My stomping ground was NYC in the 70's, 80's, and 90's, a smorgasbord of gay bars for every taste. I also have fond memories of the gay live theaters I knew, the Tom Kat on west 42nd Street, the Eros on Eighth Avenue, and of course, the Gaiety. In the early years the bars were havens from the cruel, judgemental outside world and generated an atmosphere of camaraderie and acceptance. Unfortunately, over time, that atmosphere eroded as the teeth of the negative criticisms and judgements of society in general invaded the gay compounds, gnashing and tearing with equal or greater intensity. Without intending to throw shade anywhere, I feel blessed to have my fond memories of the old days. Were I just now beginning as a young person, I seriously doubt that I could adapt to today's high-tech social shark tank.