Kris_Canada

Okay, a week in Hawaii with someone nicknamed "Snuggly Shaun" sounds like an AWESOME time -- in my head I'm picturing some blonde hairy LUNK with a big muscle-butt who takes regular beast-fucks like a champ (top-only here, so he's a bottom in my fantasy or a vers guy who's happy with only getting filled for a week), is maybe a bit himbo-dim but as sweet as a mid-western farmboy to make up for it, and does as described---gives the best post-coitus cuddles/snuggles. 😄

I wonder if he got his escort name from "Arrested Development". 😄

D'aww, yeah...definitely a good guy. I forgot to agree with above, that I could self-suck until my early-to-mid-20s too. Fuckin' hot, blasting down one's own throat or all over my face. 🤤🥴 Hmmm, should get back into yoga...🧎‍♂️🧘‍♂️

Subjective/matter of preference, of course, but I hope most guys with cool/cute/unique ears keep 'em as-is and don't get 'em pinned. 😁 There's enough sameness and yearning-to-be-clone in the queer world (hey, the Tom Of Finland aesthetic and twin-cest and boyfriends, partners, & husbands looking like each other has its appeal for me too, at times), we don't need more of it. Whatever works for someone, it's their body, but I hope people feel like they can have a perceived oddity and own it and not necessarily need to alter it due to outside pressure.

Artur is a prince of a guy, have worked with him multiple times. He's the real deal, genuine and passionate and yes, as you said, better looking than his pics. We carpooled to a mutual client's place a few times, had good conversations on the way. And the bedroom antics between the three of us were hot, of course. 😜 We sure do love giving four-handed massages and double-stuffing our dude. Or I filled Artur while client watched. 🤤🥴 We fit a lot into our 2-hour sessions. And into each other. 😁 I don't recall getting to see him self-suck. A request for next time, see if he'll put on a show. 😃💦

I meant to reply to this last year, but forgot. Kyle is charming and sweet in-person, too. He was one of the models/performers at a charity event at The Well in Toronto's Village, the guys were auctioning off their jockstraps. He charmed the pants off of someone in my group, gave him a big kiss, just sorta fixated on the one (I suspect Kyle is LEGITIMATELY very into daddies, as he wasn't being paid to pay attention to my friend but did so anyway). Cute guy.

Are you willing to say which escort became a meme ? (only reveal if he has his face in his RentMen profile--I don't wanna out the guy if he's doing this on the DL) I'm just imagining that meme with...well, the one below. Where people always insert different captions for what each person in the pic is thinking or what category they fit into.

Haven't had him, but can confirm he's stuuupidly hot in-person (worked together at one of my day jobs a year and a half ago and also saw him at another of his jobs downtown more recently). Those pics are okay, but he's better-looking in real life. Nice guy, too, the little I talked to him.

What others have said here ('specially bring your own water), but also, if you're at his place, you could follow him to the kitchen (or mini-bar, if at hotel) and watch your drink being poured. Good opportunity to feel him up and get to know each other anyway. I always offer a bottle of water and more options, unless we're at it right after he steps in the door and I don't get a chance to! 😀🔥

Anyone watch the short-lived sci-fi western-flavoured series "Firefly" a decade and a half ago (and its big screen conclusion film, "Serenity") ? It predicted what you mentioned above. One of the crew members on the small ship is an escort (they call them "Companions" in the show) and in one episode focused on her, you see her going through a list of applicants (potential clients) on her tablet, watching their videos, rejecting and accepting them and setting up appointments. She only seemed to have wealthy clientelle. That's the centralized and more common form of prostitution in that imagined future, but there are still traditional whores as well (the show's terminology). In another episode, they head to a rougher planet and one of the companion's friends has set up a whorehouse (and is its madame) because she didn't like the way things were being done in the mainstream companion world. In all likelihood, traditional escorts will still be around in some form. Due to the appeal of JustForFans and the like, though, it might become more of a niche thing to hire one for some in-person time. And it might get more expensive and be mostly for the wealthy? We'll see.

Woof, I'd take that for a ride. His profile says Top, but after a first session of no-fucking and sniffing each other out, I'd be asking if there was any way to convince him otherwise (or ask during that first session, if things are going really well). I like the mature, rough-around-the-edges guys too. Room for all types. 😁

Meet new guys and finally see some of our regulars again, yeah. In particular, I have an awesome guy in Rochester who texts me once every couple weeks to see if I'm coming down. Not yet, buddy, the border isn't open for us to come to you guys yet (fully vaccinated Americans can come to Canada, though...weirdly, it wasn't reciprocal). But given that COVID case counts are much higher in the States, a lot of Canadians--escort or otherwise--don't wanna go to the U.S. yet anyway. You can get down on a plane, but for me, a 2 to 3 hour session isn't worth it to fly down. Rochester bud doesn't pay my travel, I simply see him when I happen to be in Niagara Falls or Buffalo on my own time or if I happen to be down for the week or weekend for another guy. Hah, that trend may lessen for a few years. At the outset of the pandemic, a lotta Québecois snowbirds (French-Canadians) brought COVID back with them from Florida. With Florida doing pretty badly right now, it's not the most desirable vacation spot, according to a lot of fellow Canadians. The average Torontonian mostly goes down there to shop. 😋

