Jay DC

I had the chance to meet him a couple of times. I had a provider cancel an appointment we had scheduled for later that night. I texted Rian but he was booked that evening. A couple of hours later he texted me to say his appointment canceled. I explained that I don't participate in the party scene and wouldn't be comfortable with someone using in my presence. He had no issue and we set a time a few hours later. He showed up on time with no signs that he was on anything. He was clean, smelled great and was very sexy. I only booked an hour but I asked asked if I could extend his time at the same rate and he stayed another two. He was a charmer. In the hundreds of appointments I have booked over the years, I have always avoided anyone who listed PnP in their ad but this was a very positive encounter. I later saw he had mixed notes on Mr. Number but my experience was stellar.

I met him several years ago but not in Vegas. He’s updated his pictures because he had younger pix. Great fun, punctual, good communication. Worth an hour. The younger version in the vid. https://thegay.com/videos/154999/muscle-hunk-tully-fingers-his-tight-ass/

At a charity auction I bought a “mystery” gift basket that had in it 25 Starbucks gift cards each worth $25 . In addition to a cash tip, I give everyone a gift card and I get such positive feedback. They can be used all across the country (but oddly not at most airport Starbucks). I once got a text from a provider eight months after we met saying he just found the card in the pocket of his backpack and wanted to say thanks. It was impressive that he remembered who had given him the card, and connected it to the right number. I think it is important to tip. I tip electricians, plumbers, housekeepers, the guys who delivered my new refrigerator—basically anyone who comes to my home to provide some service for me. They are experts at things I’m no good at and that certainly is true for the providers I hire. Obviously if the service is subpar I don’t tip. I’ve been stood up by more drywallers, carpet cleaners and cable installers than I care to remember so I try to give a little extra to those who do honor their commitments. And If the person I hired to walk my dog after I had foot surgery gets a tip, then these guys deserve a tip. And because I use electronic payments I want to be sure I’ve covered any fees they incur from using e-payments so I include that in the cash tip as well. Invest in a handful of gift cards to give with a cash tip. It’s the smallest value of the transaction but seems to be genuinely appreciated.

Leave the poor boy alone. Don’t reach out to apologize. He’s got better shit to do rather than reading your texts. And what’s the end game? You want him to know you have nice manners? How much time of his do you need to consume? Chalk it up to a learning experience and move on. You both will have a little more time to plan your next adventures.

It was 122 degrees when I was in Palm Springs recently. When my provider left his hotel for my place he was freshly showered and thought he was good to go. His hotel was only two miles away but when he arrived, he was so sweaty and hot that he asked if he could rinse off. It wouldn’t have bothered me but it made him self conscious and he apologized. I told him not to worry and welcome to the desert. And if you’ve ridden the subway in nyc or dc in august, you might be asking for a shower too. It’s only a few minutes and if it makes someone feel a little more comfortable, what’s the harm?

