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'Massive' goldfish weighing 9 pounds found in South Carolina lake A goldfish weighing nine pounds came under the spotlight Monday after being discovered during a fish population survey at a lake in South Carolina, park officials said. Ty Houck, an official with Greenville County Parks, said the “massive” fish was found swimming on Nov. 16 in a 12-acre body of water in Oak Grove Lake Park in the county of Greenville. Greenville Rec, which oversees the park where the fish was discovered, posted a photo of the golden spectacle on Facebook on Monday. “Anyone missing their goldfish? This 9lb goldfish was found in Oak Grove Lake during some recent testing at our lakes,” the organization wrote in a post. “The work included electrofishing, a method of measuring the health of the fish population.” Wildlife officials were conducting a fish population survey analogous to a “fish sticking its finger, or fin, in a socket,” Houck said. “A weak electrical current is run through the water and stuns them for a few minutes.” Houck said he believes the giant goldfish is the only one swimming in the lake because park officials did not encounter any others in their survey. He added that while the goldfish is non-native to South Carolina, it was not considered an invasive species to the lake. The average lifespan of goldfish is between six to seven years, while those found in the wild can live up to 30 years, according to the United States Geological Survey. According to the agency, goldfish can grow upwards of six pounds — far below the weight of the nine pound pond fish found in South Carolina. As for the goldfish's current whereabouts, Houck said he placed the fish back in the water after snapping a photo of the large creature. “At the advice of professionals we decided to leave the bachelor, or bachelorette, back where we found it,” Houck said. “Obviously, they’re really happy here.”

