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Thanks for the mention. Heath, the other guy in the video, doesn't actually get fucked all that much, which is possibly why he's so sensitive and responsive to it. It's certainly about hitting the prostate at just the right angle, but there's more to it than that. Getting in a position that allows one to relax fully is a big part of it too, which is what I love about a sling.

This is a little shameless promotion. I shot a little video with the very sexy Heath Alan last week. Was alot of fun. He joined me with a client a couple months ago and had an internalized orgasm while I fucked him. Well, we made it happen again in this video. It's getting plenty of views, but no ratings so far, so if you like it, please rate it. https://rent.men/videos/play/44112

You're discussion of monogamy brought up something that happened recently. I was back in VA visiting my family. My parents have been divorced since I was 5, my mom and older sister live just outside Richmond, while my dad still lives in the Appalachian Mountains, where I grew up, and he's very conservative, where as the rest of us are quite liberal. I was at the dinner table talking about how Steve (my partner for 7 years) and I have been discussing getting married in the next few years. My dad said he was surprised. I asked him why and he said that he didn't think that we were committed to each other, in the sense of monogamy (I had mentioned before that we have an open relationship). I explained that for us emotional commitment is what a relationship is about, we are deeply committed to one another but that doesn't mean that we control what one another can do with their bodies.

Ahhhh, thanks so much hun, really appreciate that!

Absolutely!!!

So many great points! I feel that I have come a long way in life at abandoning irrational fears and not looking at things so dualistically, but like you said, we aren't perfect. Parts of our mammalian brain take over at times and we fall into stereotyping and drawing assumptions. I am far too humbled to say that I'm free of any racism, sexism, or internalized homophobia. "Don't let perfect become the enemy of good"

Thanks for the thoughtful reply and for pointing out the typo, change made.

I've recently been chatting with a guy that I've seen once as a client (fairly typically appointment) but I've been talking to him about considering Surrogate Partner Therapy, as he could use some therapy and healing from past abuses and abandonment. Many of the feelings and thoughts he has shared demonstrate internalized homophobia, including the feeling that gay men are inherently conniving and wanting to hurt one another. Ive seen similar comments here on the forum, so I wanted to discuss the topic of internalized homophobia. Comments that generalize how gay men "are" or what they should be, or attempts to shame gay men that don't blend in and conform to "masculine" standards are just a few examples of how internalized homophobia shows itself. Here's a great segment from an article I found, which can be viewed in its entirety HERE. "Internalized homophobia is a concept much more nuanced than it’s simple definition would suggest. It is clear that the word “homophobia” in this context, is misleading – the over simplified idea that it is individual acts of fear and ignorancediverts our attention from the much more pervasive systemic oppression that is at the root of the problem. The hateful and intolerant behavior of those closest to us often has the most profound impact (parents, church community, peers, partners). While they should be held responsible as individuals, the real culprit is an aggressively heterosexist society that is defining what is “normal,” and therefore what is “right” and “wrong,” through laws, policy, culture, education, health care, religion and family life. This systemic oppression is meant to enforce the gender binary, marginalize LGBTQ people, and keep heterosexual people and their relationships in a position of dominance and privilege. When we see that homophobia is a result of a this larger system, we see that it is institutional; that it is impossible to exist outside of it; that the real definition of it is so much more than the dictionary simplicity of “irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals;” that the root structure is vast, affecting every aspect of life and culture. All of these factors make dismantling heterosexism extremely complicated, and uprooting internalized homophobia even more so. The awareness of stigma that surrounds homosexuality leads the experience to become an extremely negative one; shame and secrecy, silence and self-awareness, a strong sense of differentness – and of peculiarity – pervades the consciousness.’ (Plumer,1996). The role of secrecy and dishonesty in cases of internalized homophobia, is significant. Some examples include: Denial – ranging from aggressive and hateful behavior to denying yourself the life and love you desire; Lying to yourself about attraction and sexuality; The inability to “come out” if you want to, and if you can safely. (see more about “coming out below); Being selectively “out” (see “coming out” below); Secret relationships; Forcing others to keep secrets or remain in the closet; Lying by omission"

My junk, accessorized!

