rustyrex

I got up early and went to Costco. I figure I better use the membership that I pay for. I hardly go to Costco but since things are getting expensive I go in on a regular basis now.

AARRGH!!! I got flaked on again from a provider!!! I’m having the worst luck with finding dependable providers. It’s like this year is looking bleak to even get someone dependable to meet. It’s my birthday weekend and figured I’d give myself a gift that I always enjoy, some good company. Unfortunately the massage was strictly a massage (which really disappointed me) despite our history of doing extra, the rent guy cancelled on me a couple hours before we were to meet up and the other guys I’ve contacted aren’t responding or are playing games with me and one wanted an obscene amount of money for 1 hour of time. I don’t get it….is this the new normal? I was going to travel to another city (Phoenix) but my budget is a little constrained…and it’s too pricey to stay in a decent hotel in a decent part of town. I’m totally bummed out. Sigh…..maybe I’ll have better luck with the ladies?

Hey All, I’m looking to do a little traveling and I’m having the damndest time deciding where to go. Denver, Phoenix or Tucson. Denver has the best hotel prices but it’s still cold there and Phoenix and Tucson have the nice weather but the hotel prices are ridiculous. I really want some nice weather for a change…along with some good company…but I cringe at paying $130 for Motel 6. I hate to sound picky but I tend to stay mid tier places like Marriott and Hilton and in Denver the hotels are reasonable. That same type of hotel in AZ is $230 for 1 night. I like hotels over airB&B just because a hotel can’t cancel on me or give me last minute issues like surprise roommates, it’s happened before…. Any recommendations or ideas? My limit on a hotel is $150 a night.

He came thru town last year and I reached out but one of his rules is a deal breaker for me so I passed.

I use the AMEX Gold Delta card, which is hardly worth the fee but AMEX has the best customer service hands down! I’m trying to do the Chase Trifecta. You can get a lot of points by using a mixture of cards and use the points for airlines, hotels and rental cars. The idea is to get an obscene amount of points so you can basically travel for the cost of tax on the ticket. If you can gain points by using a fee free credit card, your practically gaming the system. I use credit for everything just so I get the points. Is it worth it….hell yes….I’ve had enough to buy a ticket and upgrade to first class a couple of times. In some cases Chase offers a better deal on the same hotel room or plane ticket than the actual company.

If a provider were offering that to me, I’d tell him, “you just got yourself a new regular!” Once a month minimum.

My regular guy is starting to flake on me regularly and the extra perk has been rescinded due to him having a boyfriend. Although I’m bummed about that (no playtime post massage) I understand. So I’ve started trying out other guys, seems like the going rate has increased quite a bit but times are different now so I accept that. So a couple days ago I went to a new provider. He’s a bit more expensive ($160) but I figured what the hell. I set up an appointment and tried him out. His technique was more of an Asian style, which is okay, but it was totally intense. I was sore and worn out. At one time during the massage he put his hand around my throat like he was strangling me. Not really my thing but I’m open….. At one point during the massage he said almost like a prayer “let all intentions on the table be known.” I thought, cool maybe I’ll be getting extra at the end. I don’t start grabbing my providers or talking dirty unless they physically make the first move. Don’t get me wrong, the massage was good…although I don’t think he’s licensed but I was hurting afterwards. He left the room and I took about 10 minutes to get off the table to recover from the massage. Most guys think that my musculature requires deep tissue and sometimes they leave bruises on me. I didn’t get the happy ending…he kept bringing up his partner during the session…so I didn’t pursue… but fuck….my balls were blue when I left. The session was 90 minutes. Will I go back? Probably not, I think he saw my disappointment when I left. Am I crazy? Ads on masseurfinder are so ambiguous. If you check rentmassuer you see the same ad with a little more info but this guy only advertises on masseurfinder….. Oh well

I know I'll get some heat for this one but I never saw the fascination with Channing Tatum. Magic Mike was a good movie but when you put Channing next to Joe.....really....there is no comparison. Don't get me wrong...Channing has a cuteness to him but when he was made to be People's sexiest man alive I didn't understand why. He just looks average, Joe on the other hand is strikingly good looking. If Channing walks into a room I wouldn't do a backwards glance, but if Joe walked into a room.....damn.....