Artist sues museum and city of L.A. after his work is accidentally thrown away But is it art? That’s the question at the center of a dispute between a Los Angeles museum and an artist who showed there. Artist David Lew, who goes by the name Shark Toof, has sued the Chinese American Museum and the city of Los Angeles, among other defendants, for throwing his work in the trash after displaying it. Lew, who splits his time between L.A. and Detroit, was one of nine graffiti artists and muralists featured in the 2018 exhibition “Don’t Believe the Hype: L.A. Asian Americans in Hip-Hop,” which was on view at the Chinese American Museum from May to December. Lew said he contributed a site-specific installation called “Shayu De Yi Nian Lai See (Year of the Shark Red Packet)” for the museum’s courtyard. Eighty-eight empty canvas sacks were adorned with hand-applied gold leaf paint and suspended on burlap twine with wooden clothespins. It was meant to evoke the history of Chinese immigrants in the laundry business. The number eight symbolizes prosperity and good fortune in Chinese culture. How the individual bags weathered the natural elements — the canvas fraying or the paint fading and cracking in the sun — was part of an artwork about longevity, Lew said. The bags were meant to develop individual character over time, as people do. The museum is part of El Pueblo de Los Angeles Historical Monument, a department of the city, and is located downtown in the historic Garnier Building, the last surviving structure from L.A.’s original Chinatown. The building is owned and maintained by the city, and the museum is a city entity. Around Dec. 7, according to the lawsuit, days before the exhibition was to end, a city maintenance crew took down the canvas bags and threw them out. According to the lawsuit, no one from the museum or El Pueblo management was there to supervise the removal of the bags. The crew may not have known the intent behind the bags and instead saw them as deteriorating objects to be discarded. “Not being able to see these things after eight months, at the location, was gut-wrenching,” Lew said in an interview. “It’s like you’re watching the Super Bowl and they say, ‘We’re not gonna call a winner, we’ll just end it in the third quarter.’ There’s no resolution.” Fourteen of the 88 bags were not thrown out. They had fallen down during the run of the show, Lew said, but were never reinstalled or returned to him. The lawsuit presumes the bags to be destroyed, but in response to The Times’ query, the museum said the bags were put in storage. The museum said it had not been informed by the city or El Pueblo that Lew’s pieces would be removed that day but, perhaps more important, the museum said it did not see the bags as art in the first place. Several of the bags had been promised to Lew’s collectors after the show, and others were to be sold at the museum for $88 each. The museum said the bags were merchandise hanging outdoors — courtyard decor as opposed to an official art exhibit. A vendor agreement provided to The Times by Melvin N.A. Avanzado — the attorney representing Friends of the Chinese American Museum, the nonprofit that operates the museum — specified that his client would receive 20% of the sale revenue, not unlike a consignment arrangement. The museum’s executive director, Michael Truong, declined to comment and referred all inquiries to Avanzado. “We are still reviewing the allegations,” Avanzado said in an email to The Times. “However, the Friends of the Chinese American Museum did nothing wrong with respect to the tote bags that decorated the courtyard outside the museum. I look forward to proving that the claims against my client have no merit.” Exhibition cocurator Justin Charles Hoover — who had a one-year contract at the Chinese American Museum that ended in December 2018 — said he did view the installation as art. “We always saw David as an artist, and we saw this as an outdoor art installation,” Hoover said. “The work was always meant to weather and fade outdoors. It was meant to fall apart and be sold. Whoever took it down thought, because it was weathered, it was garbage. But I assume it was a completely innocent mistake.” The lawsuit, filed by Les Weinstein and the law firm One llp, names the city, El Pueblo, the museum and Friends of the Chinese American Museum as defendants. El Pueblo general manager Arturo Chavez declined to comment. Rob Wilcox, a representative from the office of City Attorney Mike Feuer, said staff would review the complaint and had no further comment. Lew said he was not consulted about deinstallation of his work and found out the bags had been tossed when he received an email from cocurator Hoover on Dec. 12. “We have a major issue with the bags,” Hoover wrote in the email. “The team that was tasked to bring the bags down from their lines thought they were to be disposed of. Like thrown out.” Hoover added: “Obviously we are horrified by this.” Lew said he was speechless. “It took months to develop the concept and measurements and diagrams and logistics,” he said. “It was like a break-up or a death: You knew this one thing, and then it leaves your life in an instant, and you’re left to pick up the pieces and grieve.” Lew, who has other work in the museum’s permanent collection, showed a large painting of a shark, titled “Qinru (Trespass),” as part of the same exhibition. It was returned to him after the show, undamaged. Other artists in “Don’t Believe the Hype” included Gajin Fujita, Hueman, Kenny Kong, Defer and Erin Yoshi. Ninochka McTaggart cocurated the exhibition. Lew declined to give a monetary value for “Shayu De Yi Nian Lai See” but said it was “priceless” to him “because it’s part of a body of work that I can’t ever, in a future retrospective setting, revisit.” The work also has familial value, he said. Lew’s great-grandparents worked in the laundry services business after immigrating to L.A. from China in the early 1920s. He said it offended him that the bags were discarded. Lew did not specify how much he was suing for in the lawsuit. Under the Visual Arts Rights Act, better known as VARA, the court allows for damages ranging from $750 to $30,000 per item, unless the court finds that the defendant’s action was intentional. Then damages can go up to $150,000 per item. In addition to suing for damages, attorney’s fees and other costs related to the case, Lew is asking the court to issue an injunction preventing the city and museums under city control, such as the Italian American Museum, from taking down an exhibit without advising an artist first. Lew’s attorney, Weinstein, represented artist Kent Twitchell, who sued the federal government and the YWCA of Greater Los Angeles, among other defendants, when his 1987 mural of artist Ed Ruscha — on a Hill Street building for nearly two decades — was whitewashed in 2006 without his permission. In 2008, Twitchell won a $1.1-million settlement. Lew said he hopes his case draws attention to perceptions about what constitutes art, what’s worth saving and what’s disposable. “Most people’s understanding of high art is Michelangelo,” he said. “If these were American flags, how carefully would they have been placed in a pile? But these look like something we’d eat fried rice off of — this can’t be from a master. And sadly, the bags were thrown away like dirty laundry.”

