Cody Converse

To handle the flight booking, you can price the flight on Southwest.com and then have the client send you a digital Southwest gift card so that you can book the flight yourself. All he needs is an email address to send it to. And it doesn’t even have to be the same email address that your Southwest.com account is under. You will receive a gift card code that can be used to book your tickets. I would personally never let a client book them for me, because they could always cancel the return ticket and leave me stranded somewhere. Of course most clients wouldn’t, but SOME clients do the wackiest things sometimes! Better safe than sorry!

This is such an awesome idea, thank you for this!

@OP, I have had some clients whom I've trusted with my name buy my ticket for me. For the most part though, I have simply paid for the ticket myself, and asked that they add the cost onto the cash at the end.

Honestly, I could see a situation where like, someone hires for their developmentally-delayed brother or something, if he's otherwise unable to experience human contact and intimacy.

Having experience working with people with intellectual and developmental disabilities, it would have to depend on the person and the severity of their impairment, and that's assuming they're even capable of acknowledging/understanding our roles in this interaction. There's also an extremely murky area of consent in those with intellectual disabilities, and the threat of harm to the provider if the client is unable to behave appropriately.

Honestly, I could see a situation where like, someone hires for their developmentally-delayed brother or something, if he's otherwise unable to experience human contact and intimacy.

Having experience working with people with intellectual and developmental disabilities, it would have to depend on the person and the severity of their impairment, and that's assuming they're even capable of acknowledging/understanding our roles in this interaction. There's also an extremely murky area of consent in those with intellectual disabilities, and the threat of harm to the provider if the client is unable to behave appropriately.

Like @FTM Zachary Prince said, all that changes is the physical accommodations you have to take. I've had a client in a wheelchair and tracheostomy before. Treat me with respect and I'll treat you with kindness no matter what you look like.

Like @FTM Zachary Prince said, all that changes is the physical accommodations you have to take. I've had a client in a wheelchair and tracheostomy before. Treat me with respect and I'll treat you with kindness no matter what you look like.

Go to your doctor. Being bedridden for three days is not normal and should be investigated by a medical professional.

Many of the 'old school' mecca cities are changing as the younger gen of gay men ignore them for larger vacation spots. There's an interesting dynamic happening.

 

Key West ain't what she used to be.

Ptown has definitely changed.

Fire Island Pines is still super gay, but the attitude there is overwhelmingly Manhattan.

 

I hear good things about Rehoboth Beach. Never been myself.

Rehoboth is nice, but definitely more geared towards nuclear families than gay men these days. Double L is a pretty fun leather bar, the other gay bars in town are pretty run-of-the-mill beach town bars. Poole Beach (or Poodle Beach depending on who you ask) is decent, absolutely swarming with instagays on holiday weekends tho.

I understand your point but I think clients want to do those fetishes without being judge and specially with someone hot they just can't get for free on Grindr.

I would answer "what specifically are you looking for?".

 

Kevin Slater

This! "What are your limits," etc. usually indicates that the client is looking for something more than vanilla, and more often than not means they have a specific interest that they want to explore. For a lot of clients, especially ones with niche interests, hiring is one of the only ways they can explore their kinks (whatever that may be) and they want to make sure they're going to actually be able to engage in the type of play they're looking for.

If anything, asking the question indicates more respect for the provider as a person, not less. Considering how obscure (or even risky) some fetishes can get, it's always best that everyone is on the same page.

It should definitely be asked for and agreed upon beforehand. I know this is not your question, but taking pictures of a provider without explicit consent is wrong, end of discussion.

I did have a client "ambush" me with a desire to film our encounter. I was new and hesitantly agreed to it (he had flown me across the country for the encounter), but I now regret it. I went back through our correspondence and it was never mentioned. I have a no-photo policy now, because I also have tattoos that I've edited out of my pictures to remove identifiable features.

It's fake. A perforated esophagus would have landed this kid in the ICU and require surgical intervention. He'd be on a LOT more than just a nasal cannula.

I actually just had my first "exclusively feet" encounter a few weeks ago during a trip to DC. Had a client who spent the entire hour (and then some) playing with, licking, sucking, massaging, and grazing my feet with his teeth. No sex, not even any kissing. It was unexpected (he hadn't even mentioned a foot fetish prior to meeting), but definitely a good experience. I loved seeing how happy he was completely losing himself in the experience-- definitely one of the most satisfying encounters I've had.

In porn scenes where a guy gets fucked legs up, with his feet on his partner's shoulders, it turns me on to see the top lick the bottom's feet and suck his toes while pounding his ass. I find it so erotic, so hot, so damn sexy...

