Cyd_StVincent

What I'm saying is that homeless people are already treated as if they are junkies who are trying to live life for free on someone elses dime, regardless of if they use or they are a teetotaler (and yes they do exist) . The life of a homeless person is, as I am sure you know, is more complicated than that. Most people who use substances excessively don't do it for 'fun' they do it to cope, not saying its a healthy strategy but its a strategy, when you are treated like trash from the get go its hard to resist doing something to dull the feeling of being humiliated and so the cycle begins. I'm not invested in getting anyone to give money to homeless people. Its your money - you do what you want with it. But the assumptions that people are making about an experience that nobody seems to have had first hand make me a little sad for what I had seen as a pretty open minded group.

I worked at a clinic with homeless clients. Yes people sometimes buy drugs - sometimes in the task of staying awake during the night so they don't get raped, beaten up, get their shit stolen because sleeping outdoors is very dangerous for everyone. Against popular train of thought drugs are very rarely the REASON someone is homeless however. Many were kicked out of home as young LGBT people or escaped abusive parenting or fostering, some are adults with low literacy and or mental health conditions that make it difficult to obtain or keep work, others are people who did jail time and because of discrimination are unable to find employment so its either going back to selling drugs or homelessness, and finally sometimes a health issue or a major financial or emotional setback (wrecking your car that you run your business out of, your house burning down, loosing your partner or parent) is what makes people homeless. I think people see the world from their eyes and can't imagine something like that happening to them, but thats because they have a safety net that not every has. I give money to people every day, sometimes if I've had a well paying session I'll give 20 dollars to someone. Yes, obviously I have my preferences and biases of who I give to but I try to do it without judgement of what I think they should buy with it, because they, not I, know what they need to do to survive. Also I would ask - how many people here smoke weed, drink, do cocaine or other drugs, smoke a lot, spend your money on sex workers? What makes your vices sanctified and another persons disgusting? I think we all have a self protective narrative about pulling yourself up from your bootstraps - and the reality is that is a lot harder for some people to do because of the circumstances of their life than others. And a lot of people don't particularly want to be sober while being looked at/talked to/spit on like useless failure every day, can you blame them?

I do porn because I'm an exhibitionist, and also since I mostly do porn which provides me long term dividents - its a form of income for when escorting might go dry or I don't have time. I worry about its impact on my escorting though because some of the porn I do is stuff I wouldn't do with a client or is pretty kink heavy and I worry it might turn off potential clients. Especially around bareback scenes which I do with a trusted lover, or with professionals who can prove they have tested negative in the last two weeks, and I get tested a week after a shoot every time - but how are client to know that? For that reason I'm thinking of switching to covered only.

Hey! Sorry I just got your message. I am going to share some thoughts here because I'm sure there might be other lurkers and it could be useful for posterities sake. I think people have shared really good general advice and support here, which I would absolutely agree with. I'm going to go into the specificities of things that may or may not be relevant to your situation. In my tone I want to be encouraging but also realistic, so hopefully that comes across I've been an FTM escort for what I imagine is longer than most on here, I transitioned on the job as it were in 2010. When I was earlier on in my transition the market for gay men interested in a man with a gender ambiguous body wasn't very big and so I worked as a woman until hormones made it too awkward to do that, and I got top surgery soon after. Now, times have changed. I think as a whole cis gay men are much more interested in people with different types of bodies, including trans bodies, now. Now, I'm not going to make any assumptions about what you look like (although your headshot is super cute) but since you said you don't always pass, I'm going to give advice kind of in response to that How you want to advertise yourself has totally to do with the following things: The amount of clients you want to see The cultural literacy in the region you live in (do people know what trans is?) What your body looks like and how you present yourself Your comfort with how you like your body touched, referred to, safe sex practices Cis women, including butchy tomboy gender weirdo cis women generally see more clients than trans guys, at a higher rate and with more ability to navigate boundaries. If it is not the situation that you can either pass as female or you don't want to, marketing will be more difficult - but as you've seen from the friendliness you've received here there will absolutely be gay and bi men who are excited to hire you, but the pool will be smaller and the rate you can charge might be lower as well. If you are doing sex work to try it out or to have side money to support yourself through transition thats totally fine though - there are free or cheaper sites you can advertise on (hourboy, craigslist dating, backpage) and you can put up an ad and wait for the perfect person to come to you. I do feel like rentmen is also the site that has brought me the best, most trans competent, clients although it costs more. I honestly suggest to people new to the sex industry that they try different types of work before going to escorting, especially trans people. There are a lot of power dynamics that arise during sessions, especially when you are new and anxious about doing well - and while some people will be kind to you others may take advantage of any nervousness about maintaining boundaries. Getting used to the practice of engaging with strangers sexually for pay through something that inherently restricts physical connection can be a good way to learn how to communicate firmly and welcomingly. Sometimes trans guys approach me with the assumption that once you open up shop the crowds come rushing in. Unfortunately that isn't true. As a trans guy whose pretty well established in the porn industry, with regulars, living in NYC it still takes me continuous work and marketing to find the clientele I need to have it be my only, comfortable form of income. Don't quit your day job until you really have a groove, sex work can be amazing fun and wonderful but when you are doing it because you are dead ass broke it is much less likely to be any of those things. For trans people sex work can be a landmine of both validation and insecurity. Doing sex work through transition gave me some really deeply healing experiences and relationships that made me as confident as I am today. I also fretted over other people getting more clients, felt (and feel) jealous when I look at other peoples bodies, had clients say some really wacky shit that haunted me for a long time. It is important to develop a habit of validating yourself and approving of your body outside of the sex industry, because if you exist only at its whims its gonna hurt. Good luck and if you have any specific questions please let me know. This forum is a great place to learn and make relationships with some solid people, I'm glad you are here.

