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Nice guy.  However, he insists on payment prior to involvement.  

Ever since Sauna Gran Via and Black and White Bar closed, it appears that Madrid has lost contact with gay-4-pay arrangements in a public setting.  Now, Barcelona, on the other hand, is quite a treat.   

I have been to Thermas many times.  I was never aware of any American working at the sauna in Barcelona.  I assume it is possible.  
However, in Zurich, at Paragonya, one time I met an American working there.  That was about three years ago.  
I asked the American why he chose Zurich for work.  He replied that he and some of his friends/acquaintances do a "tour" and go to various saunas and clubs around Europe.  He also said that some of his traveling friends are Canadians.  
  

He will want a deposit if you want to make an appointment with the imaginary provider. 

I'm paranoid so I always worry. I'm also not very lucky, so the paranoia pays off. 

This is where I count my lucky stars that I am an Englishman. This side of the pond, paying someone money in exchange for sexual services is perfectly legal, and I am never doing anything against the law whenever I hire. Hiring is not something that causes me any anxiety like it is for those of you over in the States. 
Mind you, I've hired in the US before (NYC and San Francisco), and I think that even though hiring is illegal there (?), they are such liberal places that there is no reason to worry. I certainly didn't feel anxious at all, especially when I was in California.

The arrest of Kyle Snyder should be a cautionary warning to those of us who hire from rentmen or from any other online site.   
In the instant case, Snyder had the "escort" (that he thought he was hiring) come to his hotel room.  Instead of an "escort" coming to the room, it was a policeman who arrived and then asked for the money from Snyder.  Upon Snyder giving the cop the asked-for money, several other cops suddenly came to the room and promptly placed Snyder in handcuffs and told him he was under arrest for prostitution solicitation. 
Further, it was heard in the video that one cop said to Snyder, It's time for your "walk of shame" which meant that Snyder had to walk down the hotel hallway (handcuffed and into the hotel lobby and (presumably into a police car, when he was taken to jail.  
Any thoughts about this?  If this can happen to Snyder, it can happen to any of us who hire from online sites.   
Hence, although it might take extra time in hiring an "escort", it is safer to agree to first meet the "escort" in a local bar or other public place.  If you meet the "escort" in public, it is unlikely that the cop will have several other cops waiting for you to offer the first cop money for prostitution.  
This could happen to any of us.  Be careful and realize that the person who advertises and says he is an "escort" could be a cop (with additional cops in tow).
 
 
 

If I were in LA I’d engage him no question. I don’t think it’s unusual to have no reviews in five months. Many of us aren’t willing to pay the high RM membership fees so our reviews are not possible. If the vibe is good go ahead and hire him. He’s very hot.

It seems ancient history to some, but for those of us who lived through the epidemic, we can never forget the suffering and anguish of our friends who didn't make it. Let's remember them today.

Thank you for the clarification.

Great idea, in theory.  
However, those laws remain in place. 
People tend to dislike being tied to a schedule, especially when they must remember to take medicine over time.  
Even though they need the medication to stay negative, many people forget or just stop caring after a while and miss their doses of the medication and become infectious.  

I have been to Thermas many times.  I was never aware of any American working at the sauna in Barcelona.  I assume it is possible.  
However, in Zurich, at Paragonya, one time I met an American working there.  That was about three years ago.  
I asked the American why he chose Zurich for work.  He replied that he and some of his friends/acquaintances do a "tour" and go to various saunas and clubs around Europe.  He also said that some of his traveling friends are Canadians.  
  

What difference does that make? The entire world already knows what happened. 

If you had listened to the court video, you would have heard that the case would remain unsealed for two years, after which, the case would be sealed from public access.  
 
 

If anyone is interested, the link below will take you to the actual recording of the trial wherein Kyle Snyder was required to plead guilty or not guilty. 
Obviously, he pleaded guilty. 
He was fined $250.00 plus court costs of an undisclosed amount.  He had also been required to take a paid course about how negative it is to hire a prostitute. 
It was pathetic to hear Kyle say, in court, that the "class" taught him about his behavior and about prostitution.  In short, the court hearing required Kyle to agree that he was a negative person because he tried to hire a prostitute. 
I think the entrapment law of someone who merely tries to hire a prostitute is from a different era.  Times have changed, but the outdated laws stay on the books that allow police to entrap and arrest someone for a non-violent "crime".  
Here is the link to the recorded court appearance of Kyle:
 

You leave after driving forty or fifty miles to the escort, after he pulls that unexpected advance payment stunt? 
That is a lot of driving time, especially if one lives in a large city.
You said that you would leave.  
What about others out here who drive or travel a long way only to have the escort change the rules and insist on advance payment?
There is no question that the rules for hiring have changed in favor of the escort, considering the relatively new high hike in prices and the ever-so-common advance payment demand.  
Has anyone reached a "happy Medium" so to speak, with advance payment, together with a long travel trip to the escort?