I also try to be very clear about my expectations upfront, in fact I include what I'm looking for in my first message—not in a vulgar, hyper-sexulized way. But I'm very clear about what I'm looking for, where and when and I include my brief stats. All in the first message. If they respond positively, I ask their rate and I either accept it or move on—i don't haggle price and don't usually book if they come back with a lower rate—sets the wrong tone for me and I don't want them to feel they are spending time with a cheapskate. This is where I have occasionally gotten someone who says that the rate is a session rate and not an hourly fee and that sessions can last a couple of hours. I have booked that kind of appointment. I try to get everything booked in three texts or less with an additional confirmation text the afternoon of the scheduled appointment.I only top and I’ve had a few providers decline an appointment because they aren’t feeling the bottom role. I also don’t party and used to never hire anyone who had pnp in thier ad. I’ve loosened up a bit and have hired a few who do list pnp. I’m clear that I don’t and don’t want anyone using drugs or smoking around me(even though I use cialis). And I’ve had a few decline an appointment because they are doing the party thing and don’t want to chill with a buzzkill like me. I appreciate the honesty and professionalism of those who declined. In a couple of cases, a potential provider has quoted a price and then increased the quote after rereading my message (i.e., to bareback bottom is an additional cost, etc.), but these have been part of the initial conversation. Better than trying to piecemeal an appointment. I never have had someone try to upcharge during the appointment. I get yelled every time I say this but I also pay upfront—every time—especially if I am doing some form of electronic payment. I even include a modest tip that I may increase after the appointment. I'm always concerned I'm going to mess up the technology or miscount the cash and don't want to be “that client”. I've never had an issue or been cheated by paying upfront. If I ever get burned, I may change my paying upfront practice but until then it works for me and I like that it's not hanging over our heads. My point about paying upfront is that it may shut down any talk of “extra fees” or add-ons during the session. I have had providers warn me that we are getting close to our booked amount of time and ask if I would like another hour. But they should do that and I have no issue with that and if I'm having a good time, I usually stop for a minute and pay that time upfront also. If I'm not having a great time, I say “I wish I could but I can't tonight” with no further explanation. And I make sure we finish in the original time we booked. I don't usually care if the provider cums or not but if it is something I am looking for in that particular session, I spell it out in my initial message. I've never had someone ask for more $ to finish and I would decline because I usually don't care. And there have been a few times when I have requested it and they couldn't get there. It happens and I'd never ask for money back or expect a discount. In fact, one of the biggest tips I ever gave was to a gentlemen who tried and tried, he pummeled himself until he got a hand cramp-he was working with super-sized meat. I told him it was okay but he tried for a bit longer and even though he never got there, he worked hard and genuinely tried. A+ for effort. I suppose if someone bailed on the majority of my expectations, I would feel cheated and be sorry that I already paid them, but I'll cross that bridge if I ever get there. I feel I have occasionally overpaid, but I've also ended up with great times that felt like a bargain-it evens out. Most of my pals who feel cheated or massively disappointed with certain providers can often trace their disappointment to their inability to ask for what they want upfront. Just because their ad says they do “xyz” doesn't guarantee it. Confirm it up front. They may do it but aren't that night because they have a sunburn, sore back or any number of legitimate issues. And I know there are providers who overcommit and underperform, can't get hard, ask for more money, seem shifty, drugged out or just don't seem to have a good time and spoil your investment. That's part of the dance. Unless there is intentional deception, crime or violence that should be felt with, chalk it up to a learning experience. There are a lot more awesome providers than there are duds. Another way too long post that could be summed up quickly by just saying that the client needs to be very clear upfront, agree on the rate (and don't budge) and have a good time. Even if it doesn't meet your full expectation, you got to hang out with a hot naked dude.

I offer an Uber up front so I don’t know how many would have requested it. Parking is tricky in my condo complex. I buzz visitors in at the main gate but our security guard is located by the guest parking. The security person can ask the visitor who they are here to see and request to see ID so they can record the information in a visitor log. I then need to walk over to guest parking to give the visitor a parking pass or the visitor can get it at my front door and run back to put it in his car and walk back to my place. A car can be towed without a visible parking pass. It’s a tedious process and not every visitor wants to engage with a security person. Plus the visitor has to provide my full name and address. With Uber, a visitor is dropped at my front door-no questions asked. If you’re not parking, no security interaction. I just have to give the visitor my first name for pick up. It’s easier all around to use Uber. There is minimal public transportation in my city and none after dark. I’m retired now so discretion is no longer a top priority and using Uber makes my life easier so I should be paying for it. And I’m not sure I agree that requesting an Uber is a sign of laziness, entitlement or the decline of western civilization. If someone’s request of an Uber is so offensive, just move on rather than use energy to be indignant or calculating the number of nickels and dimes that need to be deducted especially if you read the request as a scammer or addict’s ploy to get the best of you. That energy is better used once a provider you feel comfortable with gets to your place. Most providers I hire are visiting my city and appreciate the offer. It takes a bit of a leap of faith on the provider’s part that I’ll actually get the Uber for the return trip. That said, most decline the offer of an Uber. Plus a potential Uber benefit are the stories I hear of hot Uber drivers and how spontaneous group action can occur—but my drivers seem to always be exhausted single mothers. I have noticed that since I have been making these offers, my rider rating on Uber has slipped half a point and I occasionally get charged a waiting fee. I can live with that.

