Rod Hagen

I just spent some time reading his old posts on this forum. Smart guy! I found his old Rentmen Ad on the Internet Archive, but unfortunately the photos were not archived. I am so very sorry to hear bout his difficulties at the border. I know from his book that being arrested in Vegas was extremely upsetting for him and he hoped, and promised himself, that nothing like that would happen again. How terrible. I emailed him, if he gets back to me I'll suggest he start a GoFund me if he's still impacted by what happened. If he does start one, I'll link to it here if he allows me. I wish I could have met him. The universe doesn't care what I hope, but I hope that somehow he is doing ok without the work (although the book ending indicated he was about to get out of the business anyway.) Thank you for responding TruHart1. I am very glad you were able to spend time with him and I am sure he appreciated your attention, financial help, and your praising of him on this website. The book appears to be selfPublished, so purchasing it will still go to him. It's a fun read. BUY IT! you'll be helping a beautiful man.

Really? So this attitude toward the escort subletting his youth, beauty and skills is ok, but his hopes of extra financial help and/or luxuries is shitty? You guys, you guys, you guys. (again, this is not directed at the OP (and I shouldn't have to say that))

Found the old, locked thread by TruHart1, which no one else contributed to, about this book. Just Read the book. Enjoyed it. He seems like a really really sweet guy. What city did he primarily operate out of and what was his full escort name, just Armann? I want to find him in the archives and read his reviews if possible. Did you read the book? Did you like it? Did you hire him, how was he? Does anyone know how he's doing these days? I hope he's doing great! Book: Amazon.com WWW.AMAZON.COM Old thread:

I don't know if this helps at all, but as I was reading these often sad tales of entanglements, it struck me that each one is a relationship. Non-escort relationships are often filled with drama and heartache too. All of you who had your heart ripped out by an escort who liked you as well as relied on the assets that you have and he doesn't, just like you relied on his physical assets that you probably lack, that was a relationship--a dramatic Two-sided, don't believe it wasn't two-sided in many ways, relationship.

I realize I brought up the doctor thing. That said, the doctor-friend has resources that your escort-friend does not. When desperate and without resources, one's concern about appropriateness decreases.

I loved the description in Patti Smith's Just Kid's take on the accusation that Mapplethorp was after Wagstaff's money. Something along the lines, they loved each other and they loved the parts that added up to the person. Wagstaff loved Mapplethorp. He loved Mapplethorp's beauty and talent and youth and style. Mapplethrop loved Wagstaff/he loved Wagstaff's money, connections, style, and curation skills. They were both in opportunistic love, which was love. I think the younger person always THINKS he's Mapplethorp, but he's not. Only Mapplethorp was Mapplethorp. I agree with you entirely on the wad of $50s. No young person would ever really be happy with the terms, if they thought long and hard about it, because their youth and beauty will die, and the wealthier person, baring tragedy, will always be wealthy. As I've said before, he'll wipe his tears with $100 bills.

Thank you for sharing that. I have a friend* with a wealthy husband. In the earlier years of their relationship my friend was losing his business, which employed over a dozen other people, and needed about $75k to put it right. Boyfriend would not give him the money, the business tanked and my friend lost the business. Around that time, boyfriend spent $75k on a family shindig. It stung. When someone with money cares about you, helps with luxuries and occasional emergencies, the lack of structure, the lack of clarity about where the poor person fits in the wealthy person's life, SPECIFICALLY FINANCIALLY, will make a poorer person feel unmoored and therefore uncared for. It makes sense that, in a panic, the poorer person will tread water too vigorously saying, “I only feel safe when I'm with you”, for example. That doesn't mean it's not true, it's just maybe opportunistic and true. I'm explaining, not excusing (and I shouldn't have to say that).

I don't speak Meme, or Gif, or whatever those are. I'm not being a stubborn GenXer, I mean I really really have a hard time understanding them. I think I got the gist though.

