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Ridiculous! Any escort who would say that is one to run away from fast. He has no idea of the importance of relationship building with clients. When he starts asking for extra money for things that are generally part of a sexual encounter, in my view, he is not respecting the client.

Ridiculous! Any escort who would say that is one to run away from fast. He has no idea of the importance of relationship building with clients. When he starts asking for extra money for things that are generally part of a sexual encounter, in my view, he is not respecting the client.

In college when I worked at a car dealership, this is what we would call a tire kicker. They talk a lot and are never to be seen again when it gets serious.

I can see both side of this saga, I guess. I can only present my own.
 
I generally volunteer to send my pics to someone I am going to meet - face, body, and "unmentionables". I think it's a nice gesture on my part, and it also serves to determine in advance whether or not there may be some issues going forward. But I also recognize that I may have a privileged existence compared to others: I am OUT to friends, families, colleagues, etc., and live in NYC. What works for me just may not be possible for others.
 
If an escort asks, it is just fine with me. If he declines my business my ego is bruised, of course....

As a client, I would happily give you an honest and complete overview of my stats, just to make sure you were comfortable with my "type," but I would never send my face picture to a stranger over the internet. Meeting for coffee first (my treat), even for thirty minutes or so, would be a great alternative. Most things can be worked out with friendly negotiations.

I'd say it's another string to your bow. If you're happy with your business as it is you may well question the benefits of participating here. My take on it is that this is a community of well informed people, many of whom hire and who use what they read here to inform their hiring decisions. I don't hire often but my list of potential hires comes from here. There are some who have Fixed Ideas About How Hiring Should Work but most of us don't. You've explained how you run your business, and that it's working for you right now, so that should be the end of the discussion. Just don't sweat any negativity about your business model, there'll be plenty of other people who will understand and be happy to chat and get to know you.

Thanks Mike. I am still confused why anyone who doesn't want to hire an escort that asks for stats etc. doesn't just hire someone else. I am not putting down escorts who don't ask for that information. It just blows my mind that some guys actually think that being in this business means signing away any control over it. If I am happy with how business is going and don't mind losing clients who prefer a different approach, why would that cause anyone to become hostile? Very confusing.

Yes

Well I commented elsewhere that @TopTierTop has the right to advertise as he wishes. Everyone worth it gets a review eventually (most likely) and he will get clients with his ad/looks.
Lots and lots of "not reviewed" gents out there making a good living at the rates they ask...

While it is not necessarily the first thing I ask for, I would never book an appointment with a potential client who is not willing to share their stats and send some sort of face pic. I understand that some guys are not comfortable with that so I do offer the option of meeting in person over coffee or something.
 
A client, of course, has the option to find an escort who will accept any client without any conditions, but to say that an escort should have no say in who his client is sounds demeaning. Why should it be the only occupation that does not get to decide which clients are a good match for them? Mutual respect should be a part of any encounter.

Very well said. I totally agree with what you said about deciding which clients could be a good match to the escort. This board is mostly populated by clients; it is refreshing to hear the escort's perspective.

While it is not necessarily the first thing I ask for, I would never book an appointment with a potential client who is not willing to share their stats and send some sort of face pic. I understand that some guys are not comfortable with that so I do offer the option of meeting in person over coffee or something.
 
A client, of course, has the option to find an escort who will accept any client without any conditions, but to say that an escort should have no say in who his client is sounds demeaning. Why should it be the only occupation that does not get to decide which clients are a good match for them? Mutual respect should be a part of any encounter.