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Y'all can do what you want, but I'd suggest considering the kind of world we're living in and not posting photos that seem to have been taken without consent... @easygoingpal

You won't be surprised that the only study I could find simply read: DUH. It wasn't peer reviewed though.

The forum's search function is very helpful: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/tipping-masseur.156280/

I'd be surprised if a recommendation for a masseur that will massage you, edge you and let you suck him off to completion pops up. Many non-Deli sensual/erotic masseurs prefer not to bust because busting affects their performance during subsequent massages with guys who, like you, also want to manhandle the masseur. But I'm curious to see if there are guys in DC willing to go that extra mile for a regular massage rate.

I had never even imagined a world without those until your post.

Some overcrowding and high prices don't make Paris overrated or a tourist trap, though. Leaving cities for the beach or countryside whenever there's a chance is very common in Europe, and not a sign that people hate their city. The airport (CDG) is just ~30-45 mins from the center of Paris, which is expected because the airport can't be right next to the Eiffel Tower. And airports being that distance away from major cities is not unusual (e.g., NYC, Rome, London...)

Paris has never been and will never be overrated. Anyone who thinks differently should just stop traveling and spend their money on something else.

Your original question was not simply whether masseurs should disclose their STD status. Your question was whether masseurs should feel obligated to share sensitive health information with a random guy texting about getting a massage, even though the masseur does not yet know if the massage will involve sexual activity, just because said random guy wants to allegedly rely on that information to decide whether to book a session given that he is afraid of catching an STD if there is sexual activity. We did answer this question...and I'll copy/paste a line from @CuriousByNature's response that summarizes the gist of what others have said: "Asking someone is no guarantee that they actually know their status or will tell the truth about it, so it's important not to be lulled into a false sense of security." So, you can ask. You may or may not get an answer. The masseur is free to choose which way to go based on how he expects the session to go. After all, you're risking catching herpes if you engage in sexual activity...but not if the massage is strictly therapeutic. Circling back to the question you didn't ask originally, I think that most non-sociopathic posters would agree that one shouldn't engage in sexual activity if one knows that there is a risk of passing an STD along to others (at least not without disclosing that risk). But everyone would also agree that the world isn't perfect and even well-intentioned people might assess risk incorrectly or even be unaware that they have STDs. So, all roads lead back to you needing to be prepared to assume the risks that come with sexual activity Hope that helps.

Your question suggests that you're hiring masseurs from certain websites, and seeing them under circumstances, that imply that sexual activity might happen/is welcome during the massage. So I would either accept the risks that come with that sexual activity, eliminate those risks by changing my hiring practices, or greatly reduce those risks by being upfront with masseurs concerning what sexual activity I'm okay with (e.g., hands only). I wouldn't bother trying to address STD risks by asking masseurs about their status (or rely on their answers) because some masseurs are going to be dishonest and some are going to be mistaken.

NYC Sexual Health Clinics: https://www1.nyc.gov/site/doh/services/sexual-health-clinics.page They'll do all the tests right there. I don't know what their corona protocols are, but in normal times I'd recommend getting to the clinic before it opens so that you're one of the first people to line up.

$175 for a 60-minute therapeutic massage?! A few thoughts: I recognize that this might be a controversial opinion: he ain't that cute. Charging that rate should be a federal crime. Just go to Burke Williams instead. *Note to self: Contact Burke Williams to set up a referral scheme so I can promote them on this forum.

He's had the same photos for a while now. But at least he was cute when I saw him a couple of years ago. I saw him for what I expected to be a legit massage, but I got an unexpected bonus at the mid-point and another bonus at the end. I would bet on him being a YMMV kind of guy because I can't imagine he's that...friendly...with just anyone.

Did you get tested for STDs before starting the antibiotics? If so, did you test positive for anything?

The carcasses are rising to the surface as they fill up with gases. So I'm bracing myself for the next article to contain a video showing something along these lines:

Allow me to clarify. My unspoken assumption was that we're talking about repeatedly moving hands from a reasonable position that seems objectively comfortable/okay back out to the edge of the table for no apparently good reason. But if the masseur puts your hands in an uncomfortable position (such as hanging off the table as you said), then I agree you don't need to keep them there. And if moving your hands and inch or two away from your body towards the edge of the table would make you more comfortable to the point that you're actively thinking about doing it during the massage, then you might as well do it too.

I agree this is the best technique. It has led to extra perks at many legit massages for me! This you have to be careful with. The masseur might not pay any attention to (or have an issue with) your hands being at the edge of the table at the beginning of the massage, but he's likely to notice you moving them back out to the edge for no reason after he repositioned them (not always in a good way). If the masseur repositions my hands, I only move them closer to the edge again after they objectively seem to be getting in the masseur's way (like if he keeps bumping into them as he massages the thighs).

Luckily for you, he's a physical therapist!

Thanks, though that link is broken. Here's the fixed one: https://www.traveloffpath.com/countries-that-have-reopened-for-american-tourists/

Oh, that would be a fun headline to read in the newspaper. "Black Friday Tragedy: Five men trampled to death as crowd lunged for discounted escort dick"

That might be true, but the authorities only knew that he didn't have cash because they subjected him to the interrogation. And, unless you were meeting up with a hobo, this could have been a short interaction if the issue was simply that your friend didn't have any Colombian currency on him. I'm assuming that he could/did say that he has an ATM card or credit card that he can/was planning to use while in Mexico to obtain/pay in local currency. If he instead said that he was destitute and that some mysterious American is his ATM machine, then I guess the hours-long detainment and interrogation makes more sense. I know you weren't trying to justify the government's actions other than to say that you think your trip wouldn't have worked without them. But I hope you see that's not necessarily true. I just think that rationalizing government overreach is usually never good because, as the idiom says: if you give an inch, they'll take a mile.

Right, I should have definitely made clear I was talking about the US of A. I'm not sure how much clout scientists have over here at this point, even under a Biden presidency. But a man can hope that the prez will listen to the experts.

I think any kind of attitude is short-sighted. If I were a hot escort, I'd be hoovering up all the (tax-free) cash I can get while I can! ?

It's too early to tell. Enough people must have taken the vaccine for "herd immunity" to arise, which would allow us to go back to normal. What "enough people" means will be a political decision. Individual businesses will play some role in what normal will look like too, though. For example, Qantas announced they will be requiring proof of vaccination to board international flights. So, if other major airlines follow suit, air travel might not be normal for a while for anti-vaxxers.

Was this a PCR test?

I really thought you were going to say that immigration officials discovered that the guy is a serial killer, and so they saved you from certain death. I don't see the helpfulness of the intrusive immigration check carried out without any particularized suspicion here (except it seems perhaps with respect to the Mexican government's pursuit of some odd US-related "issue"). I'm sure that your friend would've preferred to go on with his day without spending hours being questioned by Mexican authorities. That kind of overreach is particularly bad in cases where it affects that country's own citizens, who have a right to enter the country free from harassment. That can happen in the US, as @Hoover42 pointed out, so you might be the one stuck in a room for hours next time you fly back from abroad. If it happens, please do let us know if you think it wasn't a bad thing.