On the topic of discretion, how do you (and anyone else who wants to chime in) feel about concierge/security at condo and apartment complexes? Do you feel more comfortable entering a provider's home when it's a walk-up entrance (right to his door, like at a brownstone), as opposed to having to run the gauntlet of front entryway & buzzing him, going through lobby and sometimes past concierge/security, then the elevator or stairs ? Do you like it when he comes down to let you in/greet you at the front entrance or lobby, or would you rather not see him (maybe because you don't wanna be seen with him) until you're at the door to his unit/suite? If it's an apartment/condo, does a concierge being present make people feel self-conscious, or is it reassuring that you're in a relatively safer building? Or just..."whatever"/you're neutral about that aspect?

Re: roomies or someone having their spouse or significant other home I tried doing this with a roomie for a year, a few years back. 90% of the time, I'd just pay my roomie $20 and he'd take a hike for an hour and go visit a friend, go get laid, or get some grub. When he wouldn't or couldn't leave, I'd tell any short-notice clients that my room mate was home, he knew what I did (plus sometimes did it himself--roomie still occasionally gave massages to older couples--couples' massages were his specialty, apparently), and that he'd mostly be in his room. No one ever refrained from hiring me because of him being around, but I could tell it made a one-off client uncomfortable one time. Which is when I decided I'd be living solo the next apartment or condo I had. My longtime regulars, the odd time they'd come to me rather than me travelling to them, they didn't mind the roomie being around. They'd chat him up a bit post-coitus, when they were getting their shoes back on. Very friendly, very relaxed vibes, those times. Apparently roomie had a big dick, but I never got to see it. We weren't into each other like that, lived very different lives, and he was a friend-of-a-friend. He was a flight attendant, away all the time anyway, and I knew his schedule, so it wasn't hard to make incall appointments only when he was absent.

Hot. Always offered, yep. That should always be automatically offered at the end of a session. 🛀💦 To help set the mood, yeah. If I was asked to provide massage (and I usually find a way to work some in there anyway), always have some relaxing music or nature sounds on (would be nice to do some sessions out in the woods at a cottage, cabin, or home-in-the-forest and have the background ambiance be the actual sounds of nature). A large percentage of my hires want half the session spent on massage and the other half getting pounded anyway. Sometimes at hotel outcalls, the guy has music going already, which is nice, because you find out what he likes. 🙂 I should ask ahead of time, from now on. 5+ years of doing this (four if you subtract the break of the pandemic) and it just never occurred to me to ask that in the initial chit-chat of setting up a quickie or overnight--"What music do you like?" 🤦‍♂️ I'll remember to have some music playing for the non-massage sessions as well, from now on. Music to fuck to, yeah!

True, "safe" is subjective. I considered being a suburban escort for a while (there aren't a ton, least not near Toronto/in Ontario) because they seem like underserved areas and by luck, all the gents I attracted while living there were awesome and all except one have become repeat clients...plus the guys I traveled to in the 'burbs while living downtown were/are also great. But in the end, there just aren't enough dudes hiring in the 'burbs (or not enough willing to hire close to home, at least--many go to the city or the hotels near the airport for encounters). It seems that living downtown where there's a higher volume of people and you're closer to more hotels, is the better bet. Maybe some providers on here have had success entertaining in the 'burbs long term, though. Thanks for sharing, loved reading about the two hot room set-ups. Whether to have porn playing or not when the guy comes in is an interesting call. Over the years, I've had guys ask for some to be playing in the background, whereas others have commented that they don't like it when other providers have porn on because they're concerned or annoyed at the possibility that the provider is stealing glances at the porn rather than concentrating on them. I don't mind it either way. It's hot background noise, but not required. Will happily put it on if requested, or have it on already if I'm with a regular who I know enjoys it. Best bet seems to be to default to having it playing, and the gent can ask for it to be turned off.

Sad. 😥 Thank-you, bad apple escorts, for ruining it for the rest of us (for both providers and clients). Okay, not ruining it, but contributing to the lack of unease, mistrust, or anxiety.

Thanks for linking back to that--great thread, good to see the varying perspectives. Seems like envelope or bills somewhere visible is the best compromise. An assurance that there is payment in the room, not putting it in his hand at the outset. This isn't paying up front. Anyone hate the envelope-on-the-table method?

True, seeing that someone's a Premium member helps reassure, as does seeing that they've been on there for years and if they're a good communicator.