Top US cybersecurity firm FireEye falls victim to foreign hackers Hackers turned the tables on one of the country’s biggest cybersecurity firms on Tuesday, making off with a suite of powerful hacking tools. FireEye said that its security system was breached, possibly by hackers working on behalf of a foreign government, with the cyber criminals pilfering software that the firm uses to test its clients’ defenses. The hackers were also interested in information FireEye had on its government clients, though the company said it did not believe the hackers were able to get their hands on any of it. The company disclosed the hack in a blog post written by CEO Kevin Mandia, who said FireEye went public about the hack in hopes of helping another company avoid falling victim to the same attackers. “I’ve concluded we are witnessing an attack by a nation with top-tier offensive capabilities,” Mandia wrote. “The attackers tailored their world-class capabilities specifically to target and attack FireEye.” FireEye has business contracts across the national security space in the US and with its allies. There is no evidence yet that FireEye’s hacking tools have been used. The FBI is investigating the hack, and FireEye has also accepted help from Microsoft to identify the culprits. “This incident demonstrates why the security industry must work together to defend against and respond to threats posed by well-funded adversaries using novel and sophisticated attack techniques,” a Microsoft spokesperson said.

By Johnny Oleksinski December 8, 2020 REVIEW Running time: 100 minutes. Rated PG (thematic elements and some language.) On Disney+ Dec. 25. The studio’s early features were silly movies about plastic cowboys (“Toy Story”) and insects (“A Bug’s Life”), and now, like a grad student with a bong, skew toward metaphysical explorations of human emotions (“Inside Out”) and the afterlife (“Coco”). Their lovable latest, “Soul,” tackles our personalities. And, maaaaan, have they mastered the formula to sell their far-out films: Take complex psychological concepts and let adorable animated blobs simplify them. No one has ever raged against cute-splaining. You gotta be evil not to like these characters. Our sweet little guides this time around are pale-blue souls, who occupy the so-called Great Before, a training camp for babies-to-be. Your kids will want a stuffed version. Joe (voiced by Jamie 'Hung Like A Horse' Foxx), a New York music teacher, first meets them after he falls into a ditch in the street and floats up to heaven, or the Great Beyond. Not ready to die, he hops off the escalator and lands instead with the tiny future humans. But Joe is desperate to get back to NYC ASAP because the day he fell, the musician was set to finally make his big break playing piano in a Greenwich Village basement jazz club. For years, Joe had been a talented — but unsatisfied — part-time middle-school band teacher and felt his life lacked purpose. Tonight is his one shot. How can he game the system and reclaim his body? By mentoring a soul, an unmotivated slacker named 22 (Tina Fey), and snatching her Earth pass once she finds her “spark.” Not so fast. They screw up that plan, and a multi-species “Freaky Friday” commences in Manhattan. Director Pete Docter (with co-director Kemp Powers) returns for the first time since 2015’s “Inside Out,” a film I found rather smug and annoying. His “Soul,” on the other hand, is smart without being condescending or self-important, and Fey’s performance is spirited, funny and doesn’t OD on Red Bull. The script — by Docter, Powers and Mike Jones — is a parade of quirk. There’s none of the double entendre that can grow so tiresome in animated movies, but plenty of lightning-fast jokes about Carl Jung and Mother Teresa. Then there’s the counselors of the Great Before, Picasso-like line drawings who are mostly named Jerry. The best of them is the desert-dry British comic Richard Ayoade. Another crazy counselor named Terry (Rachel House) obsessively tracks all the souls with an abacus. As a mentor, Joe learns, his job is to help 22 find her spark, or a reason for living. All other aspects of a soul’s personality are predetermined. “I’m an agreeable skeptic who’s cautious yet flamboyant!,” says one. Another goes: “I’m a manipulative megalomaniac who’s intensely opportunistic!” I sound like a broken AirPod praising Pixar’s animation over and over again, but the studio keeps outdoing itself. In “Soul,” downtown New York in the fall is meticulously re-created. Joe plays at a club called the Half Note (the real one is gone), and its red awning and green front is a dead ringer for the Village Vanguard. And there’s a chase through the West Fourth Street train station. But “Soul” amounts to more than technical wizardry and intelligent dialogue. Why artists keep pounding the pavement despite never finding commercial success is a meaty topic. So is a reluctant teacher coming to realize that encouraging talent is his natural gift — one that few people have. Many adults will surely contemplate their own lives — and choices — as they watch from the couch. And, for the littlest viewers, there are fun, happy blobs.

