LaffingBear

I know escorts who wont allow pictures. None. Not even a face-selfie for phone contacts. And I understand that. If a client engaged you for travel, and that included sightseeing, would you permit photos?

Further reading: http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20180104-is-social-media-bad-for-you-the-evidence-and-the-unknowns https://hbr.org/2017/04/a-new-more-rigorous-study-confirms-the-more-you-use-facebook-the-worse-you-feel https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/understand-other-people/201602/seeking-validation-online-doesn-t-bring-real-happiness

Although @Lance_Navarro posted that quote with a mirror photo, I dont interpret the quote as being only about looks. I know several people whose sense of self seems to be increasingly external-driven. I dont know what the answer is.. but they are troubling examples of behavioral shift I attribute to social media and the device and information industries. We live in an information age, and entire new categories of approved behavior have formed. Reality TV. People can earn a living being influencers on social media. Facebook & Instagram users whither if others aren't approving of their clothes/hair/baked goods/location/witticism/political commentaries. People make a very common mistake; they interpret that attention as demand. They equate "likes" with wants. And so they continue with behaviors in pursuit of external approval, missing the point that attention is not the same as desire. We all slow down to watch a wreck on the highway. That doesn't mean we wanted to see a wreck. And, so, if you remove the external approval, people feel bad about themselves. For those addicted to attention, it would make them feel bad to cease the behaviors that generate attention. They may also feel stifled if they can't disseminate the sights, experiences, or information they need to impart. Young people feel passive shame based on number of followers and online approval. I don't know how to address the concern. While the methods and platforms are recent, self awareness and internally-sourced happiness are not new issues. Therapy for everyone seems ridiculous. And there's very little upside to telling others about perceived flaws. I'm also aware that I'm middle-aged.... I've reached that age which, throughout human history, older people always express concern about new societal norms. Except, I will note that Ive decreased my own dependence on external validation. I spent 2016 losing my mind on Facebook about the election. I blogged about the healthcare debate. And I occassionally checked in at restaurants and events, shared photos, etc. Early 2017, I stopped. In my case, it was a combination of factors that caused me to stop. Self-approval was, admittedly, not the primary reason I stopped. But I know I feel better for having stopped. Genuinely happier. With evidence I'm healthier. ....Now, if I could only refrain from lengthy explanations here on the Forum....

Thank you. I was unaware that website existed. Checking it out for the various cities Ill be visiting next few months. To, admittedly, go off on a tangent... I not only didnt know about the two places in nearby Sacramento, I was also puzzled, and a little troubled, by the following language on one bar's website: DRESS CODE: FACES Nightclub has a strict "dress to impress" theme. We do not allow: No Baggy Pants No Over Sized Shirts No Sagging No Do Rags/Head Wraps/Bandanas No Large Bags or Backpack/Knapsacks No Flipflops or Sandals No Gillz

I hired a masseur from rentmasseur. 90%+ of my experience is escort, not masseur.... But this guy was into it, and it went way beyond massage, all at his initiative. Alas, although we departed on good terms and he provided dates for potential future appointments, he subsequently refused calls, texts, messages, and then his ad disappeared. I admit, I harbor a tiny hope to see his ad reappear one day. He also lived nearby, and was willing to outcall at my suburban location. It was serendipity for the one visit, so I have no advice on the topic.

Guessing its a typo. Or... he travels a circuit of those four cities, and leaves the language in ads as placeholder. I'd be interested in 411 if he visits SF. Frankly, the ability to discuss Football is an enhancement for me. Early on, I took rentguys to NFL games with me, only to learn they were bored, or didnt have a clue how the game was played. Learned to ask them if interested when planning for extended hires, and 100% say "not really"

I probably wont watch Most prevalent buzz seems to be that the biggest winner should be Seth Meyers in the category "Best Excoriation of Self-Proclaimed Stable Genius."

Nope I dont know what the Millionaire Matchmaker is, but it sounds like some parasitic yenta. And I wouldnt let myself be exploited on some reality TV show for any amount of money... not even $0.5 billion. With that much money, Id disappear to a quiet private remote place, periodically moving into and through society, doing anonymous good deeds.

I dont need that. My penis is already magic. It makes me do illogical things. It can nullify decades of learning and common sense. Far from the largest organ in my body, it can, nonetheless, overrule every other organic function. It produces overwhelming joy and ecstasy or frustration and cravings... sometimes on the same day. Seems like magic to me.

No one. I guess I have a craven view of what would happen if it became public knowledge that I'd won $500 million. I suspect plenty of opportunities would present themselves.... and I wouldn't need to hire anybody. A sorta commentary on our societal values. Change your user name on Grindr to "WonTheLotto" and see what happens.

