Wow-I have fantasized a lot about BDSM. Have engaged in spanking-nothing serious. I would like to be the dom and have a strong sub. However I have been very feminine, never been in any sports etc. So I really don't know my strength vs some one else's and really worry I could hurt somebody in real life. Plus at this time with a family, not like I can keep such stuff at home! I am not interested in being a sub. I am not sure how to break into this-perhaps need a teacher/guru who can guide me through this. It would be nice to go that far, but then it is a human body and one never knows what is too far?
I wonder for those who played contact sports and the rough and tumble with other males-maybe they are far more aware of their strength?