Not my first concert, but I saw them at Radio City Music Hall w/ my sister in Sept. 1979 when I was 17. Came home from freshman year at Syracuse University to go. Saw her twice (Donna Summer, not the fun-killing nun) at the Felt Forum at Madison Square Garden & at the Forest Hills Tennis Stadium the week Hot Stuff & Bad Girls were both in the top-3 on the Billboard chart.

Taylor Swift’s cat pussy-themed Xmas card is a thing to behold Louisville public radio DJ Kyle Meredith released a snap of Taylor Swift’s Christmas card this year — no, we didn’t get one; and yes, we are shattered — and not only does it reference her most recent album, July’s “Folklore,” but it stars her cats Meredith Grey On no! her cat is suffering from covid!, Olivia Benson No Elliot Stabler? and Benjamin Button Will he be a kitten by next year?. “Wishing you a season of moments so wonderful, they become folklore,” the card reads. “Love, Taylor Swift and everyone at 13 Management.” The cats are suitably decked out in holiday gear that includes a Santa hat, scarf and glass of presumably festive spirits.

Nigella Lawson’s odd pronunciation of ‘microwave’ drives internet wild British chef Nigella Lawson’s lush accent is an attention-grabber on this side of the pond, but her affectation may have gotten a little extreme. In a clip from her BBC series “Nigella’s Cook, Eat, Repeat,” the celebrity chef and “Domestic Goddess” is seen preparing a dish that she proclaims needs “a bit of milk, full fat, which I’ve warmed in the microwave.” But in the video, posted on Twitter, she weirdly pronounces the kitchen appliance as “meek-ro-wah-vay,” seemingly rhyming it with the title of one-hit-wonder Gerardo’s 1990 dance song “Rico Suave.” “Eternally grateful to Nigella Lawson for letting us know we’ve all been mispronouncing microwave for the last 50 (or so) years,” wrote one tweeter of her playful pronunciation, as befuddled feedback boiled over on social media. “I feel embarrassed,” agreed one commenter, adding, “been pronouncing it wrong this whole time,” while another said they would “vow to never say it correctly ever again,” adding in a trio of crying-laughing emojis. One commenter simply confessed, “Why did I know she’d pronounce it this way? I do it for s–ts and giggles.” A fan offered that Lawson was “mucking about” and “mispronouncing words” on purpose and offered that they do it, too, saying, “In my world things can be hilariable and this is a large animal called a hippopoterous.” Another respondent also appreciated the way it sounded, writing, “I love this, we deliberately mispronounce words in our house all the time. Such fun” — to which Lawson herself replied, “We do, too. Exactly that.” Whether the cookbook author was just having some half-baked fun or did indeed have a verbal faux pas, it was hardly the biggest scandal that Lawson, 60, has stirred up. Just last month she offered fans a hilarious, two-step process for making buttered toast that would be “lovely and hot.” Things were even hotter in 2013 when she was forced to testify about her admitted drug use during the trial of two former aides accused of stealing from her and her ex-husband, Charles Saatchi.

