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What difference does his genuine reason, or the conveyed excuse, make? Clients cancel on escorts all the time. We live in times where people cancel for all sorts of reasons. New hires accept job offers then never show. Service providers and contractors dont appear as agreed. Im personally dealing with a situation - today -where an acquaintance agreed to attend an event requiring ticket purchase, then canceled day before due to work emergency. Except, a few hours later, sent an email confessing work emergency was fabricated, and just not in the mood, but didnt want to lie. Societal norms and expectations evolve. Commitment, or even the obligation to inform or reply, have changed. Just move on.

Don't think so. But Ive had people tell me they've left items at my door, and I never find them. I'm also using the Nextdoor app. Package theft is one of the most prevalent topics. My neighbors post vids from their doorbell cams, security cams, etc., all showing crooks in action. We live in times with very bizarre, illogical rules. I cant believe those booby traps wont backfire. My career required exposure to some liability training... and I recall a presentation where the speaker showed us A moron who put a parachute in a laundromat dryer, and when it caused a fire, he sued the laundromat and won A crook, who, while making his getaway across a rooftop, fell through a skylight, sued, and won. The homeowner booby-trapping his front door, rigging a shotgun, then arrested when it worked on a burglar. Someone is going to reach for one of those booby-trapped packages, be startled, fall and hit their head, sue the homeowner, and win. Booby-trapped packages aren't legitimate deliveries...they're set out as lures. It's not worth it.

.... eye of the interpreter..... How about "wow, the diet's really paying off....."

Would I prefer ejaculate? I would. Do I have an absolute expectation that a rentguy will produce ejaculate? Not in a one-hour appointment. Would I be angry or frustrated if a rentguy couldn't produce ejaculate? I would not. Would I pay more for ejaculate? I would not. Would I be annoyed if a rentguy "upsold" me, suggesting he would cum for extra money? I would.

I don't believe I'm homophobic, but I've become very aware that I'm quite the bigot regarding some behaviors. The conflict between behaviors seen and @latbear4blk's phrase above --- "fighting against those mandates" ---- results in frustration and irritation for me. Examples: pursuit of masculinity. For a population-segment often judged and stereotyped to idealize "masculinity" without recognizing that masculinity itself is just another stereotype makes me nuts. Is there anything more masculine than soft-spoken slender male wearing makeup walking the streets of a small southern town? Or someone transitioning FTM going for a job interview at the NFL? I get frustrated by the nostalgia and clinging to old norms and behaviors - although I don't believe that's only a gay phenomenon. But older gays, who long for the days of the bathhouses, who resent the progress whereby neighborhood development means fewer places for public sex, to still adopt old ways of referring to other men with female pronouns "Ohhhhhh, her!" or "She". These are attitudes that will inhibit societal acceptance.... I think we've made progress into tolerance. Our parents come to terms with it, they adapt. Love wins out. But we're still not at a point where a mother isn't initially disappointed, or a father reacts to a son being gay the same way he'd react to a son having brown eyes. Some intolerance for those still in the closet. I wouldn't counsel someone to come out. I try not to judge them. I wouldn't refuse friendly contact. And I would never intentionally "out" someone. But I've also made a pledge to myself that I can't be expend the energy to hide. To borrow a phrase from other life-situations "I may lie to you, but I won't lie FOR you." I feel no need to volunteer information, would try to say nothing. But I won't actively help someone be dishonest, be part of their "cover-story" to remain in the closet.

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Would anybody here reject a potential sexual partner for a wrinkled scrotum?

Tis the Season.... For questions like, "Oh, Hanukkah's your Christmas, right?", "Is this the one when you don't eat? ", or just the straightforward, "What is Chanukah?" Happy Holidays! What is Hanukkah? Hanukkah is an eight-night celebration. In 2017, the holiday begins at sundown on the 12th of December on the Western (Gregorian) calendar, which is the 25th of Kislev on the Hebrew calendar. The Hanukkah celebration includes lighting the candles of the Hanukiyah (in English-speaking countries this is often called a Menorah, which is the Hebrew word for a candelabra) on each day of the holiday, playing with the dreidel, eating latkes and exchanging Hanukkah gelt. Like another famous winter-time holiday, Christmas, Hanukkah is about history. The celebration of Hanukkah is a commemoration of an event that happened more than 2,000 years ago. In 167 B.C., the Syrian king Antiochus IV began to outlaw Jewish religious practices and forced Jews to adopt Greek rituals. His men took control of the Jews' Holy Temple in Jerusalem, looted it and erected an idol of a Greek god there. One Jewish family, the Hasmoneans (led by Mattityahu and his five sons), decided to take a stand against the persecution. The Greek forces arrived in the town of Modiin, near Jerusalem. It was here that after refusing to violate his own religion by praying to the Greek god Zeus, Mattityahu attacked the Greek soldiers. This action began the Jewish rebellion. Mattityahu and his sons became known as the Maccabees, which means "men who are as strong as hammers" in Hebrew. The small army, led by Mattityahu's most famous son, Judah Maccabee, fought sizeable Greek forces. In 165 B.C., the Maccabees were triumphant. On the 25th of the Hebrew month Kislev, the Maccabees reclaimed the Holy Temple. They decided to rededicate the temple -- the word "Hanukkah" means dedication. The Jewish army was unable to find enough oil to light the Menorah, or candle holder, to be used in the service. The Maccabees found only one bottle of oil, enough for only a single night. Miraculously, the oil lasted eight nights, giving the Jews time to produce more oil. The holiday of Hanukkah commemorates this miracle. By lighting candles for eight nights, beginning every year on the 25th of Kislev (usually in December on the Western calendar, but not always), Jews celebrate the triumph of the Maccabees, the rededication of the Holy Temple and the miracle of the oil lasting for eight days. Menorah: 6 branches, 7 lamps. Not for Hanukkah! Hanukkiah (or Hanukkah Menorah): http://www.tabletmag.com/wp-content/files_mf/hanukkiah620.jpg Dreidel: http://www.behrmanhouse.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/library_item_610w/posts/images/dreidel_0.jpg Gelt: http://www.ohnuts.com/blog/Hanukkah_Gelt1.jpg Latkes:

