BoyOnABoat

The napkin math of "just get 2-3 clients a day and charge them all $300 /hour" does not match the reality of getting a consistent stream of clientele.

I've always wanted a gum-job. I have only heard great things about how it feels. Also in my experience every man's body is a little bit unique. I have met a lot of older men who are up front apologetic about how their body currently works due to some surgery/injury/whatever that has happened in the past. This stuff never really bothers me and I am well-aware that in time my body will change and get quirks as I get older, too. I think anyone who would give you a hard time is a little insecure or has not yet had any sort of injury that can check their ego.

I thought BB was default until a recent trip to Europe. I was in Spain and fucking raw still seemed to be not quite the standard with a lot of guys. I learned from someone that it was a little bit harder to get access to PrEP/Doxy there so a lot of guys still played with condoms. I never used them in any of my encounters there, but I think the BB == default is operating under the assumption that men have easy access to preventative care.

I had correspondence with a man out of state who made a request along these lines. He acknowledged upfront that it might come across as rude, and then explained that he had been attacked by a group of Latino men decades ago. He said my appearance reminded him of them, described my look as “scruffy,” and said it was the least sexy a man could be. He then asked that, if I visited, I change how I dress and groom to better suit his comfort. Setting aside that I’m not even Latino, I found the framing uncomfortable. There’s a difference between a light, reversible request, like specific clothing or grooming for a scene, and asking someone to alter their overall appearance based on a personal association like that. For me, presentation is intentional and part of how I express myself. I think it’s important that both provider and client can show up feeling genuinely comfortable and attracted to each other as they are. If the baseline attraction isn’t there, it makes more sense to find a better match than to try to reshape someone to fit a preference.