I’m going to sound like a really old person, but I give the graduate an engraved pen with their initials. For high school, I do the gold plated Cross pen (about $150). For college I do an engraved Montblanc (not the crazy expensive ones). No one really writes anymore but it feels sort of scholarly. I know they would rather have cash, and a pen is the equivalent of socks for Christmas, but hopefully these might be a keepsake that reminds them of their academic accomplishment. I always get a thank you note that they say is written with the very pen so I know it gets used once.

I have always approached r/m reviews with a grain of salt. The odd questions they ask reveal little about an actual encounter. I was excited to figure out how to read the narrative part but found the overwhelming number of cloying accounts not to be very helpful either—“I never knew what love was until I met xyz”. Lots of reviews also don’t necessarily equal lots of insight. I was looking at someone who had many reviews but there were 22 (yes I counted) from the same person. Many reviews but, as it turns out, only from three different people. I do look at who leaves reviews because there are a few who I know and a few whose narratives are genuinely insightful. If they endorse a provider then I’m good to go. I also do a search here to see if they have been discussed and that has been more helpful. I’ve had a great time with providers with no reviews but I do tend to book those with at least one review. I’m also a little relieved not to be able to leave reviews on r/m any more. I once had a client of a provider reach out to me demanding I compensate him for a bad appointment he had with someone I had reviewed well. He said if it hadn’t been for my review he would not have booked the appointment. And another time, I gave a four star review and then had some guy reached out to me demanding I retract my review, apologize and not slander the provider who “is the best that’s ever been”. He sent me a questionnaire he wanted me to fill out so that he and the provider’s other fans could see where I went wrong. And if I didn’t comply, I’d pay the price. This wasn’t from the provider. It felt like someone trying to curry favor with the provider. On a four-star review! I contacted r/m and they shut down his account. reviews can be a good resource but they can’t determine chemistry. And just because I had a great time with a provider doesn’t mean everyone will. I put more stock in what a potential provider has written in his profile and how he communicates. I try to be very clear about what I’m looking for, where and when-all in the first message. I’m serious about hiring and don’t use the communication as part of the decision making process. They don’t have to interview for my position. Although I’m a talker, I try to get an appointment booked in three texts or less using as few words as possible. These guys are busy and don’t need lots of questions from me spread out over dozens of texts or email. Having said that, there have been a few times where the communication has steered me away from someone. I just tell them my plans have changed and apologize for wasting their time. I’ve only gotten a few negative responses back but I can live with being called a flake if it doesn’t feel right. I sometimes get questions from them but they have to do their due diligence also so I don’t mind. And while I’m glad not to leave reviews, I would feel obligated to get the word out if I ever felt threatened, cheated or unsafe with a provider. I’m lucky that has never been the case.

I think you’re probably right but I give a little more latitude. Once when flying cross country, I realized at the airport that I had left my laptop and iPad at home. On my phone, I reached out to a couple of providers asking if they had availability in the next few days. I explained I was traveling and would check back when I arrived at my hotel. Traveling to the hotel, I left both my personal and professional phones in the taxi never to be seen again. I was like an Amish girl trying to survive in the big city. And the provider’s never heard back from me. Shit happens and we all have moments that don’t show us at our best. I’ve never been such a doofus before or after that trip but nobody’s perfect and a little compassion never hurts.

