NavyChief

Yes, when I am on my back the talking should stop. Or if I am moaning while on stomach

I agree with @510guy. Especially earlier in the massage with a new masseur (for me), showing a real interest in them helps the connection. I’ve learned a ton about my favorites and I think it also helps them remember me for future visits. As the massage progresses or it gets more sensual the talk usually dies down which is great for me. Too much talking at that stage can definitely be a buzz kill. And then at the end a bit more chit chat is nice.

I, too, prefer to zone out, and was used to doing so from years of spa massages. But when I started doing more sensual massages, I found that there's talking. Sometimes a lot of talking. It's not necessarily bad, but I never feel that mental relaxation the way I would if I had an uninterrupted hour of peace and quiet.
 
However, I'm leery to shut it down, because like @510guy said, it helps to connect with somebody from whom I'm usually expecting more than just a deep-tissue massage. So unless the conversation veers towards politics and religion, I usually just entertain it, and I feel like it results in less "robotic" experiences, like some have reported here.

If I feel a connection I like to talk as long as he does not stop what he is doing. Though it is important for the masseur to know when to get the hint and stop. I often ask questions as I like to feel for the moment we are getting to know each other rather than I hired him for a job.
 
I have also found it helped in the likeability factor for each other which makes the session a more enjoyable experience.

I started bringing my own warm coconut oil to massages. Coconut oil is a natural antiviral, antibacterial, antimicrobial. But you have to get the solid coconut oil and warm it and not the newer liquid version (the liquid version is devoid of most antimicrobial properties)
http://www.shanti.com.au/body/coconut_oil.htm

If the dude is naked, too and I can grab a cute ass I might blow a huge over-the-shoulder load in two minutes flat. If he stays dressed, doesn't allow mutual touch, or is off in some way it takes me a bit longer or I finish the job myself.

Depending on how therapeutic things were and how high in the inner thigh. There have been times that by the time I roll over the HE has to star from scratch. And others that as soon as I flip over... release the hounds... lol

Depending on how therapeutic things were and how high in the inner thigh. There have been times that by the time I roll over the HE has to star from scratch. And others that as soon as I flip over... release the hounds... lol

Depending on how therapeutic things were and how high in the inner thigh. There have been times that by the time I roll over the HE has to star from scratch. And others that as soon as I flip over... release the hounds... lol

Ok. Thanks for the participation in my other thread about how and why you got started with massages. Second question:
 
Once a masseur really begins to focus on your penis, not just the casual brushes but with intention, how long does it take before you get off?
 
Does it seem like it’s quicker than other sexual acts?
 
For me, after 50 minutes of hands touching my body, in particular my ass and inner thighs, I have so much build up, that once he focuses on my penis, I am lucky to go 5 minutes, unless he’s a pro at teasing and edging and stops when I’m close.
 
Curious to hear about others.

For some reason I shoot quicker if he's stroking me while on my stomach. I find it amazing especially if if he's also touching my ass and playing with my hole. I'm my back is good but if the masseur has his dick in my mouth just as fast. Lol

I was thinking about posting a similar comment the other day; I'm glad you did.
 
I had a masseur recently who delivered an awesome technical massage, and the sensual part was also great... he allowed for a lot of touching. When he asked me to turn over, he quickly moved towards the HE. I told him it'd happen pretty quickly, and indeed, it did.
 
I showered, and walked out of the apartment, before looking at my phone and realizing it was less than 40 minutes after arriving. I was suddenly irritated. On one hand, I wondered if I sent the wrong signal. Was I too frisky? Should I have been more clear to delay the HE? I ended up texting him about it, just to see if he'd reply, and of course, he didn't. All things being equal, I definitely would have returned to him before realizing the time deficiency; now I'm not sure.
 
I asked another masseur and his take was that after the HE, it's clean-up time and the massage part is generally finished. Granted, there are some situations that will compensate in other ways, but I am still confused how to handle this going forward.

Regarding the 50-55 minute massage, I agree you pay for an hour massage, you should receive that. Now in their defense, they may not know how easily one man may get off, so it’s understandable if they begin this part of a massage with 15 minutes to go. However when they get someone who releases quickly, they should at least offer a soothing finish by either head massage or something.
 