A couple of my faves.... "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink" "would you jump off a bridge if everyone else did" "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth" "your smiling because your guilty" "what kind of shit excuse is that?" "your lying because your sister ratted you out" "'This ain't a damn restaurant, eat what I make you" "I can't wait till you turn 18!" Ah the good old days, I had some one liners for them too, being a teenager was hoot.

$50, it was a holiday scratcher, a nice surprise...

I usually keep it to a very simple text. One sentence that’s to the point. If I don’t get a response, unless I’m really hot for that guy, I don’t send a second text. I have one guy that a sent a text to that’s coming through town….muscular and hot as hell. He didn’t respond, no problem, there are other guys to ask or save my money for. I’m not trying to entice, this is not a date. This is for an uncomplicated meet up with someone I find attractive enough to spend money on, nothing more, nothing less. Respect goes both ways, if they don’t respond; better to know how they are in that moment than to waste money and find out in the session.

When a couple stops trending…..it’s time to move on.

Drove to LA this year, the furthest I’ve gone for some play dates. Didn’t realize how expensive it was going to be (nickeled and dimed for everything from parking to shopping bags) but would totally do it again. I did quite a few free things to make up for the other expenses. In that time one of my providers introduced me to the sling….and I enjoyed the hell out of it.

Funny, I used to draw. I started doodling again last night. Better than a stick figure but far from real life portraits. The goal is to create a life like drawing of a gorgeous naked man that would be worthy of hanging in a museum...or an erotic book cover.

The innocence of being new to the gay lifestyle (once the innocence is gone....) Going dancing in an actual gay bar/club (the gay cowboy bar was my hangout) Letting a total stranger talk me into hooking up in his car after a drink Life before social media, this is the extent of social media I do....Facebook is evil Gas below $2 Yesteryear gay porn stars (Billy Herrington, Rico Dulce, etc)

Yes, but only if I could be guaranteed great sex every single time. I better be quivering and shaking with bliss.

Had this happen before, but went ahead with anyway. I made sure I was extra rough during the encounter to make a point that I didn’t appreciate the deception. 😈

Today I was turned down by a massage therapist that I had frequented on occasion...permanently. No real explanation why, just that he was semi-retired and that he no longer wished to see me again. To give you a little background, I have been his client for about 4 years on and off, always with something extra special at the end. He has always been paid and I have always respected him, his practice and his home. I'm totally baffled by this because I feel like we had a rapport with each other and I felt that we connected because we did chat at the end each session and we even know the same people. I attempted to ask why, but he has blocked me. I know there are other therapist out there, and believe me I intend to replace him, I just wonder.....have any of you had the same experience?

There is a porn model in town and quoted $350. I can see why but I can't justify that kind of money for 1 hour. $300 is the limit, no matter who the guy is. I paid more for a guy that was very considerate and bought me a drink from Starbucks on his way to my place. Very sweet of him, so I gave him extra for being thoughtful.

Unless they are asking to hook up for free, which rarely happens, they need money. Nothing to be flattered about….

Yeah I saw this and figured he’s doing some fundraising, must need the cash bad enough. He has already done reshoots of the same picture through the years and there is video of him being okay with being the iconic cover of an album that changed the fundamentals of rock and roll. I always thought the pic was interpreted to be that we are all chasing the dollar the moment we are born. There are worse album covers that do exploit others…most of the time it’s women. To Live Crews album cover was totally a sexual. We’ll see what happens. In court justice is served only if you have enough money to afford it and an attorney that is brilliant/conniving.

Another one bites the dust. Although I am surprised by the idea that they are moving away from adult content, I'm sure there will be another service waiting in the wings to pick up the pieces. Money has a way of making things more complicated, especially when large sums of money are earned from what is deemed questionable means. They better not take my RM away....not until it goes dark web.

As Connected as I want to be. I work in a field that has more than enough gay people that I interact with on a daily basis. Everyday is Pride!!!! As for the bars, clubs and neighborhoods, there are all basically gone. Being gay is just that….being gay. It’s easier to live your life than it was when I first came out and honestly it’s a breath of fresh air. Hopefully that won’t change. I do think the rise of social media and the cell phone has drastically changed the way we interact with each other, not necessarily for the better.

I really like this show, I discovered it last year while on lockdown. It’s a shame that it hasn’t been renewed for another season to at least give a satisfying conclusion.

I saw that pic and instantly wondered what it would look like from the other side with him totally naked. He’s so flexible and limber…..