You leave after driving forty or fifty miles to the escort, after he pulls that unexpected advance payment stunt? 
That is a lot of driving time, especially if one lives in a large city.
You said that you would leave.  
What about others out here who drive or travel a long way only to have the escort change the rules and insist on advance payment?
There is no question that the rules for hiring have changed in favor of the escort, considering the relatively new high hike in prices and the ever-so-common advance payment demand.  
Has anyone reached a "happy Medium" so to speak, with advance payment, together with a long travel trip to the escort?

Isn't "entrapment" illegal anymore??? It's not like he picked up a hooker off the streets down in skid lane or tried to pick up and exposed himself to an undercover Vice Squad agent in a public men's room! 🤬 He answered what he thought was a legitimate ad on a site and was in a hotel room! How the hell does that hurt anybody?!! Why are the "buyers" being persecuted and not the "sellers"??? 😡 That's like saying you can sell drugs on the street but if we catch anybody buying them, then you go to jail and are fined! 

As if there weren't enough criminals, street thugs and crimes to put their efforts into stopping! This is what they do with taxpayers money in the name of the law for public safety! 🤬

The arrest of Kyle Snyder should be a cautionary warning to those of us who hire from rentmen or from any other online site.   
In the instant case, Snyder had the "escort" (that he thought he was hiring) come to his hotel room.  Instead of an "escort" coming to the room, it was a policeman who arrived and then asked for the money from Snyder.  Upon Snyder giving the cop the asked-for money, several other cops suddenly came to the room and promptly placed Snyder in handcuffs and told him he was under arrest for prostitution solicitation. 
Further, it was heard in the video that one cop said to Snyder, It's time for your "walk of shame" which meant that Snyder had to walk down the hotel hallway (handcuffed and into the hotel lobby and (presumably into a police car, when he was taken to jail.  
Any thoughts about this?  If this can happen to Snyder, it can happen to any of us who hire from online sites.   
Hence, although it might take extra time in hiring an "escort", it is safer to agree to first meet the "escort" in a local bar or other public place.  If you meet the "escort" in public, it is unlikely that the cop will have several other cops waiting for you to offer the first cop money for prostitution.  
This could happen to any of us.  Be careful and realize that the person who advertises and says he is an "escort" could be a cop (with additional cops in tow).
 
 
 

Nope. Not much else to the evening. Thank you for victim shaming. 

You asked for feedback and you got it. I suggest you think about it and digest it instead of rejecting it. You need some serious therapy. 

Thank you all for your feedback. I see that some people will always find fault in the client seeking a service and when it becomes (my) traumatic experience,  this wasn't the place to post it. 

sounds like a bad incident - but let me say this: sometimes when you are negative it become a self fulfilling prophecy. 
 
1. you went to a bathhouse despite not liking them feeling uncomfortable. How is this his fault?
2. you get there and are uncomfortable, complaining about the room. How is this his fault?
3. you talk about how you will only pay in a way that you can get your money back with the provider (im sure that is going to make him feel great)  How is this his fault?
4. you sit there visibly uncomfortable, he suggests maybe bringing in someone else to help. (you don't mention any ideas you have to make you feel more comfortable - you are also an active participant here. he is not a mind reader)  How is this his fault? 
5. you tell him you now want to leave after he has gone out his way to prepare to meet you, travel to the bathhouse. Of course he is going to be annoyed.  he thinks you are probably going to reverse the payment like you suggested at the start.  How is this his fault?
 
You willed this into situation into existence and you need to take some responsibly for it. I'm not saying what he did was right - but you literally threatened him that you would reverse payment if you were not happy. Not a great way to start a session. 
 
You may want to explore seeing a therapist or counselor and work on anxiety instead of hiring sex workers in bathhouses. 

What if you spent a lot of time driving to the escort, and he springs the advance payment requirement?  Do you leave?