Discussed at length on here, negotiating or upselling once massage starts is a negative for everyone.
 
Only thing I’d add is when approaching a HE, don’t be so mechanical and fast. It has the opposite effect on me. If you tease or go slow, it drives me wild while fast and mechanical turns me off. Lastly, if you know how to tease and make it last, I’m way more likely to look you up for a repeat visit.

-STOP trying to finish 5 or 10 mins early. At that point you been at it for 50-55 mins. Just finish the last few minutes. Ending 5 mins or 10 mins early REALLY pisses me (and I imagine most clients) off. I promise you... if you get into the habit of going 5 mins OVER... you'll attract a lot more "regular" clients.
 
-DO NOT TRY TO UPSELL. Had a masseur today shove his fat hard cock in my face (super hot) and say "it's $60 extra if you want to suck it." SO ANNOYING. Work out all that stuff before the massage starts via text or when I show up at your door. Nothing kills a mood quicker than stuff like that. It's rude. Tacky. And insulting.
 
-Once the HE is over don't hustle me outta there. There are some masseurs (Who I'm a regular of) who have learned that after the HE... to continue with the massage for another 5 or 10 mins. It makes things so much more enjoyable. And ensures I will be back.
 
Any other tips you all wanna add?

I'm sorry. Hunter maybe sexy in his own way... but a doppelgänger for Chris Hemsworth he is not. LOL!

This is many years ago, when I was still in my mid-20's. I went to this one guy in the Hollywood Hills, who was Italian. He was really hot. Mid-30's and good looking with a hairy thick body. He gave my back and neck a great massage - I remember cause I fell asleep and that's rare for me. I woke up a bit groggy when he asked me to flip over. That's when I noticed he had taken off his shorts. He proceeded to climb on top of me, his balls in my face and he started massaging my thighs. Before I could react - I was still kind of out of it, he put his mouth on my cock - and I came almost immediately. He swallowed every drop. (This is when I was so reckless and against better judgment didn't think about what I could catch from all these activities - but thankfully I left unscathed). He then proceeded to continue massaging me legs while straddling my face, with his hard cock bouncing against my chest and leaking pre-cum. I started to rim his beautiful asshole - man he smelled good - and I remember how his taint throbbed against my chin. Then he came all over my chest and I came pretty violently again. We showered together with deep kisses but I was too wasted to get it on another time. I tried to reach him a couple weeks later for a repeat - but he said he had moved away. I did drive by his place and there was another car in the driveway. Not sure if he had, but I got the message. Still the benchmark for the best massage for me, and fodder for many jerk off sessions through the years.

I eventually chatted more about hoping he stays at the chiro and he mentioned having worked at a spa nearby, a local spa, part of a therapeutic chain. He also shared having a GF and two young boys (at home I guess) so there isn't much chance of an incall, although I will keep tabs on how long he's staying at the chiro in case he moves on to another opportunity.
The latest couple of times while manipulating and stretching my arm he brought my hand against his stomach, which I admit doesn't bother me at all. That is some firm flesh, ya know?
But also, he continues to lean across me from above my head, which pushes his stomach against the side of my face. Again, that does not bother me at all. I do not mind the feel of that nice, muscled tummy against, and I may have nudged slightly against, with my face. Just a tiny bit. I'll see him again next week.

For the first time out with a new escort I tend to overdo the text messaging on confirmation early in the week the day before the morning of and when I'm leaving the office to meet them and when I've arrived at their place. It's exhausting and kind of out there but I feel it's courtesy and necessary with an escort that I know is counting on me to show. Once I've established a regular sort of thing I'm not as excessive. LoL..The area that gets harder is for out of town escorts coming to my city when I book weeks in advance. This is not ego talking but I have an important job and shit happens. I've had to cancel and their time here is usually on average 4 to 7 days. When I do cancel it's within a very decent amount of time.

I can't think of any reason why somebody would rationally pick "not telling anything" as more polite than "just tell him and quickly apologize" (am I being too optimistic here?). Hence, typing or calling in this situation must be making some people feel uneasy.
 
The rest comes, as very usual in life, from a lack of actual consequences, for the client, for this or the other behaviour.

