It’s delicate. Some guys I’ve met REALLY don’t want to be thought of in any way shape or form as rent boys, and legitimately say they want richer, older boyfriends. 75% of those same guys I’ve met are ALSO all about “taking it slow.” An awfully high correlation for this to be mere coincidence. Most gay men (and really most MEN) want something if not full on sex within the first few dates. Basically a base every date or every other date at least.
Hell, when I dated WOMEN they wanted to move much faster than these “go slow” SA guys.
So I’ve lost patience and moved on a couple of times. And in each of those times, after I dumped the guy, they called or texted asking for something that would cost me money afterwards if not flat out money...to which I always reply that I WOULD be genuinely generous to an actual boyfriend...maybe that makes me a Chris Hardwick type but daddy has his needs...I feel terrible, like Muriel.