Oh my relationship with mine is certainly complex. We're at a point I feel where we are worn out from so much. It's been a long, hard ride, and it's not over yet. In fact it's just really beginning, even though he's now 60 years old. I never got to tell my mother about myself, but maybe she knew in a way. My father has been the dominant parent in my life by now and he can be very controlling at times - he's cranky at times. It all depends on the day and the mood he's in. I think I share some things with my father... I am sorry your dad died so young, David1024. I lost a parent very young as well.