Cyd_StVincent

I totally wish you could do that, I'd be one of your boys! A long long time ago I worked as a stripper (in a different life) and always enjoyed the atmosphere of working with others. That is the one thing about escorting, it can be lonely - I imagine thats why many of us spend so much time on here. I wish I could work at a brothel or with an agency.

Part of the enjoyment of escorting is the chance for both parties to leave the selves that they inhabit outside that door. Thats the joy of the flirt, I tell people true things about me but not the things they would find from my personal facebook page. The me thats on my facebook page might not be the kind of person that gels well with an investment banker or a business administrator, tbh but the person I am as an escort does. Why would you want to invite the parts of ourselves that might not be a perfect match for you into the room?

I have a lot of experience with fisting and am a gentle introduction because of having pretty slender hands. If you are into trans guys - and I will say a couple can have a lot of fun with a trans guy - give me a call.

If it wasn't uncouth to have a best clients of 2017 list - you'd be on mine for sure!!!

time seeing themselves taking the next step toward meeting you IRL... Thats great advice. Sounds like I need to do some strategic planning

I'm a New Yorker and would be down for a night out!

I met with a virgin, although he was a little older than you, a while ago. He didn't tell me that that was what was going on but I could tell he was nervous. Turns out I was the first person to suck his dick, ride his cock, and put anything up his ass ever! It definitely seemed like an important and positive experience for him, I think not knowing me and knowing he wasn't in an environment where I was going to judge his skill level took off the anxiety that had been impeding him in his 30 some years of life. I would suggest that you let your escort know before hand for sure, not everyone is going to be down for that kind of experience, and you want to have someone without hang ups. Also when you are doing anything for the first time, let the other person take control at first and then try to follow their lead. A lot of newbies to kissing will just go all out with the tongue action, enjoy the pleasure of being kissed and having your mouth opened, and then when you are more relaxed you can return in kind. Gentle and slow is always preferable to frantic and fast IMHO.

Of course time coupled with consistency of respect and care is a stellar recipe for trust - but as @FTM Zachary Prince said - sometimes it can be the opposite. Some of my hardest clients were those who took the length of our relationship as an invitation to assume that they didn't have to obey my boundaries, or pay attention to my body language any more. Maybe they just thought that I would prefer the devil I knew, but they were wrong and I cut them both off. On the other hand I have relationships with a few men that I count as my longest intimate relationships - because they are that. Once you've been with someone through surgeries, deaths of loved ones, other relationships beginning and ending - even if your meeting is facilitated by the exchange of cash the trust, and care is as real as any other type of lover.

My question what kind of bottom are you? Do you not like to fuck with anything, or are you just not confident at getting an erection? Because as someone without a (conventional) dick - I've topped the hell out of more people than most. I just let my fingers do the walking... But in reality, I do think if you think you will have amazing chemistry with someone - wouldn't it be worth seeing what the two of you can do together and letting go of strict identity categories? Or maybe thats just me

I would love to hear more about this from other escorts. I have quite a sizable twitter audience, something I put a lot of work into cultivating - but while it has been positive in directing people to my porn I don't get a lot of proposals for hires. It's possible they all go to rentmen and communicate from there, but I'm interested to hear what other escorts experiences have been. My porn persona is a little different and more extreme seeming than my escorting life, so I wonder if that creates a disconnect.

I have a dad fetish and so anyone I can enact that particular fantasy set - kindly but I have to work hard for his favor, older, mutually emotionally giving - is my ideal client. This is reflected by the fact that my primary group of clients - guys I've seen regularly for 2-8 years - are all 55+.

Hi all! This is for NYC My super cute friend works super hard at a bar and is wanting to give himself the gift of a massage from a handsome gay guy, not looking to fuck but looking for some intimacy. His preference is for a muscley, attentive and sexy, black or brown guy. Focus on a great massage. It would be his first time with this kind of experience and I want to help him match up with someone great. Any suggestions?

As a top I've often run into a little bit of something but really, not to be crude, its about the texture of whats going on. Usually I'll just withdraw my hands, put on some gloves and no muss no fuss if its just little of something solid. For myself, only like 10% of guys want to do anal and usually they let me know beforehand but if they don't sometimes I excuse myself to see what the situation is but lets be real a decent enema takes 30+ minutes and sometimes I just have to say I'm not sure about the weather and suggest we meet again.

