a tongue bath lol. But I don't think I could ever get up the nerve to actually do that. I did once run across a former (college) student of mine on Manhunt, and we started chatting and he was into the same kinds of stuff. We danced around the possibility of meeting up, and even got to the point of saying we would - but then he thought the better of it and we never met. I understood his awkwardness even though we weren't teacher/student anymore - it's totally fine. Though I think I would have enjoyed some pit play with him. He was primarily a dancer, so he could certainly work up a sweat lol.

Domingo has stepped down from his post as General Director of Los Angeles Opera. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/02/arts/music/placido-domingo-la-opera-sexual-harassment.html

I don't hire a lot, to be honest. I have one "regular" that I see when he comes through town a few times a year, otherwise I may be tempted to hire here and there, but I'm always careful of my modest budget, so I really can't do that much. I do "window shop" a lot though. There are several guys in my area that I've always wanted to try, though...

My issue tend to be with crotch odor - again, some guys really get into that, but although I love armpit odor, I really don't like crotch smells at all. I tend to think guys think less about making sure they're clean down there, especially in a quick hookup situation. I have on occasion interrupted play to politely ask a guy to go wash up down there, and it's always been ok, but I do tend to wish they'd think about that beforehand. But, in general, not only in terms of body odor, but in other ways, I always hope that a guy is going to be presentable. Not that he has to be dressy or anything, but not a mess either. I once met a guy off a hookup site who showed up pretty drunk, and a total mess. I had to turn him away. And of course because he was drunk he gave me a hard time about it, but I was finally able to get him out the door. Ugh. (Of course, it was the afternoon of the St. Patrick's Day parade in Boston, and I suppose I should have known better??) There was another guy I used to see occasionally, but most often at my place. When we decided once to meet at his place, it was a rather rude awakening. Filthy apartment, and just not a comfortable situation all around. Still, because I liked him, I went with it, and the sex was still fun. But he was also a major gamer (several screens that he'd be playing on at once), and the only other time we met at his place, he seemed so engrossed in finishing up his games as I sat in his very untidy room, that I decided to up and leave. It was just too much.

It is, I confess, a major fetish of mine. BUT, it would be something I would expect to talk about before hooking up. If I met a guy out of the blue who arrived smelling like that (that is, without him knowing I liked that), I might definitely question his grooming habits. I'd rather meet someone who smells freshly washed, etc, unless we plan otherwise. On the other hand, I have a definite problem with guys who smell like they just poured a whole bottle of cologne all over themselves. A little should go a very long way, but many guys don't understand that.

So sad that she is gone. Also this week, opera critic Martin Bernheimer passed away. May they both rest in peace.

But I think, reading between the lines, he was forced to do so. I think enough of the Met orchestra, chorus, and crew, who did not want to work with him, forced Gelb's hand, and Gelb had no choice but to fire Domingo. But, however it happened, indeed Domingo is done at the Met.

Domingo was let go a few days ago. He did not sing Macbeth tonight, nor will he, and he's out of the Met permanently.

Thanks! And yes, I may look into that if I have time, though at the moment I don't have the real time I need to sit down and really absorb the music. I do have a copy of the score, though. ;-) As a musician, as much as listening is key, I also like the visual aspect of music - it often helps me to be able to look at the score as I listen. Also, I find it can be fun to learn a new opera through a live performance - over the course of the Met broadcasts I've had the chance to find a host of new favorites just because they've been scheduled for a broadcast. Even Satyagraha I first heard via a Chicago Lyric Opera broadcast back in the 1980's - at the time I was a skeptical listener as I didn't think I would like anything by Glass very much - and I fell in love with it that afternoon. Then, I sought out the studio recording...and I think it wasn't until the Met did it that I was able to hear a new performance of it.

I believe that this production is being done by the same team that did the production of Satyagraha some years back - and that was a true visual feast. So inventive, and so interesting and exciting to watch - and such an intriguing complement to the Glass score. But I also came into that production knowing the music to Satyagraha quite well, and I don't know the score of Akhnaten much at all. So this will feel like a new experience to me. What's great is that, since I also try to catch the weeknight broadcasts from the Met on Sirius XM, there will be a few broadcasts before the HD happens, so I'll get to know the score better through those, before I see the production.

Since I don't get much of a chance to get to NYC, I do have to say I'm extremely happy that there is now a new movie theatre a block away from me (so cool), and they're doing the Met HD's. So I will happily see the transmission of Akhnaten in November from a cozy movie theatre seat for around $25 and feel quite happy with that. Sure, it would be more fun to be in-house, but since I can't, it's the next best thing to being there...

It seems fitting for a show where the leading male tries to bilk a community for things like band instruments that no one really learns to play well, etc. I'm sure many Jackman fans will shell out the bucks. And if the show gets great reviews, more will do the same. I'll wait for the tour and be happy with cheap seats (but still full view ones, like the ones I got for the Dolly tour recently) at the Boston Opera House, lol. (I have already told my story about my friend who unwittingly got cheated out of a lot of money for seats to Mouin Rouge in Boston by going to the wrong ticket site. I do wish I had offered to get seats - I think I could have gotten them for much cheaper.)

Guy_Fawkes advised me that my original post did indeed count as a review. Understood. What follows is a quick summary, and an actual review (a short version of my original post) will appear sometime soon. Basically, I had a chance encounter with Brian Kevin, who is a member of this community (though he hasn't posted in a while) - but it wasn't an escort session, rather, as I reached out to him as a longtime acquaintance and friend, he responded with his vast heart and soul and helped me deal with a bad emotional time that I've been going through. He was on his way out of town, but came back to help. He went out of his way (and time) to meet, suggest some holistic alternatives to my prescriptions (something I knew nothing about at all), step me through it all, and to stay in touch with me as he traveled on to his next destination, making sure I was doing ok. I've seen Brian a number of times, but never quite experienced his caring soul in such a magnanimous way before. He is simply an amazing human being, regardless of his job. I really just want to thank him publicly for his friendship beyond the norm. Escorts are people too, and his willingness to truly take the time to care for me yesterday was both a surprise and a godsend. I wish I could say more here, but the review will say more.