I don’t often look for quick availability but have done so on occasion-usually when a flight cancelled or business required me to stay an extra day or two while traveling. When I got up those mornings I didn’t realize I was going to have availability and, of course, had not made any inquiries. I’m probably going to get chastised for admitting this, but in these last minute requests, I usually send out identical inquiries to 2 or 3 different providers (marked as Available Now). It is rare that I get two quick responses. In the first hour, I usually get one. If I book that appointment, I respond immediately to later responders by apologizing and admitting I jumped the gun and am not available after all. The second response is usually 4 or 5 hours later, which is reasonable but didn’t fit my time frame. There is always one who doesn’t respond. I have gotten some criticism from the ones who responded but didn’t get booked. Called a time waster or flake or alleged that I jerked off and had no intention of booking. I’m sure I’ve been a flake and God knows I jerk off but it seems a little harsh to me for a single text I sent hours earlier and a single text they sent. But I can’t imagine how few inquiries convert into appointments. And it must be maddening to get inundated with repeated messages and questions from a single person that leads nowhere. That’s why I only send one message to each person and respond the second I get a response from them. I suppose it would be more honorable to make one inquiry and wait for the response before moving to the next candidate. But honestly if I did that I wouldn’t book half of the last minute appointments I’ve had. And they have been some of the best. There have been a very few times when someone responded very quickly and said, “Send me the address, I’ll be there in 15 minutes”. I’ve had to ask for more time so I can get my act together and occasionally they’ve been irked and told me to forget it. Good thing I had a back up. I apologize to those whose time I’ve wasted and I don’t hold a grudge to those who never responded. I know I’m just looking for fun and that it’s the provider’s livelihood but life happens, let’s give each other a break.

I agree that there is no right or wrong answer. If you object to deposits, don’t do them. I have done a few over the years-maybe five out of a few hundred. And I have offered the deposit. I’m less inclined to consider one if it’s demanded. Never say never but I’d rather tip a little more rather than submit a deposit. I usually do one so the person can arrange Uber or other transportation to come see me. I offer to send a car but some people feel better making their own arrangements. I never had an issue or regretted doing the few deposits I’ve done. I also am in the minority because if I’m doing an electronic payment, I like to do it as soon as they arrive. Most providers are aghast and try to assure me that we can settle up at the end. I’m always concerned I’m going to mess it up so I feel better doing it upfront. And a couple of times I have messed it up (usually by not realizing my bank sent a fraud alert and I didn’t respond in time). The bank locked my card and I had to walk with the provider to an ATM to get old fashioned cash. Since I’ve retired, I no longer worry so much about a paper trail and I’ve never been one to carry cash so I like electronic payments. Plus it’s easier to tip or pay to extend our time. And I was the one who was aghast when I learned some electronic apps withhold hefty fees from the payment for using their service. If paying electronically, always add the fee payment on top of the agreed rate. The provider shouldn’t get short changed because I’m too lazy to go to the bank. I’ve never had an issue with prepaying. I understand there’s some risk, but it’s right for me. I get it if it’s not right for others and I’d never judge them just like I shouldn’t be judged for usually refusing deposits and paying my providers upfront. I’m sure when I get burned by my habit of prepaying, I’ll be singing a different tune but life is full of risks. Choose the ones you can live with and let me choose mine.

Great guy. Always reliable when I met him.

A little more generosity of spirit might be called for. Even though I traveled extensively for work, I never developed a sense of direction. I compensated by trying to overprepare, triple check my routes and get my shit together before heading out. But life happens. When I lived in Washington DC, I left for an appointment at the provider’s hotel. Left in plenty of time, should have been able to park and still have 20 minutes to spare. As it turns out, there was a state dinner and many motorcades and processionals closed many routes and I couldn’t move for 45 minutes. Of course it was my fault, I didn’t think to check and see if the Queen of England was cruising around the capital. My provider was very understanding and I tipped well to apologize. Life is hard sometimes. If your so busy that you can’t find compassion for someone running late, maybe find another hobby.

A charmer. Be clear what you’re looking for and he’ll deliver.