I am planning to be there and will certainly be taking appts. I'm hoping to stay at the condos where I normally stay (a friend manages a few and usually hooks me up with one), however I'm concerned there might not be any available. I might book something elsewhere as a back up plan.

I only get there once a year, in the fall. I stayed in Boystown on the last trip, and will likely stay there again in the future.

With Surrogate Partner Therapy there is both a therapist and a Surrogate that are working with the client. They work with the client separately but communicate with one another to evaluate progress. As a Surrogate I take them through exercises in touch, sensate focus, relaxation, body awareness, and slowly build on the emotional and physical intimacy. For some the intimacy has to build very slowly, for example, someone that has a history of abuse or molestation, it might take months of seeing them weekly, just for them to be comfortable undressing. The ultimate goal is usually some type of sexual intercourse, after all the purpose of the therapy is for them to be able to take their knowledge and new found confidence out into the world and foster healthy relationships. The therapy ends either when the client decides, or when the goal has been reached and there is a period of at least 6 months, when the client and Surrogate are not to be in contact, so that they can "go it on there own". Check out the website IPSA.us for more info.

They now call then Surrogate Partners, rather than Sex Surrogates, but either way, I am one of them. In fact, I'm the only gay male Surrogate Partner Therapy practitioner that's currently taking new clients in Northern California. I just went through training back in April, so I'm still considered an intern. There aren't nearly as many as there were in the 70's, during the hay day of Masters & Johnson and before the AIDS epidemic. There's a great documentary on Netflix called that shows a British man and woman who each come to the US to work with a Surrogate Partner. There's of course also the movie , starring Helen Hunt. There are more Surrogates in the bay area than anywhere else, in fact, I'm hosting our monthly gathering next week.

I wasn't equating sex worker rights to civil rights, but now that you mention it, rights are rights. When Martin Luther King stated that an "unjust law is no law at all", I believe he meant it to transcend the civil rights movement. Laws that restrict consenting adults from doing as they wish with their bodies and money are unjust. No victim=No crime.

Not sure what's funny. Do you believe in the importance of civil disobedience?

All I know is that the $700 I invested less than 3 months ago is now worth $2800, and I'm gonna keep riding it.

I had done alot of sounding and urethra play before doing that. It's not unlike the question "doesn't taking a fist or huge cock hurt?" You don't start off there

And THERE I am, with some very old pics

I have worked with quite a few guys that have been abused, raped and sexually molested, both by males and females. Some of the guys were technically molested, but have no resentment or trauma, but for most it does create major issues around touch, intimacy and owning of one's body. There are certainly fantasies around rape and incest, but the reality isn't sexy.

Thanks for that hun! Yeah, I am a trained and skilled massage therapist.

Ahhhh, thanks hun, and also thanks for sharing that link. It's certainly something to keep in mind. I won't say who it is, but a certain escort who's on this forum from time to time invested into bitcoin early and is now traveling the world and may actually retire.

I don't think that fraud and manipulation are as much an issue as money laundering and purchasing of illegal items. The encryption system is more secure than using a credit card.

Crypto currency is neither a pyramid nor a ponzy scheme. It's value is based on the faith and trust that it's users have in the system, pretty much like all other forms of currency. Of course things like regulation, especially in China, could heavily effect it's value, but in this technological age, I believe it's usefulness and value will continue to grow. The value of it grows because there are a limited number of Bitcoin available. I had someone that paid me in bitcoin for staying at my apartment. He gave me $700 on Sept 18th, which is now worth almost $1300. I also went ahead and bought $100 in Litecoin and plan to buy a couple hundred more if it drops back down to close to $55 again.