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Oh for crying out loud. I'm not encouraging "retaliation" with the "easiest option" -- I'm encouraging "communication for the good of the greater community" with "what he probably thought was the only option". I'm not encouraging use of that option, since of course we have a better one -- posting here. I just refuse to condemn someone because they didn't know that option existed.

I'm saying that -- absent more information -- he's justified in giving a two-star review on rentmen in light of a no-show. I'm saying that I'd rather people find a way to share no-shows when they happen, than that they don't. I'd rather know that somebody had a bad experience, than be blind to that simply because rentmen doesn't allow it to be appropriately quantified. And I'm saying that if you give someone a multiple choice question with no right answers, you can't blame them for picking an answer that's wrong. And, yes, I'm saying that it is incontrovertibly wrong to present hearsay as fact. Also, I think it is completely hilarious that our two avatars are dueling. Lol.

I've already expressed my points. I'm not going to repeat them over and over just because that's what you're doing. People are free to read this thread and decide for themselves what makes sense and what doesn't.

And no omissions. (I should not have omitted that clause The client did not meet the escort because the escort overslept.

I don't want to fight! I just want the truth -- with no exaggerations and no assumptions.

Cahill, according to you, WB overslept and missed the appointment. It happens; not the end of the world. You have however left this info out and made it sound like this client simply never made arrangements to meet WB, even though you knew in fact it was WB's fault that they did not meet. I don't know if he woke up and texted the client, or if the client had the lovely experience of trying to get in touch and not hearing anything back. If the latter, I can understand why the client wanted to share that feedback. As we all know, RM reviews are pretty unreliable. So the client decided that giving his feedback was worthwhile, even though the reviews are supposed to be only for actual meetings; as we also all know, RM doesn't offer any way to give feedback about flakeage (like Daddy's), even though it's a real thing that deserves to be shared (and often is shared on this very forum). Bending the review format to accommodate feedback that has no other place on RM to go may be breaking RM's rules, but it sure isn't "lying." As far as "Are Photos Accurate?" question goes, here's the thing. RM only offers two choices: "Yes they are" and "No they are not". It also doesn't let you pass on the question. I don't see how he could have answered that question appropriately either way. Yes, I agree that this makes a RM review not ideal. But if he didn't know about the existence of these forums (and not everyone does, especially now that it's not linked from Daddy's), the alternative was to not share his experience at all. And that's not good for anybody. But this is exactly what you did, repeatedly, in this thread! I don't care how great a provider (or client) is, just because they tell you something does not mean it is true. One party to a bad review stating something about what happened is not exactly conclusive evidence! You could have just said "I asked WB and he said ____" but instead you said "____" as if it was just a fact.

@freecahill1965, based on the information in the PM you sent me, 1) you are doing Wickedboy a huge disservice by your posts in this thread and 2) you are deliberately painting a picture of what happened that you know to be completely untrue. The ironic thing is, if you just shared the truth, it would make Wickedboy look good (and human, like the rest of us). Instead, you are showing yourself to be an unreliable witness. I'm not interested in divulging anything shared with me in a PM. I will, however share my own conclusion: that the negative review is 100% legit; and that Wickedboy eventually responded to the reviewer in a top notch, professional way. I would urge everyone else who's jumped on the that-must-be-an-awful-client train to wait until there is more information before coming to that judgment.

Also, FWIW, the user who left the 2 star review has, according to RentMen, sponsored/gifted 27 different escorts on the site, and has left a number of reviews, which mostly seem to be positive. And it's a 2 star review, not even a 1 star review... even great providers have people they just don't click with!

That's really helpful, thanks @Hung_Cody. I haven't met him, but I definitely remember seeing his face (and his brawn) on Manhunt back in the day.

Does anyone else find it weird that the last two reviews are August 24, 5 stars, from "Dwilli" August 26, 2 stars, from "DaveWilliam" (premium user) Seems like quite a coincidence. Also, respectfully @freecahill1965, you keep repeating that this guy never met Wickedboy, but we don't know that. What we know is simply that Wickedboy says they never met. Not saying there is any reason to doubt that, especially given the nice things people here have had to say about him. But, we don't know for sure what happened, especially without an actual account from both people.

