Tom C. Sinclair

@56harrisond I’m not picking up what you’re putting down 🤔

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An experience trying to hire this guy… 1. I broke my rule – no deposits. 2. I had trouble paying him the deposit which should've been a red flag. 3. He required a $300 deposit to talk on the phone. 4. His English is abysmal. Every other English word is interrupted from the next with "es como," which I looked up and in Spanish is the equivalent of the English filler word "like." 5. He told me the arrangement was that we would go on a trip. That had been the first thing I had floated with him months ago, but in the course of discussing things since then, the plan had changed. He also didn't want to hammer out any plans from the get-go until I paid the deposit. Another red flag I ignored. 6. When it was clear that he was having trouble communicating verbally with me, another voice came on the phone. I asked who it was but never got satisfaction. He wanted to switch to texting because he could communicate better that way. No argument there. He probalby runs things through a translator. 7. When we got to text, he insisted that the arrangement had changed and that he agreed because he wanted to have a good time. Which smacks of selfishness. I told him I wanted my $300 back (I had little hope I'd get it back, but it was worth a shot) but he said he was keeping it because the arrangement had changed. I did tell him that his priority to have a good time was misplaced; that his priority should be customer satisfaction. I also told him I’d be sharing this experience here. He never responded after that. Likely he blocked me. So unless you want a quicky with little-to-no conversation, this isn't your guy. I don't know where the good reviews are coming from. Perhaps people who speak Spanish.

The views can both be right. Life is not black and white. Not every escort behaves the same, nor every client. Some will charge more because they don’t want to do it. Some will charge more of the extra effort. Neither precludes the other.

Agreed. But if someone doesn’t offer something because it’s out of their wheelhouse but will for an upcharge, I’m inclined to think you’re paying a premium price for something someone would rather not do, not a premium service. That’s my point. You’re paying more to compensate because it’s not what the guy wants to do, not that it’s premium.

I call that opportunism. And it rubs me wrong. Although bottoming when you don’t typically bottom could be easier to pull off than topping when you don’t typically top. I’m just very against engaging something that’s not your strength for “the right price.” It feels like an Audi price paid for a Nissan performance. It might get the job done, but’s it’s robbery toward the customer.

I wish providers would just be direct and say no. Don’t give a sub-optimal service if you know you will. Likely because it’s out of your specialty or strengths you’re charging more too. So now the client is paying more something of lesser quality. Don’t do that. Just say you don’t provide what’s asking. If you know where to direct him for what he’s asking, great. But don’t take his money for something you already know isn’t going to be the best he can get from you.

I rarely have trouble eating out and asking for substitutions to menu items. If it’s not an option, I can lump it if I really want the entree. I don’t know that that would make me leave a restaurant, though, if I were already seated. I would potentially decide not to hire outright if an escort seemed unwilling to accommodate some sort of special request. It really comes down to what the ask is and a whole host of things. Although the escorting-restaurant analogy is good.

@savantsav, communicate is all I can say. Although I would also say that length of time for an overnight is also on the short end. I typically hire for multiple days if the guy is staying overnight though. I don’t like worrying about time when it’s an overnight and it seems that many guys just want to reduce their hourly rate and go multiples of that per the number of hours they’re with you if you do only one night. If you do multiple nights, it becomes less stressful as far as the clock becomes everyone realizes this is an extended duration. I hate time haggling as much as money haggling. Both seem opportunistic. This is supposed to be enjoyable, not cutthroat.

@glutes, yours isn’t a carbon copy of mine, but that experience tracks.

They were on target.

@coriolis888, I concur. Ask a provider what we’re paying for. I recall the days of those long-ass disclaimers escorts put on their profiles about providing time, not sex. My original comment was snark. We are most definitely paying for sex.

Then we should stop saying that’s what we’re doing. 99% of the issues around hiring is because we don’t say what we mean. For some unknown reason.

I know I’m ugly and unattractive. Hence why I don’t expect dating to work and pay good-looking guys to pretend to like me. I’m fortunate that though ugly, I’m financially able.

Overnight means…overnight. What is all this ambiguity we seem to have about simple words. In any other context where someone would say “I’m going to stay overnight in London on my way to Budapest,” or “I have an overnight flight,” we know exactly what that means. It’s overnight. From tonight to tomorrow. This isn’t hard, people. An overnight for me has always meant the guy stays, sleeps with me, and we part ways the next day. It’s really straightforward.