You don't feel like switching streams mid moment? The reason many of my clips are 5 minutes or less is because most are shot either by me or by the person fucking me and more than 5 minutes is a long time to multitask like that. For more professional clips, the cost of making them isn't really worth how much you end up getting paid - OnlyFans tends to be more of a quantity over quality game. I'm doing some shoots this coming week and I'm planning to get a videographer. I'll probably put all of the content up on OnlyFans but also put it on a clip site as well.

I mean yes lol. Also though, I don't know many people under 30 who have the disposable income to spend on an escort, although I've definitely had some young (sometimes younger than me) clients.

I'm happy to spend the full time with a client - sometimes its hard to tell if after they have come if they want me to continue to share time and talk and hang out or they'd rather I go about my business 10-15 minutes early. If you are having people bolt then maybe make sure you are communicating that you want them to stay, they might be being a clock watcher or they might simply be assuming you want space.

Hmm I think there is a lot of variety in how people make them. Some people are making many super short videos a day and others put up longer ones less frequently. Most of my videos are 2-6 minutes long - not long enough to release as a full video for sure but long enough for most people to use in the way god intended

When I was 14 with a childhood best friend in his little sisters playhouse next to a life-size cardboard cut out of the 'Lil Rascals

I think its awesome - I'm not going to get paid to make the porn I want to by many studios through Onlyfans I can film whatever I want with whoever I want. Its made my sex life a lot more interesting and I think I'm making pretty great content if I do say so myself, without charging a huge amount for it and get 80% of the profits, and the cut is totally worth it for not making a website and doing all credit card processing BS. I think sites like OnlyFans will be the future, except not OnlyFans because they don't require proof of age and that shit is gonna get them shut down soon¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I assume most clients cancel because they jerk off and then the mood is gone. If it was something that I did that is addressable, rather than a trait of mine that is innate, I'd like to know so I can be sure I'm presenting myself well.

I'm always so excited when I get guys into fisting - both ways - it's one of my favorite forms of sex. I've had some really amazing moments with clients during these sessions. I'll just say, once you feel someones heartbeat at the tips of your fingers you don't soon forget that time with them.

I love all these photos! I am especially so so into the ones posted by @Moondance <3

Condoms, PrEP, serosorting, conversations, taking anonymous bareback loads - they all have their place and what risk you decide works for you in your life (because there is no such thing as no risk) is great. However, as someone who worked in an STD clinic for a long time, I think the idea of HIV being the only STI that 'counts' is a short sighted one. This is not the 70's and the antibiotic arsenal is not what it once was. While gonnorhea is much less likely to kill you, having it for life or having to go to the hospital to get it cured - which is a very likely soon future - is something I don't take lightly and therefore act accordingly. I hate people who shame other for their well informed choices, I just wish I felt like more people were better informed.