Oof, this one is always conflicting. I love seeing my top enjoying himself while I'm in that position, but my feet are pretty ticklish and I'm always afraid I'm going to kick him in the face

Just another reason not to get inked...

Or more reason to do your research and find reputable artists/parlors.

Love Dirty Heads! Saw them a bit ago in Philadelphia, they put on a great show. If you like their sound, Rebelution is a similar band that I love even more.

whenever I look at his rentmen ad in Philly is reads ALOT... " not available " .... hmmm

Yeah, it's unfortunate, but I do work full time with odd hours at my "real" job and frequently travel. I use the "Unavailable" feature during extended periods of time where I literally cannot meet anyone. I like to keep my personal life, work life, and "work life" completely separate

Appreciate the kind words, everyone

I'm not into contemporary music. I know the names Lady Gaga and Beyonce but could not pick them out of a crowd nor name any of their songs.

And I know the name Mel Brooks, but I couldn't pick him out of a crowd or name one of his films. You can't complain about ignorant youth and then admit to ignorance yourself. You have a personal connection with those movies, just as someone my age has a personal connection with Lady Gaga's music-- that doesn't make either of them better than the other, it just means we like different things and appreciate the pop culture we grew up in.

"The youth are ignorant" has been said about every generation in history, and almost always amounts to "they don't like the things I like, which makes them wrong."

No experience with the stuff myself, but I had a client offer me GHB one time. Neither of us had ever heard of it, he said he "got it from some kid back home" (presumably another provider). I declined, he took it himself, and ended up passing out on top of me with his eyes still wide open multiple times, with some limbs twitching to boot.

It was only my third-ever encounter with a client and I was terrified. I maintain strict sobriety with my clients now.

Maybe he really needed the money. Will serve him right if he loses his apartment because he can’t pay the rent. A few months of being homeless will teach him a valuable life lesson.

What is wrong with you that you wish homelessness on someone just for being inexperienced and clumsy in a new environment? OP even said he had a good time, the kid was just green around the gills.

What exactly is the "lesson" here? Don't be poor? What was his crime, being new? Do you realize how soul-shatteringly hard it is to be homeless for any amount of time, let alone pull yourself out of it? Have you ever experienced poverty, or even spoken to an impoverished person?

Think before you speak next time.

He sounds like he's new to it-- like you said, his profile is only a few weeks old. It takes time to find the right balance between waiting for clients to contact you and hitting up your regulars. He'll figure it out in time-- in the meantime, the fact that you had a good enough experience that you left a positive review is a great sign!

In my experience, the biggest red flag for a desperate escort is when they start lowering their prices to convince you to hire them.

Let me tell you something. If I can post my phone number and photos for the world to see, guess what? If they want to play little bullshit games, then let the world see that.

Do you seriously not see the difference between you voluntarily posting your contact information online, and having someone post yours without your consent?

An escort who advertised as bottom once told me that SF is the land of bottoms, so he moved to NY.

 

So NY is no longer TopTown?

I've never had an issue finding a top in NYC, at least in Manhattan. And one of my (bottom) escort friends in Chicago says it's tops as far as the eye can see. My dream! Philadelphia is the City of Bottomly Love, I can tell you that

Every time I see some twink on Grindr write "no one old enough to be my dad," I just think "more for me!"

In all seriousness, great discussion in this thread. I've been a daddy-chaser since I was a teenager, and I can't see myself ever stopping. In a community that worships youth, it's important that we not forget a) the sacrifices older men made so us young'uns could have the freedom we do today, and b) regardless of age, we're all human. Discounting anyone for their age is silly...the best sex I've ever had was a man in his mid-50s I was seeing for a few years, and the single most intense session I've ever had was with a client in his seventies. Don't knock till you try it!

Why? What did the driver know other than he picked you up from the same place where he dropped you before? Rather than uncomfortable it seems funny, I think we (I) are missing some piece of info here.

Well, he picked me up just over an hour later, slightly sweatier and significantly stickier in retrospect it's funny, but still the time it was mortifying.

That could make for some very interesting rides.

 

Can you imagine if the driver of every Lyft or Uber you took knew that you were on the way to a hookup?

Speaking from experience... I once took an Uber to a client's place in Orlando and ended up with the same driver on my way back. Boy was that uncomfortable.

Is it ok if I am an asshole to them, waste their time, and do it to them, then? You guys seem jaded, so you can’t complain if I do it right?

No one said it was okay, just that it's not unexpected. It sounds like they liked the fantasy, got their rocks off, and then blocked you before they had to commit. Happens all the time, especially when money starts getting involved. Grindr has a shitty reputation for a reason, and getting upset over three dicks in a sea of assholes is pointless ¯\_(ツ)\_/¯