Just Chuck

When making funeral arrangements for a relative a few years ago, I was browsing a catalog of burial urns for cremated remains. I found one that's a compostable planter specifically sized for saplings. I'd love for my remains to be absorbed and used by pecan tree in one of the woodsy parts of the USA, so I can become nourishment for the tree and for the ecosystem around the tree.

I haven't found a good website where male professional dominants advertise. Female and transexual dommes advertise on www.dickievirgin.com. You can search for male BDSM providers who see men on www.tryst.link but only find a handful world-wide. www.rent.men has "S&M" and "Bondage" available as searchable preferences. But they generally return a lot of escorts who are open to some kink scenes rather than professional dominant men. Do you know of another site that I'm not aware of?

I lived in Santa Fe in the 90's and loved it. It was more of a bohemian hippy art colony then and less Rodeo Drive. It was expensive then and has grown more so. A lot of long time residents up there (even ones who love it there) retire to lower elevations so they don't have to deal with the altitude and snowy winters in their old age. I like ABQ. I would gladly move there, myself. The show "Breaking Bad" did accurately capture a gritty underside of ABQ. (65th highest violent crime rate in the US according to the FBI Uniform Crime Report) I would love to live there. There's a ton of stuff to do in ABQ. I would not want to raise a family there, though.

I've had more than one "sensual" or "erotic" massage where the massage itself was entirely a therapeutic massage (and a good one at that) but with no sexual tension or energy at all. Then, at the end, the masseur switches gears entirely and does something to provide a sexual release. I think I'd go back to those masseurs if they reversed the sequence. Get the sexual tension and energy out of the way first and I'll melt like butter in a technical therapeutic massage. Have you ever seen a masseur offer this type of session?

It's important to ensure that everyone gets a turn being the center of attention for the other two people. It's easy for the two people with the most chemistry to gravitate towards each other and leave someone feeling left out and undesired. You can make a game of that with a playtime rule, like: every time the song changes on the music playing, we switch up who's the centerpiece. Deciding to sleep together as a threesome is a whole different set of logistic challenges. Whoever sleeps in the middle better like to be very warm when they sleep.

I've had more than one massage where the masseur used a free pandora account. So, every ten minutes or so, I got to listen to a Home Depot commercial.

The most frequent annoying behavior I've seen from Masseurs is to keep checking their phone during the session. But, that's not the most annoying thing I've had happen. Several years ago, I had a masseur keep chatterbox talking to me in . . . .baby talk throughout the session. "We don't want any nasty old stwess in ow muscles, now do we."

I’ve done that with straight guys a handful (pun intended) of times. I have about a 50/50 record of them either a) loving it all the way through or b) freaking out in a wave of panicked homophobia where I have to talk them down.

I've worn briefs nearly my whole life. As boxers and boxer briefs come in and out of style, I've tried them. The fabric of everything but briefs always seems to get bunched up around the intersection of my thighs and my hips. I've only had luck with briefs or compression shorts staying where they're supposed to.

Turkish Kiss oh…😬 It never occurred to me that you could do that.

I’m not familiar with the term Turkish Kisses. What does that mean?

I was just browsing RentMasseur. I think it's probably also a clue that more than a handjob is available if they list their HIV status.

He has 27 five star reviews as of 2/1/23. So, I suspect I'm going to hear good things about him, but I'd like to hear from anyone who's met Bubblee in DFW. Here's a link to Bubblee's ad. I love an articulate clean-cut twink.

If I want a massage and more than a handjob, I don't look on the massage ad sites, I look on rent.men and check "Erotic Massage" under the Services tab and then click "Oral" under the Preferences tab. Another clue is when I see someone advertise on both an escort site and a massage site. Sometimes they even use the same screen name and photos between both sites.

The Big Gay Review is a fantastic resource for toy info. It has in-depth reviews of (I’m guessing) a few hundred different toys.

A trans man friend of mine once said on their social media feed “when you and I are both negotiating bringing our genitals together, you can ask about mine, and not before.”

I love trans men. I've seen a handful of pro providers and dated one outside of the pro/client relationship. I've become friends and kept touch with them all too.

I went there a few months ago. I was there about 7PM mid-week. It was pretty busy. They had several dancers, but they were almost clones of each other. Latin bodybuilders over 6-feet tall. Not a bad look, but they all had the SAME look. I was put off by the pushiness of a couple of the dancers though. One (that I was trying to give a "thank you, but no thank you" message to) practically wrestled to hold me and grope me. I went there a couple of years ago and the dancers were more diverse.

There's always ads up for GHs on DoubleList. I've never done it though.

The first time I saw one was in the 1990's and I didn't know what it was. I was checking out an adult book store with private video booths. I was very new to that. I didn't pay attention to the perfectly hole-sawed opening in the sidewall of the booth until someone poked a finger through with a come-hither motion. I had no idea what that meant. I remember visiting another video booth in the 1990's with these neat hinged small doors maybe 6"X9" on both sides of the walls like the doors to adjoining hotel rooms. Both sides would have to unlock and open before there was access. I accidentally wandered into a glory hole booth at Midtowne Spa in Denver once. It was really neatly designed. The side I stepped into had about three or four stairs to walk up then turn into the booth where there was an opening at waist height. The other side had the same opening at standing face height. It wasn't what I was looking for at the time and as I turned around to walk out, I saw a very disappointed-looking man in his late seventies stop shuffling toward the lower booth.

I'm a runner. Running shorts are usually shorter than gym shorts and I love the 5" running shorts for most workouts. I was packing for travel recently and reached into my pile of black running shorts. When I decided to go for a run at my destination, I realized I'd packed split-side 3" racing shorts. That town in Tennessee saw ALL of my thighs.

He advertises as an escort also. If that weighs into you decision on who to see, you can look him up under the same screen name.

I hadn't heard of it. This is the place, right? https://www.enjoytheviewdallas.com Here's the instagram feed: https://www.instagram.com/theviewdallas/ I'll have to make a point to check it out. The photos make the club look attractive.

Okay. I'd want to pick blue for those times when that's what I'd want. Thank you. I was worried that I would signal that I wanted a bound fisting gang-bang or some other deep-end-of-the-pool thing. How about red or yellow?

More specifically, I'm interested in the Cellblock 13 spandex hood with mesh eyes. Would blue mesh send a message, or just look good?