A 19-year-old British apprentice fatally bludgeoned a 15-year-old schoolboy with a wrench after paying nearly $2,700 to stop him from reporting their “intimate” relationship to cops, prosecutors allege. Matthew Mason, an apprentice mechanic, allegedly lured Alex Rodda to a remote wooded area under the guise of meeting up for sex last December and then struck him at least 15 times with a long wrench, the Manchester Evening News reported. Rodda’s partially clothed body was found near the village of Ashley in Cheshire, England, on Dec. 13. Prosecutors said the boy had been involved in an ongoing intimate relationship with Mason, then 18, at the time of his death, the newspaper reported. Prosecutor Ian Unsworth told a judge Monday that Mason led Rodda to the woods “on the pretense of sexual activity” before murdering the boy in “cold blood,” BBC News reported. Weeks earlier, Rodda had reached out to Mason’s girlfriend and told her he had received “flirty” messages from her boyfriend, including an explicit video and photo, Unsworth said. Mason, who denies killing Rodda, also shot down allegations that he sent the boy explicit material, but the aspiring mechanic allegedly started making deposits in Rodda’s bank account, ultimately paying him $2,696, according to prosecutors. Rodda also told a friend Mason had been paying him for sex and threatened to go to cops if he stopped, which the teen’s pal said was wrong and amounted to “blackmail,” Unsworth said. Mason later allegedly complained in messages recovered by investigators that the payments were “cleaning him out,” the Chester Chronicle reported. Unsworth said the pair had sex on at least five occasions after connecting on Instagram, the Manchester Evening News reported. At one point, Rodda’s mother allegedly returned home and found her son “flustered” with Mason inside, according to the newspaper. “You may well think that Matthew Mason didn’t want Alex to tell anyone about their relationship,” Unsworth said in court Tuesday. “He manifestly made sure that Alex never could.” Mason’s trial, which adjourned for the day Tuesday, is expected to last several weeks. Admin Note: We do not permit posting images of minors on this site.

Brian O’Nora, an MLB umpire since 1999, was arrested over the weekend as part of a sex-sting operation in Ohio. O’Nora was one of 14 men arrested by a human trafficking task force in Liberty Township after allegedly soliciting a prostitute online. When reached by NJ Advance Media, a spokesperson for the Ohio attorney general said it was his “understanding” that the Brian O’Nora arrested was indeed the MLB umpire, who has been a part of three All-Stars games and the 2012 World Series. Here are the details on the arrest from the Ohio attorney general’s office: When Yahoo Sports reached out to MLB for comment on the story, a league official said, “We are aware of it and we have no comment.”

Is that pronounced "Yahtzee!" ?

I don't know what happened, but when I went to watch today's recording of THE REAL, it was just yesterday's show repeated. There are 2 stations that show the day's program the next day, so I have recordings set for 6AM and 5PM tomorrow. I think Garcelle's okay, though I preferred Tamera (only started watching last November). I find it annoying when the hosts start a topic with "I was reading an article..." when you know that usually means "This topic was brought up at our pre-show meeting..." but for some reason, it comes across as particularly phony when Garcelle "Jamie Foxx is hung like a horse" Beauvais says it. BTW, with COMING 2 AMERICA due out soon, the Wendy's that was used to film part of the original was torn down a few years ago to make way for an apartment building. http://onthesetofnewyork.com/locations/comingtoamerica/comingtoamerica159.jpg

2 questions: 1. What if your horse is named Imelda Marcos? 2. Shouldn't the It mounted up comment have been in the I LOVE A GOD PUN thread?

Anti-masker robs bank, naked face appears to have been caught on camera Oregon nurse who mocked masks and other coronavirus protocols on TikTok ‘no longer employed’ at hospital

Metropolitan Opera, hard-hit by revenue drain during pandemic, wants to cut employees’ pay, threatens lockout for balking stagehand union

Breakdancing to become Olympic Sport at 2024 Summer Games in Paris Just in time for the 40th anniversary of “Breakin’ 2: Electric Boogaloo,” the 2024 Summer Olympics in Paris are adding a new sport: breakdancing.