I have two very close friends (one straight, one gay) who I have spoken with about my pro friends. I’ve known both for 25+ years and trust them completely. When I first started hiring, I used to let one of them know where I was going because I was inexperienced in hiring and was sure I was going to get murdered or lose a kidney. At least my friend could give the info to the police if I was never heard from again. After my first few hires, l realized almost all the pros I met were trustworthy and ethical, more so than some of the “civilian” friends I’ve met. My friends never judged me and understood that my hiring was part of a journey for me. Plus I sometimes travel with these friends (separately) and they now understand if I make private plans for an hour or two-it’s nice not having to lie or sneak around One friend wanted to try hiring based on my outstanding experiences. Even though we live 2,000 miles apart, this is now another shared interest we have. Having a friend to discuss it with is fun and sort of liberating in a way. If it’s the right friend, it’s good to have someone to confide in and learn from each other’s experiences. But, since my hobby may have elements that could be construed as illegal by some people, there is a trust issue about sharing the info with just anyone. I retired early but if I wanted some kind of job, I wouldn’t want a reputation as someone who pursues illegal activities. Law enforcement seem mainly concerned with human trafficking/exploitation (rightly so) but don’t seem to care much about m4m companionship unless a network of hard drugs or physical abuse are part of the picture. After the rentboy raid, I wondered if there would be a crackdown on exchanging money for time, but I haven’t seen it. If only consenting adults in a private location without any drugs are participating and I called law enforcement to report a suspected prostitution crime, I think they’d tell me to mind my own business. All these words to say I think a trusted friend or two to share with is good and can be a safety net but only sharing with a very limited of people is the judicious way to go.

I had a great time with a provider in LA once and afterwards we were chatting about some renovations I was planning for my home. He said he had done something similar once. He got his phone out and pulled up pictures of the project (which was well done). He handed me his phone and said I could scroll through because he kept any Indiscreet photos in a locked file that needed both a passcode and a fingerprint to open. Of course as I was looking at the project up popped a pic of a very high-profile actor, totally naked, clearly high and sporting a respectable semi-erection. I handed the phone to him letting him know he had a stray pic. He was genuinely horrified. He had signed an NDA and all electronic devices were collected upon arrival by the actor’s security detail — so it begged the question to me how had his locked phone file and the security detail both fail? Turns out he had visited several times and as he was leaving after the 6th or 7th visit, the actor allowed the pic to be taken after security had returned the electronics to the escort. the actor walked the escort to the door and security was none the wiser that a pic had even been taken-good judgement is not always this actor’s claim to fame. The provider said he intentionally did not put the picture in the secure file because people always want to look there and rather than risk it, he buried in the one file he was sure no one would ever want to look at—only I’m nerdy enough to ask to see this hot studly escort’s shade structure. And that’s not a euphemism. I also mentioned to him that NDA’s can be hard to enforce but his lawyer said it’s a moot point because this actor has the resources to keep the issue tied up in the court system for years The agreement also called for the provider to put a ridiculous amount of money in escrow in the event the court rules in the actor’s favor and it would be returned if the court ruled in the provider’s favor. And the escort was responsible for both sides legal fees. If the agreement fails in court (and they almost always fail) it would run up big legal bills, open the provider up for prosecution of any illegal activities, alert the whole world (including his mom) about his professional activities and consume so much energy that the provider loses no matter the legality. Whether it’s enforceable or not doesn’t matter. Look how much it’s been debated in this thread with nothing at stake. And this guy took it seriously and pleaded with me not to ever reveal the actor’s name. He said I didn’t have to pay for our session as a token of his appreciation I told him to keep the money as a token of my respect (and the provider was awesome). I told him if he wanted me to sign an NDA, I would. He finally laughed and felt better. I have told this story before but not the actor’s name. The provider moved from LA to someplace I can’t remember and I’ve never connected with him again, although I would if the timing ever worked out—and if he’s even still in the business. It’s really integrity that should drive the conversation, not legality. If you sign your name promising to do or not do something—mean it—or you’re just a liar. This escort meant it and I respect him for it. And beyond the enforceable or not enforceable document, this provider had earned the actor’s trust and friendship and wasn’t going to betray him

If I’m using any type of e-payment (cash app, etc.), I ask to pay up front in case there is any issue. I’ve had network issues and issues with any particular site being down for maintenance. And a surprising number of providers who can’t remember their login for the payment. I don’t use epayments very often, cash is still king. But if I do, I feel better not wondering if everything is going to be okay. I’ve never had an issue or regret. I can’t remember if I have ever been asked for money up front—seems sort of tacky.