Never once had an escort disclose, or even hint, at identity of another client. I never asked. It's not that I'm principled, or respectful of discretion. I'm genuinely not interested.

Let's see. Paying for it, its losing its appeal, and being advised to work at it. To take on responsibility for the hire's disappointing performance. Its supposed to be a pleasurable experience. Not work. Disappointing, perhaps some nostalgia involved, but time to move on. And yes, happened to me. Easy to sit here and opine... wasnt quite so easy to resist temptation to focus only on the good times, overlooking the more recent disappointments, when I was in the mood or saw an ad.

Most of my hiring experience is 1995-2012. I never heard or read the term BFE in those years. I love to kiss. I'd estimate 2/3 of the guys hired didnt kiss, including a few who reputedly kissed clients. Also kissed 1-2 who reputedly didn't kiss. Got compliments from several rentguys. And had to resist the urge to tell a few they were such lousy kissers, they should get lessons or stop. My takeaways.... its organic, and even an advertised "I kiss" is no guarantee. And I personally dont put any faith in the term BFE. I wouldn't even wager $0.50 that if surveyed, there'd be clear consensus among hirers and hirees exactly what BFE means.

Compared to MDs, DDS is much more variable. While very little (although increasing) non-cosmetic medical work is uninsured, there's still a big portion of the population uninsured for dental. The variations have existed for decades. After good dental health as a child, I guess I fared poorly as a late-teen. Had 11 cavities filled by student health services, college of dentistry, while I was a college freshman. I moved around for my career in my younger years. After several moves, arrived in CA, found a local dentist through referral from coworkers, and was happy. He sold his practice. New dentist who bought the practice had a (then) new technology.... put a camera in my mouth for the examination. Declared many many problems, and a need to replace all those old college fillings, about 15 years old at the time. I quit him, found another local dentist. After his exam, new dentist advised just monitoring the old work, replacing if it failed. That was 20+ years ago.... most if that old work is still doing just fine. I'd forgotten that experience until reading this thread.

Why not tell her? "Look, I like coming here. I've been your patient for years, I appreciate the quality of clinical care I receive here. I'm not interested in cosmetic services. And, unless you can specify clinical reasons for me to increase the frequency of visits, please stop asking." She may be part of a group, and her partners may be pressuring each other to increase cosmetic services. The margins may be better for cosmetic services. They may have an income allocation formula that rewards them for "upselling" Many people somehow maintain an old-fashioned attitude of deference for healthcare providers. There are studies. Older people will dress up to see the doctor, and tell them "I feel great" even when they dont. They want that "wow, you're in excellent condition" reinforcement. Sometimes they dont want to bother their doctor with minor aches and pains (although they'll kvetch to children, friends, neighbors nonstop) Medical pros deserve no more deference than others. If your auto mechanic upsold cleaning, paint coating, detailing, every visit, or if the waiter at a frequented restaurant tried selling shaved truffle every time..... you'd tell 'em to stop.

Its the internet! The modern-era phenomenon that's provided everyone the ability to act out the most trivial of social impulses. Dont worry about it. Some people act out their discontent. Many use their fingers to express the rage and hostility they cant verbalize. Some need attention for their intellect or insights. Or they simply have wayyyyy too much time on their hands. Anyone exposed to urban life can remember encountering the nutjob, standing on the street corner, screaming at passing cars or shouting at the sky; now he has a smartphone. I'm not suggesting most or even very many people are acting out online.... just that we are exposed to way more impulsive expressions than ever before, and that includes previously unexpressed negativity. The best approach is to not worry, not seek logical motivations, and to take neither offense nor the burden of understanding on oneself for others' online actions.

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OK. You provide the time machine - That was 5 months ago.