We know what is meant truly by "I don't think of you as a client anymore" is "I feel closer to you than other clients", it's just more awkwardly stated. Given that, "so I can't take your money anymore" is a common forum response I've pushed against for the full 25 years (!!) of this forum. I have several doctor friends, close relationships. Many of you do too. We don't pay them when we go out to lunch, yet we most certainly pay them for the work*. Same goes for the handyman, the housekeeper, the architect, and yes of course the Masseur. So why expect freebies from your escort because what he's told you is that he feels closer to you than he does to others? *When I was a young cocky escort I would post, on the forum, in a delusional response to threads about "off the clock meals", basically, "fuck you, I have enough friends." What an insufferable, adorable, asshole I was.

I wanted to drill a bit deeper on this, because it relates to some things others have said. So to you, James, and others, I'm curious what the Escort's manipulating and/or playing-you looks like? Where on the range is it from "treating you better than other escorts have during your sessions" to "Telling you he will forsake all other men for you if only (fill in the blank)"? The second thing is when you, and others, say the Escort was just looking for money, do you mean, he was looking to keep you as a regular so you would keep paying his fee or do you mean he was looking for money/benefits above what you paid for your time together? Thanks!

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Saw it at Arclight when it came out, Shelter was quite good. San Pedro never before looked so filmic!

Look at the top of those traps. Nice.

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And in all interactions, the pros are surprisingly pleasant.

Long ago, I was a lifeguard :-)

The Lemar, Drake one was my fav. Che looked (rightly) terrified. I knew nothing about this until Bill Maher talked about it the night before.

I had sex with him long long ago, and it was fantastic.

I've mentioned it here before, when I started escorting at 26 I immediately saw guys in their 80s and 90s, older than my living (at the time) grandfather immediately (and still do.) Point is there are escorts to whom age does not matter. I would add, as others have said, if an escort has difficulty working with someone only 10-15 years older than him, he's in the wrong field and won't last. That doesn't help you once he's in your apartment, so what you need to do is use this forum to find escorts who are a good fit for you, whether there's a 10 year or 60 year difference. Happy Hunting.

Yeah, I loo Thank you for the links. I looked at his insta and it seems as if the last photos, 2022, seem to have him as working on a ship. I hope he's well.

Did anyone else get all the way through Sugar? SO DUMB!

clearly, I was generalizing about instances people, not specifically the OP, were inclined to lend. And I addressed the OP's hurt feelings, and ghosting more broadly, in previous posts w/in this thread.

What the fuck kinda response is that? Unless I were in a real shit mood, I wouldn't likely speak that coldly to a stranger, but to your own son? That kind of arch bravado comes from not actually understanding that taunting a drowning man doesn't teach resilience. (took me five edits to come up with that last sentence, and I left in the split infinitive purposely.)

If you can give, give instead of lending. There. But what I've found interesting about the original post is the escort's ghosting of his friend, presumably because he feels awkward. It's become more and more common for people to allow awkward feelings to prevent them from doing what they should do. Young adults don't write post-graduation gift thank you letters anymore because, what, they feel "funny" about it? Parents should insist. How often do you hear people say that they "Just can't" visit this or that loved one in the hospital or assisted care facility because it's just "too difficult"? What the fuck? Difficult? I can guarantee you that no matter how "difficult" a 20 minute visit to a medical facility may be, it's INFIINTELY harder for the patient, because they are stuck there. Man up. Too difficult. Jesus Christ, watch South Park for an hour when you get back home, compartmentalize, you'll be fine.

Don't know how I found this book. I assumed I found it here, but I can't find a discussion on it. Just finished it. Not great, but I loved the line toward the end, when he's VERY much down on his luck, and a potential new client reaches out, doesn't tell Daniel much about himself, and Daniel wrote something along the lines that the client could be Uncle Fester and he would still be VERY grateful to him. Cute. Poorly edited. Did anyone here read it? Did anyone here ever hire him? He sounds fun. Drug-tied, but fun. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07W3Z17J4/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1 His Insta: Login • Instagram WWW.INSTAGRAM.COM Welcome back to Instagram. Sign in to check out what your friends, family & interests have been capturing & sharing around the world. His very angry, but somehow kinda funny, Youtube video. I wonder how he's doing now?