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I was on a weeks vacation with someone, getting it almost every night. When I got home, this was dropped. ADDENDUM: She told me that she thought it would happen, once she met her girlfriend, so it's not a surprise. And that may be the brunt of it: I've had time to think and adjust.

I've done enough of that to last a lifetime. Seriously. I'm a CBT [not cock-n-ball torture] kinda guy. Thought about it ... don't see that it would help.

I figured I'd post this where the more professional of you might find it. I have never cum with someone else. Even in a mutual J/O session (which have been fewer) or in some of the hottest sex I've ever had. I'm just not wired that way. My ED doesn't help that at all, needless to say. Anyone have suggestions for how to "get off" with someone else doing the work? I've learned to make others happy, and I've been told I give an incredible blow job. Thanks for listening.

My roommate of the past 4+ years is moving out. She [see below] has found the love of her life, and is moving to Wisconsin. I met him as an escort, and knew his life would turn to shit ... and it did. I had offered him a place to stay, you know, for a "while" while he got his life together. I was thinking a couple of months, as someone did for me, at a difficult point in my life. Since then he's become a massage therapist; gotten his BA in English Literature; and has been out of work for three months. Oh, and transitioned from Male to Female. I kinda wonder if I should be feeling something. We've gone through one cat, and are on Cat #2, which I'm keeping (and he's been mine all along; Cat's choice). He's been here for two months of my being in hospital. Admittedly, it's been nice having someone around the house ... the occasional meal, having the garbage taken out weekly ... and lost my Handicap parking sticker in the process ... along with at least one towing due to hitting something while driving. He does have a bit of a habit of what he touches turns to shit. I'll miss her. I think. But I'm not really sad. Not relieved, either. I've lost too many friends in my life to be that effected by another one going. Simultaneously, a Straight fellow I know is leaving for Australia. Another gay friend is moving to Philadelphia to get his life together (his parents are there). I've met a guy and have dinner with him occasionally, and have no idea if there will ever be sex involved. Am I just getting old? Is it time for pack up and leave, myself? And what about Naomi (not to mention The Cat). Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Either. WITH: Hot, manly. WITHOUT: Cute, athletic

And a Dr Brown's Celray Soda

As we deforest the planet, perhaps.

Matt York, of limited fame and one Major Studio film, Gorge. Last saw him in 2009 and he had lost his "pizzaz." He'd found a friend, now husband, who's in the same medical field as I am! And, at 48, still a hot fucker! And we keep in touch with facebook.