Insert Mocha rant here

This is for the Escorts that have a booked client. Everything is set, what the client expects, time and place. When that day arrives. I usually text or email them several hours before to confirm our appointment The client tell you everything is a still on, and will give you the address closer to our appointment time. You pick out your clothes, shower, shave and do everything to be "Ready " for the reason you were hired.. Only to have that client not respond to any further communication.
 
Why is so difficult for a client to let the escort know something has changed and they will not be able to keep our appointment.....

So... isn't anyone going to add a link to these positive masseurs...? I mean...

I've had so many memorable ones, for good and bad reasons, that I needed to think about this for a few days before I responded. At first, I thought it might be the first time a therapist I had seen frequently was comfortable enough with me to take the massage to a different level. But after thinking about it, without a doubt, it was this one:
 
I used to travel to the West Coast for work a lot. Before one of the trips in 2011, I was looking through ads and saw one in the LA area that caught my eye. I don't remember if it was in massagem4m or masseurfinder, but it was in the therapeutic section, and he was very explicit that his massage was strictly therapeutic. This was a little over a year after my first massage from a man, so I will still looking more for a "therapeutic with the possibility of sensual elements" than the "explicit guarantee of an erotic" massage experience. We exchanged a couple of emails and planned on a two-hour appointment my last evening in the area. When I got to his place that evening, he was wearing a tight white tank top and greeted me with a huge smile. We hit it off instantly, and I felt comfortable with him from the second he laid his hands on me. I usually like to lie there and enjoy, but we chatted during most of the massage. Yet, I was completely relaxed. His hands were magic, and he paid attention to the little things and pointed out things he noticed about my body that no therapist had ever taken the time to mention. His work on my feet was tremendous, to the point that I had to force myself to stay awake because I didn't want to miss a second of the time with him. As the massage drew to a close, his touch became more sensual. It wasn't anything outright erotic, but it was enough to arouse me. He took off his tank and shorts, and I could see he was aroused too. He had a beautiful musclecub body that was covered in fur, and we enjoyed a fun post-session interactive session together. I had arrived at his place at 9 p.m. and didn't leave until well after 1 a.m.
 
During subsequent trips to his area over the next year-and-a-half, I always made sure that I scheduled a session with him. Most of them turned out like the first one with a variation here or there. Maybe he would take off his shirt earlier in the massage, or he would rub against me at some point in the session and things would turn to fun. He did always give me the full massage time, though. That first one was still the most memorable, mainly because of the way things evolved and my instant comfort with him.

At least two are worth remembering, for very different reasons.
 
Both were many years ago. One was at the masseur's place over on the mid-east side of Manhattan, I think in Waterside Plaza. The masseur was a tall (he advertises as 6'5") very nicely muscled black guy, at the time probably in his late 20s. We started per usual on my stomach, and he gave a very good back massage and then went to work on my glutes, with some nice sensual passes of his hands, for quite a while. There was a pause, and I was relaxed enough that I didn't think anything of it, and I heard a sound I should have recognized. In a moment, he was on top of me, trying to enter me. The noise had been a condom wrapper. I'm a top and an anal virgin, and he was very large. Needless to say I reacted very, very negatively. He tried to make it out like I had given him signals or something, but I think it was more he really liked my ass (other masseurs have offered, LOL), got turned on, and decided to help himself. He still advertises on A4A, says he's 32 but he's got to be well into his 40s. And his current ad says he's in the Times Square area.
 
The second was a young guy, probably early 20s, shorter and leaner, a few inches under six feet. The massage was in an apartment just off of Fifth Avenue in Chelsea, in the high teens. He was skilled and also hot. He did a nice job on my back, butt and legs, and then I flipped over. As I watched him work on my front, I soon had a full on hard on. He got up on the massage table and straddled me, with my erection occasionally rubbing against his hot butt and was working on my chest or shoulders or something and then, in an amazingly deft move, slid himself right onto me and started riding me. I came almost instantaneously, as I was trying to get him off me since it was BB.

There's nothing wrong with asking him if he has private clients. Do it in the room not out front by the receptionist. Be professional. If he's in OC, please DM me the details if he does accept private clients. A good CMT is always nice to find.