Ultimately, as @latbear4blk said, it's a useful expression. It's just a way of talking about things, it's vocabulary. And it's a good way of distinguishing between what @TruHart1 describes, and other things that are less relational (though not necessarily less awesome). The tricky part, and the reason I think it can feel like a "fake" description, is of course that you can't simply manufacture that kind of personal connection. There has to be some kind of spark, some meshing of persons that is conducive to giving a shit about the other person. However, good providers are often skilled at finding ways to make that spark happen, both for themself and for the other party. As a psychotherapist friend likes to say, "You can pay me for my professional services. You can't pay me to care about you. But I do care about other people, because I'm human, and when I care about a client it becomes a 100% relevant part of my professional services." I've always parsed the phrase as meaning "an experience like you might have, for a few hours, with a boyfriend" -- not "the totality of what it's like to have a long-term boyfriend."

I chatted with him last year and he seemed like a good guy, but I never got around to following up. If you give him a shot, I'd love to hear about it.

I have to admit, when I saw him pop up on RM, I was a little surprised I hadn't seen a post here by you yet, cahill

I'm pretty sure the same guy -- not with these pics, but definitely the same guy in the pics, and similar details in the profile text -- has been on RM in Boston on and off since at least this spring. I figured he was just changing his profile name but maybe he's making new profiles instead, given that membership date. He feels credible to me but who knows.

I too think more signs point to what Hung_Cody suspects, that he just got spooked. I mean, that instagram also has a pic posted yesterday from Provincetown, MA. Sigh.

FWIW, he definitely was a firefighter. He also definitely was, or possibly still is, a cop. The online record is pretty unambiguous about these points.

The article title calls this "sexual advances" which is incredibly misleading. Country bumpkin or no country bumpkin, what happened here is pretty clear grounds for self-defense by any means necessary. The above text makes it clear that Kanczes * sexually assaulted him while he slept * tried to do it again * prevented him from leaving * threatened to kidnap him Additionally, this article http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/nyc-crime/ny-metro-california-bodybuilder-stabs-man-20180815-story.html tells us that * according to the defense lawyers, Kanczes also tried to drug him * just prior to the stabbings, Kanczes not only blocked the way out of the apartment but said "that he had a gun, that he has the means to cut off his WiFi and his contact with the world" While I agree that 16 stabs sounds like a lot, if you are legitimately fearing for your life -- which many of us would be in that situation -- the fight-or-flight instinct can be pretty overwhelming. The number of stabs is the only thing here that is even remotely questionable, but stabs can be fast -- it really does sound like this happened in a flash. And that doesn't even get into the fact that Kanczes and his friends deliberately and (as it looks right now) fraudulently engineered the whole situation. This is classic abuser behavior. The only thing unusual here is that the abuser didn't get away with it -- perhaps this demonstrates why this kind of abuse is usually directed at people who are smaller or weaker than the abuser. (And if they can't find at least one person on a NYC jury who can understand that, something is very wrong.)

It's also possible that the LinkedIn page is outdated. Hung_Cody has convinced me that may be the case, based on some other details of his instagram that I hadn't noticed. Other research of mine suggests he was definitely still a cop a few months ago, but that timeline actually fits with instagram. Soooo... looking forward to hearing back, hehe.

I looked a little further at the instagram, onlyfans, linkedin, and some other google results. Without sharing any personal or personally identifiable details: there is a real law enforcement connection, and there are some other signs which, while not totally disconcerting, are a little ambiguous. I think it's possible he's legit. But I also think it's possible the ad is fake, that it's a trap, or that something too bizarre for us to think of is going on. It's a weird situation. Probably best to be cautious and avoid.

How many cops have instagram pages like that? Wow...

I used to believe that. Given the world today, I am increasingly skeptical.

Expecting a provider to travel 90+ minutes to your location (plus another 90+ on the way back) and pay for a hotel room there out of their own pocket is a lot to ask for a 2 hour appointment, IMHO. I mean, he's not earning any more from those 2 hours than he would from 2 hours where he's already staying, but the time, effort, and expenditures required on his part are a LOT greater. An extra 3 hours driving, the cost of gas, the cost of a hotel room. Plus the extra legwork dealing with booking the hotel, location-logistics for other clients, etc. It does seem like the communication between you fell apart at some point. But I think the bigger problem here is one of trying to arrange a deal that is so one-sided. I don't understand how an arrangement like this could ever seem worthwhile to a provider. (Especially when it's with a new client and not someone they already know and trust.)

Based on a recent in-person sighting, it's not photoshopped. It definitely has some unusual topology and is insanely girthy, which I think leads to the pictures looking like the scale is off. There are a few porn scenes out there so you can also compare with those.

Spot on. Can't unsee it now!

Are you really attempting to do an A/B test with one actual picture and one not-even-lined-up-properly photoshop job?