SecretProvider

you are using their content for free. we get notifications when people view our profiles. if you are looking EVERY DAY, you are unlikely to book and you are satisfying your desires by simply looking - therefore you are not a customer. If you are wanting to know if they will be near your town, 'buddylist' them and you will get a notification.  Or perhaps look once a week. Daily looking is a bit much. How would you feel if you knew someone was looking at your photos every single day. it's a bit creepy. 
some newer profiles are only contactable through rent.men instead of rentmen.eu and only if you have rentmen account. (doesn't have to be premium) 

the answer to the question - Both are nice. 

I'm a provider and I have to be honest one of the worst parts of doing this is the consistent leading on and fake-outs. How are you going to talk to me for over an hour about making plans, then talk to me the entire way through the douching process, and then go MIA the second you're supposed to come over. I'm confused, is it to embarrass us or waste our time? Is it malicious? I don't get it. I'm exhausted. I'm douching my ass out, like that isn't a natural bodily process I really try not to do it unless I have to. 
Either follow through or don't waste provider's time. It's cruel. If you aren't ready to actually meet up with a provider please stop putting us through this.

Recently I booked in advance and made a significant deposit to show I'm serious on meeting. Talked alot before the date and was told on the day of couldn't meet. Was told will send my money back but I have my doubts now. 

Nope. Serious ones know the rate is the rate.

And the really serious ones will try to haggle you down a few bucks 😀
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A podcast is interviewing me soon. We’re going to talk about m4m sex work. The audience is primarily gay men and other LGBTQ+ folks, but isn’t as knowledgeable as most of you here on The Company of Men. Most of them have never hired a masseur or sex worker before. They will want to know all the basics. It’s hard for me to step back and put myself in the shoes of someone who knows almost nothing about the profession, or perhaps has misconceptions about our work.
What questions would you ask me?
What do you think I should cover?
Is there anything you would like other men who are interested in men to know about hiring? Any advice for them?
Some topic ideas:
General
What is sex work?
Who does sex work? 
Who hires sex work?
Why is sex work important and valuable?
Is sex work really work?
Economics
How much do sex workers make?
Why does it cost so much?
What about discounts?
Do I tip my sex worker? How much?
How do I receive the best value for my money?
Do sex workers pay taxes?
What methods of payment can I use?
Risks, Personal Safety
Is sex work legal?
Is sex work safe?
What about STIs?
Will I get in trouble?
Are sex workers discreet?
Will anyone find out?
How do sex workers screen?
How do I select a good sex worker?
How do I avoid fraud and scams?
Practical Matters
Cum
Erections
Performance
Stamina
Hygiene
Sex roles, preferences
Communication 
Expectations
Other
Why do you do this work?
Do sex workers have romantic relationships?