Typical

I’d ask him to wear that second photo outfit for the appointment!  Yum. 

His massage is expensive nonsense. I can’t speak to his new offerings. 

Doesn’t sound friendly to me. He sounds like a dick and a thief to be avoided. 

Doesn’t sound friendly to me. He sounds like a dick and a thief to be avoided. 

This looks and sounds like our friend Wolf/ Jason previously from NYC and Dallas and perhaps Las Vegas, who is wonderful. 

The shirt is hot. I think we as adults can compartmentalize: I hope so, or we are in for a rough ride. 
 
Let’s not be killjoy scolds. That is counterproductive.  

The shirt is hot. I think we as adults can compartmentalize: I hope so, or we are in for a rough ride. 
 
Let’s not be killjoy scolds. That is counterproductive.  

I had a very similar experience. I tried to reschedule after HE canceled for some emergency. When I reached back out, he said something like “well now you want an appointment, I thought you lost interest”.  He had canceled on me!  
Anyway, maybe these guys get a lot of annoying messages, but a way to avoid so many inquires and messages that lead to nothing: Publish your rates. This should not be a guessing game! And tell us where you are located because that can make all the difference in whether I wish or have time to come see you. 
Provide customers with basic information in your ad and get fewer pointless inquiries. It’s a win-win for everyone and it’s basic common sense.
What am I missing that makes this more complicated than necessary?  
 

I’d ask him to wear that second photo outfit for the appointment!  Yum. 

For me it was some of the most boring 50 minutes of my entire life. It was a massage appointment that really never got off the ground, so to speak. I think he prefers to lay down and be admired but not bothered. He barely said a word. I don’t think there was even a hint of a smile. Maybe there are clients who wish to just quietly caress his back while he sleeps?  
 
This was about three years ago. I still get drowsy whenever it crosses my mind. 

Haha. 
 
Go to your doctor. Get all advised shots. Use basic common sense and enjoy yourself. No one, or almost no one, offering massage or more is going to be honest about what communicable disease they may have. They aren’t going to say: “I have x, y and Z, guys - come and get it!”  Lol. 

Yes misleading, based on several people. 

Definitely some over promising and under delivering within the advertising hype regarding Kevin. 

(He is a hottie, though.)

I believe the varying experiences related to whether the masseur had a sexual attraction to the writer or did not. That dynamic can and often will change everything during an appointment. 

I believe the varying experiences related to whether the masseur had a sexual attraction to the writer or did not. That dynamic can and often will change everything during an appointment. 

I never met him, but he sounds like the kind of person of which the world needs more. Anyone who loves and supports  animals is a gift to humanity.  
Will make a donation to the rescue organization. 

He was ostensibly (okay, obviously) promoting himself on this site about a week ago as an over the moon “client”, got called out, and pulled down the post. His RM “reviews” indicate fantasy rates of $1k per hour or more. 

I would proceed with great caution. 

He was ostensibly (okay, obviously) promoting himself on this site about a week ago as an over the moon “client”, got called out, and pulled down the post. His RM “reviews” indicate fantasy rates of $1k per hour or more. 

I would proceed with great caution. 

You do not owe this person a single word of explanation. Your reasons for not hiring him when he, evidently, needs money, are absolutely none of his business. Just tell him firmly that when you wish to hire him again he will be the first to know, that you have his contact, and you have don’t need reminders.
I would be concerned about this relationship. There may be unfortunate reasons he seems to need money. Desperate people can do bad things. It may be best to pause and not engage in his life for some time. 

This is one reason why I rarely do appointments at my home. I do not want to bring people I do not know well that close to my life. 

You do not owe this person a single word of explanation. Your reasons for not hiring him when he, evidently, needs money, are absolutely none of his business. Just tell him firmly that when you wish to hire him again he will be the first to know, that you have his contact, and you have don’t need reminders.
I would be concerned about this relationship. There may be unfortunate reasons he seems to need money. Desperate people can do bad things. It may be best to pause and not engage in his life for some time. 

This is one reason why I rarely do appointments at my home. I do not want to bring people I do not know well that close to my life. 

I take many fewer fliers on new people than I did at $120-140. I stick to known quantities. If new guys want to build a business they need to provide a “soft opening” rate to build a business and not start at full (high) prices.
I have 4-5 regulars that I know and trust who charge $180-$200 for excellent service without tip expectations. I see them regularly without any drama or disappointment on either side.  
They appreciate the consistent business and respectful encounters and I appreciate the good and reliable service sans ridiculous cash grabs. We all win over and over and over.  

You do not owe this person a single word of explanation. Your reasons for not hiring him when he, evidently, needs money, are absolutely none of his business. Just tell him firmly that when you wish to hire him again he will be the first to know, that you have his contact, and you have don’t need reminders.
I would be concerned about this relationship. There may be unfortunate reasons he seems to need money. Desperate people can do bad things. It may be best to pause and not engage in his life for some time. 

This is one reason why I rarely do appointments at my home. I do not want to bring people I do not know well that close to my life. 

I take many fewer fliers on new people than I did at $120-140. I stick to known quantities. If new guys want to build a business they need to provide a “soft opening” rate to build a business and not start at full (high) prices.
I have 4-5 regulars that I know and trust who charge $180-$200 for excellent service without tip expectations. I see them regularly without any drama or disappointment on either side.  
They appreciate the consistent business and respectful encounters and I appreciate the good and reliable service sans ridiculous cash grabs. We all win over and over and over.  

It’s not “gone”. It’s hidden when he isn’t working and doesn’t want inquires cluttering his phone and bothering him. More masseurs should use that function in my opinion. 

I take many fewer fliers on new people than I did at $120-140. I stick to known quantities. If new guys want to build a business they need to provide a “soft opening” rate to build a business and not start at full (high) prices.
I have 4-5 regulars that I know and trust who charge $180-$200 for excellent service without tip expectations. I see them regularly without any drama or disappointment on either side.  
They appreciate the consistent business and respectful encounters and I appreciate the good and reliable service sans ridiculous cash grabs. We all win over and over and over.