Mileage must vary, I guess. The way most escorts I've met in-person and chatted with online talk, payment up front seems to be the norm. And you see it stipulated in profiles. 🤷‍♂️ I think that's the best in-between measure, and the most fair to all involved. Showing that there IS money. Is showing the envelope or wad of cash and then leaving it on a table disagreeable to some providers ? The upscale hotel reassures for safety and cleanliness, but IMO, it's not overly indicative of the client's financial status or reliability. Plenty of clients of varying means splurge for a nice hotel on their night out. The longtime client in the example I gave above had a good job and money, but he still ripped me off. If I had asked for payment up front, I would have still walked away empty-handed, but with 3 hours of my time back. I don't walk into sessions worried about this each time--most people in the world are good, most aren't trying to rip each other off--but "money up front" is a failsafe against finding out at the end that you've provided the service for free. Yeah but how could he have known that you had an expensive overnight the night before? He can't read your mind to determine that you're telling the truth. Also, if they're new, young, and skittish, I wouldn't be surprised to find that most wanna be reassured that there's money for them set aside before they begin. Fair, we all have our preferences. But to me it seems like a mighty small detail to hold against someone when factoring in whether or not to rehire.

Agreed, it's helpful if "money up front" is included in the profiles of any escort who requires that. Hopefully those ain't the first words out of anyone's mouth, upon arrival. Can be firm, but tactful.

Yeahhh, that's kinda tacky to count it in front of someone, IMO. He could've made an excuse (like he had to go to the bathroom or something) and counted it in there real quick, if he felt it was necessary. Many clients will leave the pay in the bathroom, in order to give their providers an opportunity to count it in private. Even if you'd seen him before, though, he might've been double checking because of what might've happend with other clients (like if in my example above, another client perhaps shorted him or didn't pay him one time--it sucks that a minority of bad apples has lead to less trust than there COULD be on both sides of the bed). I had one client short me by miscountig one time and another simply forgot how much my hourly was and put less in the envelope. It was fine, both were regulars who I greatly enjoyed (looking forward to seeing them again whenever I get back in the saddle), they were a little embarrassed when I brought it up (it's awkward for us to have to bring up as well, heh), but I reassured them. Mistakes happen, it was corrected, and no harm no foul. 🙂

I realize some escorts and clients don't care. They just want a place to fuck. But I'm curious about what matters to each of you, when it comes to heading to his place for incalls. Any horror stories for how BADLY his place was set up are welcome as well (remember: no names). And accolades for those whose homes/condos/apartments were exceptional, or if the decor and layout enhanced the hotness of it all? Please share. 🙂 The basics: - clean living space, bed and bathroom - he lives in a safe area (unless you're fetishizing heading to the grungier part of town because you get off to a more seedy vibe when out for some tail?) - the obvious supplies (lube, condoms as an option, hand towels, wipes, etc) Any other MUSTS ? Some nice-to-haves I'll toss out there, see if they're important to folks: - easy access to transit (not everyone wants to use transit during the pandemic, but this was probably important before--for my part, I'll drive over if there's parking there or nearby, or I'll taxi or Uber or walk over, depending) - suitable dining and entertainment options, maybe? If you're more of a dinner & a show overnighter than a 1-hour pound session guy - pool and gym ? (if condo living--I realize most people's houses don't have gyms and pools) Water bottles and electrolyte drinks like Gatorade (or better) at the ready, to always be able to offer hydration? That's something I like to do. Mints and gum somewhere obvious, maybe? Mouthwash and dixie cups in the bathroom. Though guys always seem to come clean and fresh. But as an option. What temperature do you like it set to (what do you enjoy in your own home?) ? For sex, do you want it a bit warmer because you're gonna have your clothes off, or prefer it cooler because you guys are about to work up a sweat? What else? Be as practical or raunchy as ya like. 😉😏😈 First things that come to mind.

Still fun to get your hands on and wrap your mouth and tongue around, though. Yum. 😁

HARD disagree on that one. From a hiring standpoint, I wanna set his mind at ease and get money outta the way so we can move on from the payment portion of the session and enjoy the massage. At the very least, put it on the night stand, mantle, or in the bathroom for him--he doesn't necessarily need to pocket it right at the start. If he knows where it is, perhaps counts it, but leaves it there until the session's over? That's fair, IMO. When I'm escorting, well...I had my original client (first one who ever hired me and would see me twice a year) NOT pay me after three hours with him one time. And this was after three or four years of seeing him. He just said he didn't have the money, gave no other explanation. I drove two hours up to his cottage from my place in the city during a thunderstorm for him. He was deceitful. What a way to end a great thing (he obviously thought it was great as well, since he still contacts me once or twice a year to have a session with him--nope!). I had continued to make an exception for him over the years because I was new at this when I met him and I trusted him (every client after him, it was payment up front--and everyone else was cool with that), but that was a mistake. I can understand not e-transferring your escort the full amount until they're standing in front of you, but when paying them cash? Always, always cash up front at the start of the session or overnight. I had one or two clients try to say that it was their policy to not pay until the session was finished. How do I know they're not just trying to get my time for free ? You have apps and sites for that, if you don't wanna pay up front. Yes, I know clients' fears are that the provider will take the money and run. But for any provider who's serious about this biz, they wouldn't do that because--besides most just being decent human beings and happy to do their jobs--the risk is far greater to them (they can receive bad reviews, be reported to Rent.Men multiple times, be exposed, etc) than the risk of $200 to $300 to the client of potentially having a scam artist escort one time (which is unlikely to begin with).