Notes on Trick (cont'd) 16. Regrettably few Tricks are attractive enough to be allowed to discuss their innermost thoughts. Only those possessed of truly incredible cheekbones should ever be permitted to use the word energy in a sentence unless they are referring to heating oil. 17. The Trick is not an equal but he is often an equalizer. 18. Occasionally a Trick will succeed so spectacularly that he will make the transition to person. When this occurs he will assume a truly amazing imperiousness of manner. People love to feel superior to their past. 19. Tricks almost always have pets. This is understandable, as everyone needs someone they can talk to on their own level. 20. Taking an emergency telephone call from a Dr. Juan or a Dr. Heather is certain to result in overinvolvement. 21. There is a distinct Trick taste in literature. Among favorite Trick books are those dealing with the quest for God, such as the words of Carlos Castaneda and Herman Hesse; those depicting a glamorous and torturous homosexuality, as in the case of Nightwood by Djuna Barnes; and those assuring Tricks that everything is fine and dandy, especially them. This sort of reading is generally harmless providing they have mastered the technique of reading quietly to themselves. For even the most hopelessly smitten will bridle at being awakened by Anaïs Nin. 22. When it comes to the visual arts a marked Trick preference is also evident. Work that falls into this category is easy to recognize, as the Trick is unfailingly attracted to that which looks as if he could (or did) make it himself. 23. Art movies on television are ideal for luring the reluctant Trick to one’s apartment. There are very few people who dabble in this field who have not seen the first twenty minutes of Loves of a Blonde more times than they care to count. 24. The Trick is, without fail, drawn to the interesting job. Interesting jobs, in this sense, include not only work in museum gift shops but also minor positions on the production crews of documentary films concerning birth defects. 25. The Trick, more often than not, will display an unconquerable bent for creativity. The East Coast Trick leans heavily toward the composition of free-verse poetry, while his West Coast counterpart goes in for song-writing. Tricks of all regions own expensive cameras with which they take swaggeringly grainy photographs of nearby planets and sensitive young drug addicts. This is not difficult to understand, as they are relentless admirers of that which they call art and you call hobbies. “Can’t you see Dan that you are Horace’s plaything—When he talks about your ‘genius’—pulling your leg—that’s to get your ‘genius’!— People always pull other people’s legs when they want to get hold of their genius! —The Apes of God, Wyndham Lewis 26. One man’s Trick is another man’s design assistant. 27. A New York hostess with a penchant for young boys gave a dinner at which a kind and fatherly magazine editor found himself seated across from her Trick. Seeking to put the boy at ease, the editor asked him politely what he did. “I’m an alchemist,” the boy replied. Overhearing the exchange, another guest whispered, “Alchemist? They used to be bank clerks.” 28. There is occasionally some question as to which member of a given duo is the Trick. This sort of confusion results when one (the elder) has money and the other (the younger) has talent. In such cases, and with all due respect to rising young luminaries, unless the money is exceedingly new and the talent exceedingly large, the money, as is its wont, wins. Or as was once said to a somewhat braggardly young artist while window-shopping at Porthaults, “If she has those sheets, you’re the Trick.” 29. Tricks like you for what they aren’t. You like Tricks for what you haven’t. 30. If one half of the couple is a waiter or waitress, he or she is always the Trick. Particularly, or in the case of New York City inevitably, if he or she has artistic ambitions. Such individuals may indeed traffic with those that they in turn refer to as Tricks, but that is a level of society far too submerged to be of any interest. 31. At public gatherings Tricks have been observed speaking to one another. What they actually say can only be a matter of conjecture but it is safe to assume that no money is changing hands. 32. The female Trick of great beauty can be readily identified by her habit of putting a cigarette in her mouth with an attitude of absolute assurance that someone else will light it. 33. It might appear to the casual observer that wives are Tricks. This betrays a sorry lack of perception, since no word as innately lighthearted as Trick could ever be used to describe someone with whom you share a joint checking account. 34. It is not good form to take a Trick out unless one is so firmly established as to be able to afford being associated with someone who might at any given moment write a poem in public. 35. Tricks are often plenteous gift givers. Upon receiving such offerings, one does well to forget old adages, for while it may certainly be true that good things come in small packages it must not be forgotten that this is also the case with ceramic jewelry. 36. Letters from female Tricks are immediately recognizable, as these girls are greatly inclined to cross their sevens and dot their i’s with little circles. In all probability this is caused by their associating the presence of a writing implement in their hand with the playing of tic-tac-toe. “There is a Talmudic saying,” smiled Dr. Frumpfausen … “as follows. In choosing a friend, ascend a step. In choosing a wife, descend a step. When Froggie-would-a-wooing-go, when Froggie is you, my dear boy, he must step down, as many steps as there are beneath him—even unto the last!…” —The Apes of God Wyndham Lewis 37. Tricks are distinctly susceptible to the allure of faraway places. If you reside in the Village they want to breakfast at the Plaza. If you live in Murray Hill it’s Chinatown they long for. But no matter where you make your home, they all share a consuming desire to ride, in the middle of the night, the Staten Island Ferry. They will, without exception, consider your rejection of such a proposal cold and unfeeling, little realizing that you are simply protecting them from what you know would be overwhelming temptation were you ever to find yourself standing behind them on a moving boat. from Metropolitan Life, "Notes on Trick," by Fran Lebowitz

