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https://rentmen.eu/V_MUSCLE https://rent.men/V_MUSCLE Any experience to share?

Yes, this is the key point. It's not that there is any reason to distrust the site in particular -- there isn't, and indeed several people have vouched for it convincingly. @latbear4blk observed at the start of the thread that rentboy.pro has "an aggressive business model" -- which I think must have been in reference to the efforts made to get its name out, bring it up in various threads where it's a slight tangent, etc. I think for me, that is part of what made me assume it would be monetized. It's really unusual to see that sort of repetitive and forceful (but often effective) pavement-pounding approach for anything that is strictly a volunteer effort. I was going to suggest to @Boomxyz that somebody just needs to lay out what their goal is with a little more detail, to make it more convincing. While I was typing, @SecretShopper appears to have done something pretty close to that. It's like ask and ye shall receive, except I didn't even have to ask! (That said, between the statement on the website and the various things said in this thread, I now truly have no idea whether we should expect it to start charging sometime, hehe.)

I think "within a certain range" is the key part here. Travel time adds up pretty quickly, and if you happen to be located in an out-of-the-way location, that's not their fault any more than their lack of hosting ability is your fault.

This! It is a totally understandable and respectable business model to operate this way. What would not be understandable, and in fact would give me serious concerns about trusting the site, would be presenting the site as if there are no plans to monetize the site in the future if everyone knows it will likely happen. @Boomxyz has given the impression of "always free" in this thread. What we don't know is if it is totally genuine, or if there is the above "catch." So, maybe let's just ask directly. Do you really mean "always free" or do you just mean "free for now"? If the latter, we are still on board, just maybe consider dialing back your rhetoric a little.

Depends. Are they doing actual classical psychoanalysis with you (which is in many ways the epitome of non-directive therapy), or are they doing analytically-informed psychotherapy? If the former, you're unlikely to get homework no matter how you ask for it, and they definitely won't define goals for you. If the latter, you could probably just ask for it directly. "Homework" as a term, and where you have a specific assignment to practice a specific skill, is pretty much a CBT thing. If you want it, ask for it; but I wouldn't expect most psychotherapists to automatically "assign" it every week and definitely wouldn't discount a therapist because they don't. Similarly, there may be a limit to how "smart" your goals can be on day one. Whether you and your therapist set very specific goals (and then update them as needed), or start with a more general, exploratory attitude before identifying what is truly at the heart of things for you, is a question of style and preference as much as anything.

I don't think this is quite on the nose about MA. From the state website: "Under state regulation, any diagnosing physician who provides primary care for an individual with HIV infection or AIDS is required by law to report this case to the state health department. Usually this is a person's primary medical care provider. Counseling and testing providers who are not diagnosing physicians are not required to report HIV or AIDS." "Yes, free, anonymous HIV testing will continue to be available at sites throughout the state. Results of anonymous tests are not reported to the Department by anonymous testing sites." http://www.mass.gov/eohhs/gov/departments/dph/programs/id/hiv-aids/reporting/hiv-reporting-in-mass-for-consumers.html However, what may be more relevant to MA residents is this line: "All people living with HIV in Massachusetts who are in medical care will be reported by name starting January 1, 2007." I don't know if it's plausible to receive anonymous HIV treatment, but I have to imagine it's not advisable. So it seems like the testing itself may be less relevant.

You're right -- transference is definitely not reserved for client-therapist relationships, and does indeed happen frequently in most relationships. The basic idea is just that we unconsciously "transfer" elements of our old, formative relationships, to interactions we have with people who are currently in our lives -- perhaps in the form of how we experience them, or assumptions we make without realizing it, or just the emotional cadence or expectations we bring to those interactions. The reason transference is most often discussed in the context of therapy is because it is, again, a critical, on-the-table component of most psychotherapy. It is deliberately watched for in that context (which we don't usually do, elsewhere). A good therapy session thus plays a double role. On the one hand, it has a detached, reflective, analytical side to it, where you can sort out what's going on in your life with a third party who is external to it. At the side time, it is a hands-on laboratory experiment. Your interaction with the therapist is both the tool you use to shed light on your life, and a big part of what you use that tool on.

This can't be emphasized enough. It doesn't just mean liking your therapist, because this relationship is itself an actual, on-the-table component of almost any successful therapy. So you need someone who you find it easy to communicate with, and who you trust to be "on your team" even when providing tough feedback. Re training background and particular therapeutic techniques: the majority of therapists identify as having an "eclectic" theoretical orientation, meaning that they draw from multiple schools of thought, including both directive therapies (like CBT) and evocative therapies (like psychodynamic approaches). I wouldn't, however, write anyone off based on their training. There are certainly some MDs (= psychiatrists) who focus solely on meds, but I've known multiple psychiatrists who have been incredibly insightful on a non-biological level and have emphasized talk and relationships.

