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Hearsay, as I understand it is something heard that cannot be substantiated. Considering that it was the escort himself describing his own experience, it should be taken at face value. Who am I to question or doubt what he states? I would imagine that it would serve him well in being able to serve a diverse set of clientele. He does enjoy the attention and the money, so whatever his motivation is, good for him. That’s awful that someone would post no blacks in their profile. That brings up an entirely new discussion as it’s so common, particularly in the south to see people post whites only, and blacks posting blacks only. I just don’t know what to think of it. Part of me finds it racist, while the other says everyone has the right to their own tastes. Personally, I have found people of every race attractive, hot is hot, so I guess they’re missing out. Thanks for the discussion, I always find your posts to be well thought out and respectful. .

I agree that one should always be honest but unfortunately adjectives are subjective and those same guys probably believe they are a jock. None of us like getting old. I swear most guys think I’m in my 30s because of all the dudes in their late 50s saying they are 42. I’m proud to be 46. I would question that if looks matter to an escort that maybe they are in the wrong business. It’s like anything else in life, sometimes they are going to get ugly other times average and once in awhile hot. My straight escort friend said he isn’t attracted physically to men but he is to the personalities.

I know plenty of escorts who wouldn’t want a thing to do with a guy that considers himself hot. The ego is too big, tend to act diva like, and no personality.

He is a nice guy, legit, looks like his pics.

You are correct that the cities have changed with the influx of people, and for Charlotte many of those are from New York and San Francisco due to BOA and Wells operations. The liberal movement is in full swing and spreading through the suburbs. What both cities lack though are established gay neighborhoods. People are spread out all over the city. And oh fuck old money. Let them get pissed off. The ol Dixiecrats need to go. What Charlotte has going for it is lower housing costs than many other cities. You can still get a decent property for under $200k.

Almost all states have prostitution laws and there has been a crackdown on massage parlors but you aren’t in that category at all and most of it subsided with the removal of craigslist and backpage ads. Crackdowns are aimed at sex slavery and abusive situations, they pretty much leave men alone in our situations. Best wishes though on where you land!

What extreme laws are you referring to in North Carolina? Both Charlotte and Raleigh are great cities not far from the Blue Ridge, Great Smokies, or the beach. They are both more liberal than people know. Denver is my favorite city by far. Lived there for 6 years, but Charlotte is a close 2. Denver COL is getting out of hand. A few other choices. Omaha? They don’t have the NFL, but you won’t find smarter and loyal football fans in many other cities. Game day in Lincoln is unbelievable. But winter sucks there, similar to Chicago. Virginia Beach/Newport, Louisville, Cincinnati or Baltimore are all mid sized cities worth a look too.

Obviously nobody wants to contract HIV or any other STD, including the masseur. Don’t blame him, your health is your responsibility, regardless that honesty and looking out for the fellow man morals should be universal. Don’t be hard on yourself either. Most STDs can be cured with an antibiotic, HPV is fairly common and it’s not tested for unless you ask for it. And even HIV is no longer a death sentence and won’t ruin your life. So keep things in perspective. Good luck.

Take the plunge then write a review in daddy’s.

Wardrobe used to be a sign, but the metrosexual has put an end to that. I used to be one of the best dressed at work but now I give that title to a straight, former marine. Mannerisms aren’t even a giveaway anymore. I swear my gaydar was never great, but it’s just downright horrible now.

Some of the biggest queens I’ve met are muscular. And I know a straight bodybuilder who is fairly effeminate.

I tend to be attracted to masculinity but some effeminate characteristics are ok. A person’s personality can overcome a great deal. A super masculine guy that is a jerk is a turnoff, and even masc guys who can be campy queens turn me off. But a sweet, yet slightly effeminate man could be a turn on. I would not be considered super masc or effeminate but I can ride a horse, work cattle, change oil in a car, and later can cook a great meal, bake a pie, and sew a pillow over. In the gay community the two are becoming more merged as guys may be a bit of both. I played competitive sports for years and the uber masculinity of football can be thrown by the wayside in gay flag football with all the campiness that goes on in light hearted fun. But in no way does it diminish the quality of athletics that you’ll see. For some of my friends who came to watch, it was a mini culture shock.

I noticed he was advertising in Charlotte for 5 days but his ad disappeared after a day. Probably trying to gauge interest. I’ll stick with the local hunk down the road in Greensboro.

Ha ha! Well played.

Beautifully stated.

In many of our corporate lives we have vacation or PTO. Recognize when you need a break and take it. Don’t be afraid to turn of your phone for a set period each day. If someone berates you for not contacting them immediately consider it a dodged bullet and block their entitled ass. Just a few thoughts to consider. For some the first few times hiring can be scary so it may take some time for those guys to come around. Your patience will most likely determine if you get their business or not. Secondly, for those that ask sincere questions, and are clear in their communication style, I would focus on them. I rarely have had to have a very long conversation before I was comfortable because I ask pinpointed questions. If the person becomes short or is obtuse with their answers I thank them and move on. Just remember, you are responsible for your happiness, and only you can allow someone to get under your skin.

Agree with that assessment. Good guy

He is in Charlotte now. Thought about it

It was three years ago but met him and wouldn’t have anything negative to say or report, although didn’t do either of the controversial items mentioned either.

I have seen an uptick in deposit demands lately, and particularly from new escorts. As a client, I will never pay a deposit for someone without a solid reputation. That said, I’m a paying member of RM too and that should say something about my trustworthiness as a provider can easily seek feedback from others I’ve reviewed from the site. I would consider paying a deposit for someone solid, but wouldn’t like it much. If I cancel and try to rebook, a deposit request is fair. I have had to cancel due to events outside of my control, life does happen, and Ive had others cancel legitimately on me too. And yes, I’ve had flakes, but rarely on RM. End of day, those with integrity end up having the best time. I think there are some good ideas on here to use as a checklist to see if a deposit request is warranted or not. There are still plenty of ways to move money and limit where such information is stored. Easy way is transfer money to PayPal or cash app and pay that way. Then bank statement only shows money going to that app, not to whom. Verifying mobile numbers is a great idea, and if they are a member here or on RM, look for interactions like reviews to see if you can verify legitimacy. Probably too much effort for an hour booking, but for travel overnight it might be wise.

Well said. I’ve found that to be true. I’ve met Brian many times and he is a great guy.

Kurtis is the hottest man ever. And a very sweet guy. Never met Austin, but agree he is a beautiful man.

Oh cool. I’ll have to go sometime.

What is the “weekend”?

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