I think it’s bad form not to pay the full price. I’ve said before that if I go see a well-reviewed movie and am disappointed or dislike the experience, I don’t demand that Steven Spielberg or Meryl Streep cough up a refund. And for what I’ve paid to see lousy Broadway shows, I could have funded a much better time with a provider. And providers have to deal with so many flakes who waste their time and energy that always paying the agreed upon fee is the right thing to do, even if we are dissatisfied. And it makes us all look a little better. Plus I still feel guilty that many years ago I met an obliging fellow at Stella’s in NYC. We stopped at the atm walking back to my hotel where I placed the money on the dresser. When I was packing to check out the next morning, I found $40 on the floor behind the dresser. To this day, it pains me that there is a great guy out there who thinks I’m a lying cheap-ass cheat. No cells phones then, no email, I had no way to find him. I suppose if I had ever been in a dangerous situation or felt threatened, I might feel differently about that isolated incident, but fortunately I never been anywhere close to that kind of experience. And I treat my expenditures like I do playing at casinos-I decide how much I want to play and stop when I hit that limit. When or lose, I had a good time and don’t demand a partial refund because blackjack took all my money. I hope no one is overspending what they can afford or deliberately trying to short change the provider. That’s just tacky and a bad path to take. And if we feel entitled to withhold payment for service we deem substandard, then providers should feel to ask for more when we are late or rude or spent hours asking a million bullshit questions or were too drunk to string together a complete thought or unhygienic or just plain obnoxious. I know I’m over the top on this, but follow through on your commitment and honor your word-even when it’s hard or feels unfair. Especially if it’s hard or feels unfair. Don’t be a cheapskate like I was.

I remember the moon landing and MLK shooting. I also remember when Judy garland died (which speaks volumes). It wasn’t actually Judy I remember but a television announcer who said that Dorothy died. I was my dad’s television remote before the corded remote became an option. I remember looking at my older brother’s Playboys that he tried to hide. Little Annie Fannie anyone? One issue had a picture of a full frontal nude Harry Reems of Deep Throat fame. It was the first non family man I saw naked. I realized then that the world might be a little different than I had previously imagined. Mark Spitz confirmed that feeling-or it might have been vice versa. Imagine what happened when I saw my first After Dark and PlayGirl magazines. And the bicentennial seemed to consume 1976 with Betty Ford doing the last bicentennial minute. There was literally a line around a city block to see Barbra’s A Star is Born. Saturday night was All in the Family, Bob Newhart, Mary Tyler Moore and Carol Burnett. There must have been another show but I don’t remember it. Saturday was the only day we watched television—cartoons in the morning, and then little league and the library took up the day. Diary Queen was in between the field and the library— heaven on earth. Although the kids in my family only got to watch TV on Saturday it seemed like my parents always watched it. In high school, swim team practice started in the nude because we began so God awful early, way before the sun came up, and no one was there to unlock the laundry room. Laps were naked but the assistant coach retrieved the bundle of micro suits that we wore for the rest of practice. They seemed to accentuate the big dicks that some lucky boys sported. Coach threw the suits at us in the water because we had to put them on before the girl’s joined us in the pool. They had shorter practice and seemed to use only a tiny part of the pool which may be why I remember title ix emerging. I took a royal manuel typewriter to college. I constantly used the card catalog so I could type my papers. My junior year I got an IBM selectric typewriter with a black ribbon AND a correction ribbon. I was convinced that technology could go no further. I took a computer programming class, but it was keypunch card, garbage in/garbage out process and you had to learn two numerical languages. I was unimpressed and predicted computers would never catch on. I could have bought Apple early on. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Funny that the topic was what was I old enough to remember and I took myself through college. Some people, they just cant follow directions.