I spent some time with him this afternoon. Charming, recommended. Feel free to PM w/ any questions.

https://rentmen.eu/HarryMorgan/ https://rent.men/HarryMorgan/ New on RM, no reviews, is visiting from the UK. Image and phone searches turn up nothing. Anyone seen him? I did always like Colonel Potter.

For those who don't want to look at dates: The post in this thread: " atlgaboy, Sep 12, 2017 " The review: "Reviewed by atlgaboy, Oct 10, 2017" Sheesh, guys.

I had almost the identical experience last week (wouldn't be surprised if it was the same provider), and I had the same reaction. I kind of got the feeling that it was an innocent attempt at a selling technique: to make a high-end-of-average price seem like a really good deal. But it was hard to shake the feeling that the provider might not be as invested in it.

One more vote for the early days of Sean Cody. That link! Dylan, at the top of the page, really did it for me at the time... and I fondly remember the first "Gang Bang" video he, Zack and Luke were in (currently on page 152). IIRC, there were a few months of stuff that's no longer listed, with lower production values. Wasn't the first video on the site a sort of weird orgy featuring Michael Brandon?

Yikes. I can imagine how a well-meaning (if somewhat naive) member could end up giving this info to an escort without thinking it through, due to pressure from the escort in the moment. But what I have a harder time understanding is the step that comes before it: why any potential client would share with an escort they haven't met, that they are turning them down because they got negative feedback about them. Why in the world would you want to antagonize someone in that way? (Especially if the negative report involved behavior and not just talent.)

https://rentmen.eu/Kellan_James https://rent.men/Kellan_James Reverse picture and phone number searches don't turn up anything, but the short bio could be concerning. Anyone with more info?

Yeah. Perhaps a tweaked analogy would be to compare it to, I don't know, renting a car, and the experience you have with that. Better cars do cost more to rent, and while admittedly those prices often turn on size (*cough*), the experience of driving them is probably more on most renter's minds than the prestige is. Or as Shakespeare put it: "O happy horse, to bear the weight of Antony!"

Yes, and some people care more about one, some people more about the other, which sounds like the very point Mike was making with that analogy.

The partner is now in the pictures, and the ad says "WE WORK TOGETHER". Not sure if he means exclusively -- the pictures are almost all both of them. Huhmmmm...

Victor, do you know if that particular photo setup involves some special kind of processing? The whole (tantalizing) series of them from that photographer clearly involves different bodies as well as different heads, yet they all set off alarm bells for photoshopping, in part I think because there is always a weird ring of suddenly shifting flesh tones around the neck. Just to be clear, I'm not saying they are fake in any way -- but they clearly seem fake to some of us on first glance, and I'm just trying to figure out what's up with that.

FWIW, the ad is extremely new so there may not be anyone here who has. If you do try him out let us know how it goes!

Fun fact: if you remove the letters in "Ayn Rand" from "Grayson Daniels" you are left with "I go less". * Disclaimer: this doesn't have any subtext or meaning. I was just amused to notice it.

There was a previous thread that came to no conclusions but was skeptical: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/too-good-to-be-true.128439/#post-1361560 However, I did some sleuthing earlier this week (because, let's face it, that is a great picture) and I think the ad may be legit. I managed to reverse image search my way to a very similar picture of the same guy wearing the same wristbands and a different harness, in a labelled promotional shot for a leather company. The leather company is based in New York, but shows at IML, and this particular image has a somewhat verbose filename that suggests an oblique IML connection. Altogether it potentially fits a number of elements in the description (modeling work, experience with BDSM, and Cleveland being relatively close to Chicago). Anyway, I think he's worth further investigation -- perhaps someone else will have better luck getting in touch than dixietony did.

Bumping this -- I'm interested too, if anyone has experience to share.

RM name has changed several times recently, but the ad is now at: https://rentmen.eu/Lamont_Phoenix (I appear to be blocked by Lamont on RM, so I had to open that in an incognito window... I don't remember having any interaction other than him sending me repeated PMs to say hi because he saw that I had visited his profile.)

While I will admit I find JT pretty hot, my main takeaway from this thread is that I need to arrange some time with Griffin Donavon, stat.