I watched the shower shows... and pushed dollar bills through the slot in the glass Been a long time for me... and probably something Id need to adjust for contemporary norms. I tipped singles in the theatre. Singles kept flowing while he stood before me. That was 15-25 years ago... probably not enough to hold a dancer's attention these days. My forays were probably not the norm. In the era that many house dancers appealed to me, when a headliner caught my attention, i spent the whole day there. Drove in from suburbia, paid the (then) $30 admission, saw the headliner at 1pm. Id come and go from the theatre, shopping in nearby Union Square, running errands around town, lunch and/or dinner, etc. Headliners then were on-stage 1, 5, 8, & 11pm. Drove home 12 midnight or later. And house dancers who didnt appeal to me, I left the auditorium. Often hung out on Bush St with other house dancers or the headliner. So I never needed to actively disrespect or not-tip a house dancer whose show I watched. i.e, no interest, no tipping, but at least not the game I saw other patrons play.... let the guy bump & grind and lap dance in hopes of tips that never materialized.

Do what makes you feel good. Don't think of it as transition, but expanding your pleasure. To use extreme hypotheticals.... why shouldn't an S&M disciplinarian escort hire someone to read him fairy tales while painting his toenails? Pursue happiness.

Nothing special, but worth watching. The final episode/movie- I guess they produced it for some need for closure - was pretty lame.

LOL --- Google image search leads to..... THIS PAGE!

Heres an idea... perhaps for synergies.... Considering this thread, and https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-sf-backpage.132263/ Grindr users can refer picture-seekers to SF Bay Backpage. Thats about all its good for.

Id say thats pretty good advice

Sympathies to those experiencing the freeze. If anyone is feeling envy of West Coast, the SF Bay Area was rattled awake by an earthquake at 2:39 am PST. Its always something

My app-speriences: Grindr, Scruff, BiggerCity, Growlr. Not one guy I found interesting was interested in me. 90% no response at all, 10% would chat briefly, but refuse to meet. Some guys contacted me, but none were remotely of interest to me. In a bizarre twist, it was as if opposites of my desires somehow knew to contact me. I actually disappointed myself, discovered I'm more judgemental than I care to admit. Most frequent reaction to the guys who wanted to meet: yech! I found zero men for hire or even seeking generous Biggest shock of all... 2017, and there are still people titillated by the idea of collecting pictures online. 3-4 guys per day just wanted pics, generally 500 to 15,000 miles away. Tried several times over past 18 months. Tried while traveling to see if locale was a factor. Tried past few weeks, to see if holiday season would mean different spirit, or bring visitors to my location. All apps uninstalled 1/1/18

I guess its noteworthy that the forums buzzed about Bomb Cyclones earlier today. Now, 3pm on west coast... its the "term of the day" appearing on at least four of my feeds. Users of FlipBoard can rename it BombCycloneBoard for now. Yeesh, we're a shallow people.

C'mon. It might not be polite, or sensitive. But really... is a client engaged in trying to arouse you always going to be understanding that their manual or oral ministrations dont do it - that you need to reach for the pump? Some people resent paying for surprises. Nothing wrong or judgement-worthy in your solution. Its not a reason I'd use to avoid having sex with a guy. But I believe you'll avoid some unnecessary negative reactions by disclosing in advance. Perhaps not in profile, but before finalizing appointment.

Why not? Just dont send out your reviews in a series of private messages Seriously, Id be interested. Havent been to that place in many many years. Maybe your review will rekindle my interest.

News is entertainment. Its a for-profit venture, not a public service. The weather forecasts are expected to keep pace. Its about ratings and ad revenues. Every drip of rain on the west coast is a storm Forecasts are no different than movie coming attractions. Everything reported has an IMPACT, not an effect Everything is in the present, happening now, even if it happened past tense. "Residents continue clean-up efforts from torrential downpours that swept through the region two days ago." No network brought you more coverage of last weeks record-breaking storm than ABC-7 We're live, with EXCLUSIVE coverage of tree limbs through the diner window, after tornadoes ripped through the small Kansas community of _____________ The actual stories/facts may be real. But the actual coverage, and the promotion, is about ratings to drive up the price of a 30-second spot during the news programming. BOMB CYCLONES sell!

I have a total of one agency hire in my life. It happened to be Vegas. Its 18 years ago, so most likely irrelevant. It was bad, and I never considered an agency again.

I posted a favorable comment about a recent hire. Shortly thereafter, I received PM requests for details. My reply: His stats in his rentmen ad are accurate. What he does, services.... thats something to address with him.

I cant imagine getting into a circumstance, as a client, for that to occur. Ive cautioned guys that if they differ significantly from photos, Ill cancel... but for things to get to undressing, and then "never mind" is pretty awful. Unless there was some misrepresentation or a surprise skin condition, I hope you took the money and split. I personally dont opine regarding rentguys' unless I have experience. I may indicate interest in 411. But I never respond with "he's not my type," or "hes hot" based solely on an ad. I cant relate to any adult paying heed to what another person wrote about their looks on the internet. The information age comes with many great benefits... but it also comes with the deterioration of basic civility. And its enabled many socially inept people to vent their unhappiness, filling their lonely days on antisocial media. 25 years ago, they'd have had no audience but their 17 cats. I have very low expectations of online human behavior, and believe bad apples are disproportionately represented when a device is the access point. So, I just shrug off a lot of negative things I see with the reaction "its the internet. "