95% of the time I have a date, it all goes reasonably well and the agreements that we have made around payment and condom use get followed, 5% it does not. I understand all the feeling you talked about, when you work so hard to compromise with someone and make them feel like an experience is positive even when it seems like they're working against you every step of the way, and then they rip you off it kinda breaks my heart a little bit. I've been in the biz for a long time but I'm still kind of an optimist about humanity. I usually write a text to them, knowing that I'm probably not going to ever see that money, and therefore just genuinely telling them how that experience made me feel and like speak my anger but also force them to see my humanity. When your job is so much about adjusting yourself to make other people feel good, being totally honest and straightforward can feel healing even if it doesn't return the cash. I wish you the best, sorry you had that experience.

I don't have any issue with it but I would imagine its all about the escort and the level of discretion they have in general - if they don't have a face pic on their ad then they're unlikely to let you have one

My most difficult clients are the ones who haven't wanted to kiss, thank god its only been a few. Sometimes it has been guys that are just super shy or closeted, but often its an indicator of being dissociated in a way that leads to pretty bad sex I find. When people ask me what I'm into I always highlight kissing because if they're not into that I want them to self select themselves out.

I've been hired by several escorts - people who provide sexual care and attention focused on others want the opportunity to be selfish sometimes and what better way to experience than then hiring yourself?

Hey! Thats a great idea - I'm glad you've thought of that. I have a prison pen pal and all your suggestions are correct. More than 5 pages but less than 40 works. I always send extra stamps along with my letters as well so they can reply. Books need to sent through a third party company. Depending on the prison sometimes Amazon books are allowed but often they require books to be sent through a publisher. Cyd

Lol well I take comfort in knowing that trans guy sex robots will probably still be a ways down the track

I would agree with @Kurtis Wolfe that a lot of people in the porn industry are operating off information that doesn't have a lot of scientific backing for it - which makes sense when your job is one where the specter of HIV infection looms as a life, community and employment changing prospect, especially for the straight side. The part that is frustrating about that all is the protocols for testing are extremely rigorous to the point that there have been really only a handful of cases of HIV transmitted on set since 2004, however thanks to the fearmongering of organizations like AIDS Healthcare Foundation, who is making it their personal mission from god to end the scourge of bareback porn, straight porn performers are still very freaked out. I think its incredibly sad that Ames passed away, twitter fights are often people wanting to be right more than wanting to teach and a lot of unnecessary showboating took place. That doesn't mean there isn't a place for teaching though, the initial point that performers should challenge their "I won't have sex with crossover performers/black guys/trans women/etc" framework is important, because it doesn't just effect them - it also effects other peoples ability to get work or be out based on parts of themselves that don't actually impinge on someone else's risk. You don't get HIV because you have gay sex or are a trans woman or are black, you get HIV because you have unprotected sex with someone who is HIV positive with transmissible viral load. Inability to understand that basic fact is what puts people at risk because they don't have the right information, and it enforces stigma

Thanks! The scroll button wasn't working for me for some reason so I only saw CA

After a super busy October, November was very, very sleepy. I know that cold weather tends to make people a little more reluctant to explore new experiences, boundaries, sexual partners, etc but it seems I should expand my clientele. Rentmen has been pretty much my only platform outside twitter for the last year, and especially with Backpage being as it is I'm not sure thats my forum any longer. Where do guys like to post and guys here like to look outside RM? It seems like the new rentboy.pro doesn't include NYC aso of yet. I used to be on A4A and it was a bit spammy but I also got some good connections off there - any New Yorkers have feedback on what thats like here?

I put a lot of work into escorting - I learn skills to refine my ability to provide a better service, I network with people and keep in touch with them, I run my own advertising and my own books. I run a porn company as well which is a whole other world of work. It is my career. It may not always be my only career and it may not be my career forever, but its a job I put an incredible about of intentional effort into.

Lol I always am asked about what I'm studying and why, we talk about my pets and where I live. Little questions I think are nice to start to build a context for each other - the questions that are annoying that are asked frequently are: Do your parents accept you? What is your real name? Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend? How long have you been doing this?

The vast majority of my encounters contain some kind of emotional as well as physical interchange. Maybe my genitalia precludes the 'pound town sans anything else' crowd, but I do feel like the vast majority of my clients are interested in at least an affectionate conversation if not holding hands while we fuck.