Doesnt happen to me, because I rarely get massages. But, hoping the OP doesnt mind, I am very familiar with munchies pursuant to a particular activity. I counter the urge with another activity. Sometimes something minor, like "structure" If I find myself in the kitchen after time on the exercise bike, or while relaxing with a book or movie... I straighten the kitchen, turn off the lights, declare the kitchen closed for the night. Or I'll distract myself with something requiring two hands and focus - minor home repair, cleanup & organizing, even something as basic as changing a pair of shoelaces. We build emotional associations into our brain.... the cigarette after sex or whenever on the phone were classic examples. Popcorn with a movie. I try to reprogram those associations- one of the best methods was no food outside the kitchen. The distraction or structure are tools in reprogramming my brain. A clinical person may know more about the chemistry.... perhaps a massage's effects on cortisol or hormones can trigger hunger.... I dont know. I know that marijuana-induced munchies were something I could never control. I havent gotten stoned in over a decade....Im sure I'd weigh 500 lbs if pot was still part of my life.

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I have CIFS.... Compulsive Imelda Footwear Syndrome. I think it started 1985. Era and job dictated suit & tie daily. Bought a pair of Johnston Murphy wingtips. Over $100 - big bucks for me at that time, probably my disposable income for a month. Salesman advised "these are good shoes. If you buy quality shoes and never wear the same pair two days in a row, they'll last forever." Ruined me for life. 2014. I had about 75 pair, maybe more. Some still in boxes, never worn 2015, started finding shoes tight and uncomfortable. Attributed to onset of old age, feet widening. 2016, new pair of shoes in store, my size, didnt fit. Feet measured first time in decades. Size increased- fallen arches. 2017... donated almost all of the shoes to charity, threw a few in trash. Actually sold some of the never-worns. Back up to 30 pair in new size, a few old comfy pair. And purchased four pair today, which is why this post caught my eye.

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If photos online already, use Google reverse image search. Or, upload pictures to tineye.com

Twist on this question: Clients, if without trying, you learned your rentguy's real name, would you tell him? I repeatedly hired a guy, eventually overnights & longer. He was great, but occassionally indicated he didnt care to share his true identity. Thats ok by me - I understand. Except, over the course of our appointments, he unknowingly did things revealing his name. E.g. He wanted to show me something on his laptop... sat next to me, log in screen had first name "Bob's Laptop" Subsequent visit, we watched porn together on laptop..... the wallpaper was a picture of him, name of the stripper troupe, troupe's homebase/locale, his strip-stage name Walking back to hotel one night, he took a personal call but motioned I need not step away. Related story to caller of a contractor apologizing for work performed, relating contractor said "how do we make this right, Mr. Smith?" So I now knew real first, last name, other job, etc. It occurred to me to tell him, particularly when he behaved a little skittish about his identity. Also as some means to convey "look, I know you're Bob Smith, your stage name is XXXXXXX, known for awhile, I'll never use or share the info, you can trust me." I never mentioned it, never told others....

For clarification.... what kind of strip show? And where? If its a gay venue, and lapdances are part of the performances... if private shows happen.... then arrange for a private. If hes doing a lapdance, just ask quietly if hes available for privates outside the club. Even if he says no, he won't be offended. I've done this, and it worked 2-3 times.... got me polite "no" many others. If its strictly performance venue, like Thunder from Down Under, Chippendales, etc.. if dancers never leave the stage, if there are abolutely no private shows... be content to be friendly. I wouldnt request more unless I got to kniw him very well. Creep alert: if a little obsessed.... try reverse search on his phone number or pictures. You may find ads that address your desires. Its a creepy thing to do, but... somtimes guys cant help being motivated by the crotch.

I dont think the manufacturer/ seller is lampooning anyone. I think thats a legitimate offering. If the seller was being facetious, they wouldn't acknowledge "make America great again " as officially registered to Trump for Prez. Ya know, it would be tempting to buy and gift that to some people I know. But I won't risk sending my money to an unknown. “Money is like manure; it's not worth a thing unless it's spread around encouraging young things to grow.” may be a great Thornton Wilder quote. And frequently true. But in this situation, I'd worry my "money is like fertilizer, and buying Trump items encourages manure to grow."

While I'm out, I have been known to opine that its nobody's business what I choose to do in my bedroom. I've even said "would you ask a woman whether she prefers to be on top or bottom when she's having sex with her husband?" Then a gay friend said to me "It's not that simple. Whether you want to or not, it's also about whether you can walk down the street holding hands with another guy." Much as I detest conceding in logical discussions.... he was right. I cringe a little at the concept of gay lifestyle. I'm conservative in behavior, and eschew lifestyle based on any one attribute. Is there a Christian lifestyle? A Filipino lifestyle? Not cultural choices and behaviors, but a lifestyle? I refuse to comport myself in a specific manner because of society's lifestyle expectations. But the ability to live however one wants - or might want - without concern for others' reactions, means that being gay is about more than what happens in the bedroom.