Elite_XL

I feel like some people don’t realize that this is a business that has a demand and a market by seasons just like any other. Places like Arizona and Florida work better during winter than summer because those that can afford it move back and forth for the warm weather. Washington DC has a lot of movement due to various reasons. It could be seasonal for spring, conferences or work trips. Among others that I could be missing. The same thing goes for places like Chicago and Boston. Boston is more crowded during Fall and Spring. Chicago is more popular during summer. Both of those places become dead in winter. You have got to read and understand what drives the market, where, and why. Then break it down to your niche customer base and where they could be going to.

I suppose some people just don’t know how or don’t bother with responding. This one is probably the funniest interaction I have had so far.

I would say, try to mindful of your emotions. Don’t just ignore them but understand what you are feeling and why. Remember why you are hiring someone and that this is their job. If you realize that you are catching feelings, acknowledge it, and take a step back or even distance yourself for some time. If you prefer, try to share it with the provider so you don’t lose the connection either way. If there are feelings from both sides, then great. Take it from there.

It depends on where you found the guy. I have ran into scammers on places like grindr that say they do massages but in reality they just want to rip you off.

Surely you can ask the provider if they could shave it off if that is a big turn off for you. I would first ask to see pictures to see how they look without it. Might be an even bigger turn off 😂 Unfortunately, beards just don’t look good on some people or they don’t know how to shave it around properly. Ignorance is bliss though

Don’t put me in the chopping block for it. My block list is likely on the single digit number. It was mostly for people that had no clear intentions of meeting up. Either way, I was giving them a different perspective on what we see on the site and why they might act the way they did. Most of the time, I was being proactive to people that request my private album or that have checked my profile several times and are in the area. You can either sit there or make a move to try and break the ice. I choose the later. I can’t read your mind if you find that to be invasive, and Im sorry if it made you feel that way. As for the others that might do it more often than not. They could be annoyed by the message notifications from rent masseur site for each time someone views their profile. (I don’t think you can disable that). Some might not like it when you request their private album that leads to nothing. I could sit here for a while and try to un puzzle each ones way of thinking and behaving. While not coming to any relative conclusion. At some point, I even got blocked by an actual client after meeting up to then have them reach out to me again for another meeting from a different number. People have their own shenanigans going on in their heads. This one? Perhaps didn’t want to have anything connected to me afterwards. Who tf knows. Whether OP or whoever got blocked, thats too bad. Move on and try to find someone else that fits you. Try to understand their perspective, see if you could have been offensive in any way and learn from it. Conclusion, I would rather have someone reach out with clear expectation and communication. If you can’t meet now but want to in the future. Its fine, just say it. You are far and want to know when Im going to travel to your city? Ask. Want to know what Im into? Ask.

It really depends on how you approach the conversation. If its very far out, then yes, we will most likely not give much thought into it. I usually try to give the benefit of the doubt to the client before assuming that he is a flake. I have seen both ends, the time wasters and the ones that actually apologize if plans changed. The latter is understandable. Unfortunately, there are also providers with massive egos that need it to be stroked. Which would probably just ignore you. I don’t mind it when it’s on the same day. However, that might mean I am unable to host and can only travel. Preferably if its with a day in advance. If you would want me to fly somewhere and meet you there, then atleast a week would be ideal. There it would a deposit for obvious reasons.

I sometimes check to see the profiles that visited me, if it has been multiple times, I will reach out to them. If I dont get an answer back, I will either block or ignore it as they are not serious probably.

Generally, it is how each one of us is wired. I get easily aroused from touch and intimacy, while something that puts me off is the smell and hygiene. It differs from one person to another. It does have a lot to do with making the provider feel valued. If there is pressure or tension, dont expect us to perform properly.

It has been quite helpful to understand different perspectives on how people might view companionship. It definitely differs based on experience, personal needs, background, culture, and economic situation. Important to clarify, just because the companionship is transactional, it does not mean that the provider doesn’t want to be there. It is still a job that requires emotional presence, sustained attention, and social performance. You don’t tell an employee that they are only at your company because of the money. If you do actually think that, you need to reevaluate some things. Key points drawn from this. Providers side: - Providers reject the idea that companionship should be free. - Any unpaid time is a personal choice, not an obligation or industry norm. - Protecting boundaries is a business necessity and an emotional safeguard. From the Clients Side: - Most clients accept and respect paying for that time. - Emotional discomfort arises not from the cost itself, but from what the cost symbolises. - Clients value off-the-clock moments. The dominant conclusion seems to be: Time is paid unless explicitly stated otherwise. Off-the-clock time is a gift, not a right. Clarity and communication preserves dignity on both sides. It is a sensitive topic as it sits at the intersection of money, desire, ego, fantasy, and emotional labor. Neither side wants to feel used, misunderstood, or devalued.

Sounds good. Looking forward to it!

That is definitely not what I meant and Im sorry if I worded it wronglyor caused misunderstanding. My point was that there is a mixed understanding on what the duties of a provider are, whether its for companionship or merely sex. Both of which can be demanding in their own way. Some seem to have an understanding for providers to be strictly for sex, which is fine. However, when one asks to spend extra time with them. The rate is something that should be clarified.

I do agree that this is a bit of a controversial topic that seems to differ in preferences. There are also lines in the relationship that can get blurred quite easily and very quickly. One sided lines where emotions get intertwined between the client and the provider. Expectations shift, and its complex to walk back into what it was before. There are times where it is mentioned about meeting off the clock, which is fine, as long as it is told. Other times, it is not mentioned whatsoever. When it is not mentioned, thats when expectations arise, miscommunications happen and one party gets upset. Why does this seem like such a sensitive topic to some though?

I have only blocked people that seem to be only chatting and asking vague questions but not showing an actual intent when it comes to meeting up. Other than that, I understand if someone is far and they might be checking out for future trips. However, if you are serious about it. I would rather have you text me and ask if it matches with your expectations .

My question to both of you guys is about the general expectation, when and if, there is a meeting more towards companionship rather than anything sexual. The reason for asking this is that, I get the impression that it should be relatively free because we are being invited to a place to spend time with them while having the dinner or whatever being paid for. What would also be the thought of a provider on this. Would you charge your regular rate, discounted or depends on the situation? If so, how much? Keep in mind that Im asking for general curiosity and to understand both perspectives. I see it as still being a job for a provider, as we need to tune into the general conversation and vibe. Either way, let me know what your thoughts are.