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Winston, because he made the justice system more fair: Massiah v. United States, 377 U.S. 201 (1964), was a case in which the Supreme Court of the United States held that the Sixth Amendment to the United States Constitution prohibits the government from eliciting statements from the defendant about themselves after the point that the Sixth Amendment right to counsel attaches. In Massiah, the defendant had been indicted on a federal narcotics charge. He retained a lawyer, pleaded not guilty, and was released on bail. A co-defendant, after deciding to cooperate with the government, invited Massiah to sit in his car and discuss the crime he was indicted on, during which the government listened in via a radio transmitter. During the conversation, Massiah made several incriminating statements, and those statements were introduced at trial to be used against him. Massiah appealed his conviction, which was affirmed in part by the Court of Appeals for the Second Circuit. The Supreme Court granted certiorari and reversed, holding that the statements made by the defendant outside the presence of his attorney must be suppressed. The Massiah rule applies to the use of testimonial evidence in criminal proceedings deliberately elicited by the police from a defendant after formal charges have been filed. The events that trigger the Sixth Amendment safeguards under Massiah are (1) the commencement of adversarial criminal proceedings and (2) deliberate elicitation of information from the defendant by governmental agents. The Sixth Amendment guarantees a defendant a right to counsel in all criminal prosecutions. The purposes of the Sixth Amendment right to counsel are to protect a defendant’s right to a fair trial and to assure that our adversarial system of justice functions properly by providing competent counsel as an advocate for the defendant in his contest against the “prosecutorial forces” of the state. The Sixth Amendment right “attaches” once the government has committed itself to the prosecution of the case by the initiation of adversarial judicial proceedings "by way of formal charge, preliminary hearing, indictment, information or arraignment,". Determining whether a particular event or proceeding constitutes the commencement of adversarial criminal proceedings requires both an examination of the rules of criminal procedure for the jurisdiction in which the crime is charged and the Supreme Courts cases dealing with the issue of when formal prosecution begins. Once adversarial criminal proceedings commence the right to counsel applies to all critical stages of the prosecution and investigation. A critical stage is "any stage of the prosecution, formal or informal, in court or out, where counsel's absence might derogate from the accused's right to a fair trial." Massiah vs. Miranda Constitutional Basis- Miranda is based on the Fifth Amendment right against self-incrimination. Massiah is based on the Sixth Amendment right to counsel. Attachment - Miranda: Custody + Interrogation. (Charging status irrelevant) Massiah: Formally Charged + Deliberate Elicitation. (Custodial status irrelevant) Scope Miranda applies to custodial interrogation by known governmental agents. Surreptitious acquisition of incriminating information allowed. Massiah applies to overt and surreptitious interrogation. Miranda is not offense specific. Massiah is offense specific. Miranda: interrogation + "functional equivalent." Massiah: interrogation + "deliberate elicitation." [*]Waiver: Both Miranda and Massiah rights may be waived. [*]Assertion: In each case, the assertion must be clear and unequivocal. The effects of assertion are not identical. For purposes of Miranda, the police must immediately cease the interrogation and cannot resume interrogating the defendant about any offense charged or uncharged unless counsel is present or defendant initiates contact for purposes of resuming interrogation and valid waiver obtained. Because Massiah is offense-specific, an assertion of the sixth amendment right to counsel requires the police to cease interrogating the defendant about any charged offense. Apparently the police could continue questioning the defendant about uncharged crimes assuming that the defendant was not in custody. The defendant's remedy would be to leave or to refuse to answer questions. [*]Remedy for violation: The statements and testimonial information are subject to suppression. Derivative evidence is usually not subject to suppression under Miranda pursuant to the "fruit of poisonous tree" doctrine, although it might be suppressed for a Massiah violation. Both Miranda and Massiah defective statements can be used for impeachment purposes.

