Jacque

I've met. A dud. Needed Blue pill and still didn't work. 

Appears to be down

Wow, enough Red Flags for me to STAY AWAY

I have given bad reviews only to see them disappear or be threatened by escort. 

Kinda ridiculous. I reach out to the clients now to make sure escort was good and being a good match. 

Typically not offline this long.

Hackers must have gotten in when conversion upgrade was happening.  Prepare to be down thru weekend will be my guess. 

Hopefully not, but given its Pride Month anything is possible 

RM has already done the conversion 

Hopefully not, but given its Pride Month anything is possible 

IT to the rescue. RM is based in Amsterdam correct? It's the weekend.  If it's a Malware attack may take till Monday to correct.

I was in midst of messaging a client on RM. Ugh

Good to know Rent Massuer isn't affected. 

I'm sure someone in Russia or Iran works full time to take sabatoge RM and keep it down. 

Anyone else experiencing sign in issues?

Still the best site to hire from except the site does manipulate reviews. That's why this site is so valuable. There are way too many 5 Star reviews on guys who are very mediocre. Plus still alot of new guys on RM trying to get you / con you to Zelle funds in advance and disappear. 

Down for awhile 

Seems like alot of guys asking for cash upfront and being aggressive about it.

Sorry for your mishap and thanks for saving others similar heartache 

Heading for a week there. Any recommendations? Alot on RM but limited reviews. 

12 hours ago, davebk said:

OP came asking for advice and to share what he's going through.  As we sit here and opine about things and people start bitching at each other, let's not forget he's facing something he didn't anticipate and trying to figure things out.  He's here for support, some practical advice and support, and ultimately community as he faces this.  Might be the right thing to keep that the focus for his sake.

Thank you

23 hours ago, Monarchy79 said:

Is it me, or does it sound like the commenters are more concerned with protecting the identity, image, and life of the person who infected the OP, than they are with the OP? 
 

Let’s be clear: This isn’t about HIV stigma, shaming sex workers, or anti-sex-positivity. 
 

let’s focus on the bare bones:

1.) The OP and the partner have been frequently having sex.

2.) During this entire time, the partner has LIED to him, telling him he is negative.

3.) The OP then finds out he is positive

4.) When questioning his sex partner, the partner now reveals that he has lied to him about his status all along. 
 

That’s dishonest, wrong, and is a felony in many states. Point, blank, period. 
 

My heart goes out to the OP. ♥️

Thank you

2 hours ago, robear said:

I'm sorry you have to deal with this unexpected bad news.  As others have said, though, your prospects of being able to remain healthy with treatment are vastly brighter than they were in past decades. 

One thing is unclear in your story, is this escort your ONLY sexual contact since your PREVIOUS HIV negative test?  You seem to assume you contracted the virus from him, but there's no way to know that if you've had other sexual encounters over the period. He told you he's being treated (escorting to pay for treatment). If he's treatment compliant (U=U), and that is a big if, others are not at risk of contracting the virus from him.

Of course, none of us should misrepresent our STD status to sex partners, commercial or otherwise.  Men do, all the time. As others have said, the only insurance any of us has are the steps we ourselves take to guarantee safety.

Good wishes to you on getting a good, effective treatment plan.  Be sure you have a doctor, whether primary care or infectious disease specialist, with lots of experience in HIV management.

Yes, I was exclusively with him the last several years 

2 hours ago, latbear4blk said:

I am sorry for the bad news, but fortunately nowadays it is not tragic, as other posters point out. I would not report him. You may be not that promiscuos, but your wording gives us enough clues to tell he is not the only one who may have infected you. If you had unprotected sex with him, you probably also did the same with others. Am I right?

Additionally, I do not think that you should look at this in legal terms. Whether or not this is a felony or a crime, does not help to your situation and to your relationship with this human been. Whatever reasons led him to hide his status and to not protect you, I doubt they were coming from an evil nature or intention. I think you know now how hard to cope with the news is. Who knows what circumstances took him to make this wrong decision? Try to see the human side of the issue, not the legal one.

I would have a conversation, or several ones depending on our relationship, trying to make him understand the importance of protecting his partners. I would not try to convince him to disclose his HIV status in his profile. In my opinion, it is private and he does not need to do it to protect others. I would make sure he knows how I feel and how easily he could have prevented it. Just remember, we are assuming he infected you. If I am not wrong, and you did have unprotected sex with others, 

As you insightfully understand, in case he did infect you, it is not only his responsibility. His decision to have unprotected sex knowing he was + puts more weight on his side, indeed. However, you cannot blame him for your own decision. It is true, you would have probably acted differently should you knew the whole picture. However, you knew better and you consciously decided to take the risk. The same goes for everyone who decides to have unprotected sex. 

I am really sorry, and I do not know what I would do in your situation. I do not know how emotionally affected you are. Whatever you decide to do, do not make any decision now. Please, wait until you are able to think rationally what the best thing to do is. 

 

I'm not looking legally as it really helps no one. I think it is issue of he remaining out there potentially infecting other people.

I seldom bottomed. I also wonder if my immune was thrown off due to getting the Covid vaccine. 

16 minutes ago, JEC said:

Sorry to hear this.  

While I'm sure this news is shocking, HIV is now a highly treatable and manageable disease.  Esp if caught early which is sounds like it was (blood test vs symptomatic).  A high %  of HIV+ ppl live full lives with minimal problems by taking a daily pill.  And, there is very promising research and treatments which may produce a cure within the next decade.  In the meantime, if you are undetectable.....you are also untransmissible (U=U, based on relatively recent research).

I don't think what's happened is a felony, and whether or not it is illegal varies by state.   But, I am not a lawyer...some internet research will answer this for you in minutes.

What would you want to accomplish by reporting it?  Do you want him arrested and prosecuted?  If you do, you will put yourself through the stress of testifying and likely public disclosure of your status.   Even reporting to local health officials may open a Pandora's box you cannot control.

As individuals it's on each of us to manage our own behavior as if the other person is carrying an STD.  It is possible for someone to be carrying, and not aware (yet).  It is also possible they aren't being honest about their status (as happened to you).  Escorts by definition have frequent and numerous sexual contacts, the likelihood they are carrying one or more STDs is higher than the average joe.   Managing our own behavior is the only way we can guarantee our own safety.

Not intending to preach or lecture....but since you asked, I think best if you move on and focus on finding peace with your choices and becoming comfortable your new status.

Sorry again this happened to you Jacque.

I think just that he doesn't do this to other guests. His profile still shows Negative on his profile. County Health Officials typically can help if he can't afford medicine. That's what he told me was reason he was doing this for money to help offset costs. 

I have seen a particular escort thru the years. I am not that promiscuous but on a visit for blood work found out that I'm HIV +. I confronted him that he had always told me he was negative but came clean to tell me he had been positive for past 10 years.

I can't imagine how many others he may have infected. My question is what exactly who should I  contact? County Health Officials, Rentmen Platform, etc?

I believe it is a Felony for a person knowing they are infected to willfully do this without disclosure.

It is certainly my fault for not being on Prep. I typically was topping. He being on Rentmen andthought he would be honest with me as we discussed it. 

Good

Nice guy, but wasnt that engaging. PM if wanting morr

I think there are alot of fakes though too. I responded to a couple of ads and they wanted funds transferred to PayPalbefore confirming. I dont think so.

I saw him but would not hire again.

I've visited him, nice guy but more of an escort. Massage was like 20 minutes, flip to front and was playful.