I remember the moon landing and MLK shooting. I also remember when Judy garland died (which speaks volumes). It wasn’t actually Judy I remember but a television announcer who said that Dorothy died. I was my dad’s television remote before the corded remote became an option. I remember looking at my older brother’s Playboys that he tried to hide. Little Annie Fannie anyone? One issue had a picture of a full frontal nude Harry Reems of Deep Throat fame. It was the first non family man I saw naked. I realized then that the world might be a little different than I had previously imagined. Mark Spitz confirmed that feeling-or it might have been vice versa. Imagine what happened when I saw my first After Dark and PlayGirl magazines. And the bicentennial seemed to consume 1976 with Betty Ford doing the last bicentennial minute. There was literally a line around a city block to see Barbra’s A Star is Born. Saturday night was All in the Family, Bob Newhart, Mary Tyler Moore and Carol Burnett. There must have been another show but I don’t remember it. Saturday was the only day we watched television—cartoons in the morning, and then little league and the library took up the day. Diary Queen was in between the field and the library— heaven on earth. Although the kids in my family only got to watch TV on Saturday it seemed like my parents always watched it. In high school, swim team practice started in the nude because we began so God awful early, way before the sun came up, and no one was there to unlock the laundry room. Laps were naked but the assistant coach retrieved the bundle of micro suits that we wore for the rest of practice. They seemed to accentuate the big dicks that some lucky boys sported. Coach threw the suits at us in the water because we had to put them on before the girl’s joined us in the pool. They had shorter practice and seemed to use only a tiny part of the pool which may be why I remember title ix emerging. I took a royal manuel typewriter to college. I constantly used the card catalog so I could type my papers. My junior year I got an IBM selectric typewriter with a black ribbon AND a correction ribbon. I was convinced that technology could go no further. I took a computer programming class, but it was keypunch card, garbage in/garbage out process and you had to learn two numerical languages. I was unimpressed and predicted computers would never catch on. I could have bought Apple early on. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Funny that the topic was what was I old enough to remember and I took myself through college. Some people, they just cant follow directions.

I love that you can take meat from the freezer directly to the insta pot. It adds a few minutes to the cook time, but not defrosting needed.

I posted this before so the repeat is not senility, I just love telling the story. When I was in Tucson several years ago, I hired a provider to join me in my hotel room. The next morning, I ordered Uber for a ride to the airport and it was the same guy. Not many providers or Uber drivers back then but he was equally adept at both. And once in Sacramento, I asked the hotel concierge where I could buy a disposable razor. He was helping someone else and said he’d call me as soon as he finished with them. About 20 minutes later there as a knock on my door and he was there with a razor. i asked him in so I could get a tip and he saw the adult all-male website on my computer screen. He said he was off in an hour and for 50 bucks we could play with his giant cock. And we did.

And I know I sound like a pious Pollyanna. Love me despite my failings.

I’ve learned so much. These gentlemen helped me vision what the next phase of my life was going to look like. After leaving a long time marriage that was totally monogamous I knew the future was going to be unlike my past. I’ve been so impressed how my providers take pride in their work and want to do a good job. It made sex fun, exciting and liberating—no shame, no apologies. They reminded me the value of clear, concise communication and to be comfortable in my own skin. In addition to their obvious physical attributes, it’s their generosity of spirit that proved revelatory. They made me feel like I am good at the physical part (and I know better) but more importantly they made me feel I was good at the human being part. Its now been dozens and dozens of hires over the years and while they weren’t all home runs, I don’t regret any (maybe one). I used to marvel what it would be like to have a job where everyone is glad to see you because I’m always glad to see them. They have earned my respect and gratitude.