DEAR ABBY: Because my husband and I work, I take our 6-month-old to a sitter several times a week. I understand little ones tend to be mean sometimes — hitting, biting and pushing — but in this case, it’s a little different. My sitter cares for her 3-year-old granddaughter as well as her clients’ children, and her granddaughter pushes the littler ones. I have seen her push a 1-year-old down. I have never observed any of the other children do it, only the granddaughter. I wouldn’t be so worried if my daughter were 2 and could defend herself, but she’s only 6 months old. She is crawling, sitting up and standing already (braggart), and I’m gravely worried the girl will harm my infant. I don’t want my baby ending up with a head injury. What can I do to try to resolve this? — DEEPLY CONCERNED IN THE SOUTH DEAR DEEPLY CONCERNED IDIOT: Talk to the sitter about your concerns. Ask if it is possible to keep the older girl separate from the younger ones, however, the only way to be absolutely certain your little one is safe would be to change babysitters. If you need somebody to tell you that you need to get a new babysitter, somebody must've given YOU brain damage when you were a baby. OR... have the granddaughter arrested for assault. DEAR ABBY: I made a friend on Facebook. “Drew” and I texted through Messenger, and I went to ride four-wheelers with him one day. We hit it off great. We started dating, and he moved in with me for a few months. In the beginning, Drew didn’t mention he was working only part time. After he told me he had been moved to part time, I told him he needed to tell his boss he needed full time or a different job. I wrote a comment to that effect on their page, and his boss texted me back saying Drew can work as much as he wants! He also said Drew hasn’t worked full time since he started working there. Well, Drew got mad at me and left. I still love him. I thought he was my soul mate. Should I keep wishing we could get back together? — FEELING LIFELESS DEAR FEELING LIFELESS IDIOT: No! In a sense, you were taken for a ride, and I’m not talking about four-wheelers. Your next soul mate should be someone who is completely honest and, preferably, fully employed. Drew is neither. Who the h-e-double hockey sticks do you think you are commenting on his workplace's page about his employment? Drew may be lazy, but you are a pushy manipulator. He is SO much better off without you. DEAR ABBY: I have been remarried for four years to a wonderful man who treats me like a queen. However, he and my 18-year-old daughter dislike each other, which causes a huge amount of stress and conflict. They fight, and I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t know what I can do to resolve this problem. I love them both with all my heart! — DESPERATE FOR PEACE DEAR DESPERATE IDIOT: I wish you had mentioned why your husband dislikes your daughter and vice versa. Is he overbearing and trying to parent her? That is YOUR job, not his. Your daughter is no longer 14. At 18, she is now considered to be an adult, and because the “combatants” are both adults, they should act like it, be civil and refrain from turning their disagreements into open warfare. Your mistake has been allowing yourself to be placed in the middle. A better solution would be to get family counseling if your daughter plans to continue to live with you. As my aunt Ann Landers used to say "wake up and smell the coffee." They are obviously having an affair, and are hoping the stress and conflict drive you to leave him, so they can be together.

Apparently, you don't watch THE REAL.

I don't think so. There seemed to be some discord with the 'mucky-mucks' that run the show.

Mario Lopez is a finger-lickin’ good Colonel Sanders in ‘Recipe’ movie What … the actual … cluck?! Sprinkled in with 11 secret herbs and spices, “Saved by the Bell” star Mario Lopez is serving up a big bucket of finger-lickin’ good lovin’ as none other than Kentucky Fried Chicken’s signature spokesman, Colonel Harland Sanders. Deep-fried by forbidden flames, sizzling hot and juicy Lopez — coiffed with the Colonel’s unmistakable silver comb-over and well-groomed goatee — steams up the small screen as a saucy chef with the hots for his evil, albeit well-to-do boss’ daughter in Lifetime’s original mini-movie “A Recipe for Seduction.” Turning up the heat with “mystery, suspense, deception, and ‘fowl’ play,” the 15-minute romance comes as a creative collaboration between KFC and Lifetime in an effort to gift consumers with the “perfect distraction” from all things 2020 this holiday season. And online lovers of Lopez, 47, are eating his sexy Sanders up! “LIFETIME IS RELEASING A HORNY KFC MOVIE STARRING MARIO LOPEZ AS COLONEL SANDERS I WILL NEVER RECOVER,” an enthused tweeter exclaimed on Twitter. “I don’t like KFC, Lifetime movies, or Mario Lopez, but together-magic. Thank you 2020!,”tweeted another. Colonel Sanders’ Southern-gent swag was previously remixed toward sex god vibes for Mother’s Day in 2017, when KFC released the romantic novella “Tender Wings of Desire,”starring the fried chicken joint’s mustached mascot as a muscle-bound lover boy. Lopez as Colonel Sanders in “A Recipe For Seduction” premieres Sunday, Dec. 13, at 12 p.m. ET/PT on Lifetime.