Notes on “Trick” trick, n. from OFr. trichier, to trick, to cheat; Pr. tric, deceit; It. treccare, to cheat. 1. an action or device designed to deceive, swindle, etc.; artifice; a dodge; ruse; stratagem; deception. 2. a practical joke; a mischievous or playful act; prank.… 4. (a) a clever or difficult act intended to amuse … (b) any feat requiring skill. 5. the art, method, or process of doing something successfully or of getting a result quickly … 6. an expedient or convention of an art, craft, or trade … 7. a personal mannerism … I have chosen these definitions, carefully selected from the Unabridged Second Edition of Webster’s Dictionary, on the basis of congeniality with what is perhaps the most current usage of the word Trick —that which refers to the object of one’s affectations. By “one” I mean the person of serious ambition in those fields most likely to necessitate the employment of a press agent. Such a person is often, but not always, a homosexual; the primary reason for this being that the heterosexual is far too burdened by his own young to be much interested in anyone else’s. Where the heterosexual feels a sense of duty, a sense of honor, a sense of responsibility, the homosexual feels a sense of humor, a sense of protocol, and most significantly, a sense of design. With no dependents, he is free to pursue his selfish interests—among these, the Trick. The Trick allows one a semblance of romantic intimacy without the risk that one’s own importance will be improperly appreciated. The Trick exhibits those qualities found in a favorite toy. Surely, no sane person would if he could help it knowingly choose a doll that talked about progressive education and demanded that one share the housework—and it is precisely this ability to help it that separates the men from the toys. Fortunately, there are many available to fill the role of Trick, since the first requirement of the climber is a toehold. In allowing this close proximity one is, indeed, apt to have one’s pocket picked, but one also has the option of causing a nasty spill. It is, therefore, a situation in which everyone concerned can be taken advantage of to the best of his ability. As to the question of who runs the greatest risk of getting hurt, one can only reply that the number of mountains that have suffered severe or fatal injury is infinitesimal when compared to the number who have tackled them. The word Trick is used to describe the less illustrious member of such an alliance and it fills a genuine need. For the noteworthy partner the words Rich and/or Famous are quite sufficient, but the corresponding adjectives of Cute and/or Well-built are somewhat lacking. Actual names were all right for home use, but neither “Juan” nor “Heather” is really serviceable as a generic term. Exactly when or why the word Trick was first used for this purpose is unclear, although there is a theory that it derives from the slang of prostitutes, who have long used it in regard to their clients. While this contention is not without logic it is far more likely that this use of the word Trick was spread by simple (or complex) word of mouth. I have in the interest of clarification jotted down some notes on the subject, but before we proceed to them there are a few things that must be said: Tricks like to lie in bed—also in restaurants. * * * Tricks should never be left strewn carelessly about the house where someone might trip over them. * * * Tricks are attracted to bright objects. This may elude your understanding since you obviously do not share this tendency. These notes are for Lord Alfred Douglas. 1. It is wise to avoid the very young Trick. For while it is indeed true that they offer the advantage of having to leave early to get to school, it is equally true that the very same thing can be accomplished by the use of fashion models, who will not only have to be standing on top of the Pan Am Building in full makeup by 8 A.M. but who also will never need help with their term papers on John Donne. 2. The homosexual’s desire to remain youthful is entirely based on his knowledge that he will never have children and hence will be deprived of legitimately meeting their more attractive friends. 3. There are those for whom the most highly prized quality in a Trick is sheer stupidity. Of this group the most envied is an eminent film director who has installed in his residence a young man whose lips move when he watches television. 4. Random examples of items that are part of the canon of Trick: Bennington College’s Nonresident Term Conceptual art Stealing Trying on someone else’s leather jacket while he’s at work Artistic greeting cards Interesting food Black sheets Remembering telephone numbers by making a word out of the corresponding letters Trying to figure things out by listening to the lyrics of popular songs Exotic cigarettes Reading, or more likely watching, Breakfast at Tiffany’s and identifying with Holly Golightly Hearing about F. Scott Fitzgerald and thinking you’re Zelda Being Zelda Fitzgerald and thinking you’re F. Scott Lina Wertmüller movies seen without nausea Stag movies seen with lust 5. A good Trick, like a good child, is mannerly. He does not speak unless spoken to, he does not contradict, and he kneels when an adult comes into the room. “Still as interested as ever in the young, I see,” Francis remarked in a confidential undertone, glancing round the obstruction of his friend’s shoulders to where Daniel stood.… “You old succubus! Let’s have a look at your latest suffix!” —The Apes of God, Wyndham Lewis 6. Mixed company in the modern sense of the term means that Tricks are present. How often one has longed to be left alone after dinner while the Tricks go upstairs and take cocaine. 7. American industry has made a grave error in overlooking the Trick. The market is wide open and would be rewardingly receptive to such products as strawberry-swirl vodka, Hermès mittens, and a pack of cigarettes with a secret surprise inside. 8. Although the male Trick is more prone to stealing than is the female, neither sex can be trusted alone in the same room with an invitation to a party at Halston’s. 9. Tricks have feelings too, as they will be the first to tell you. If you prick them they do indeed bleed—usually your good vodka. 10. The Trick is, when it comes to finance, truly a child of the modern age, for he never carries cash—at least not his own. 11. Other people’s Tricks pose a special problem. Upon coming across a friend thus accompanied you must, out of politeness, treat the Trick amicably. This is invariably a mistake, for shortly thereafter the friend will divest himself of his consort and for the rest of your life the Trick will be coming up to you at parties and saying hello. 12. The simple black Trick is always appropriate—particularly at events where food is not served. 13. It is not unusual for the male aficionado to draw his Tricks exclusively from the lower orders. Such a person is, indeed, often attracted to the criminal element. When asked wherein lay the appeal, a spokesman for this group replied, “Everybody looks good when they’re under arrest.” “Horace has always been like that—his intentions have always been strictly honourable” sneered Ratner “and he has never lost his belief in ‘genius’—associated always with extreme youth, and a pretty face! Unfortunately, the type of beauty which appeals to Horace you see is rather commonplace. The result is Horace has never actually met with a ‘genius,’ which is a pity. It might have opened his eyes if he had!” —The Apes of God, Wyndham Lewis 14. Should you be awakened in the middle of the night by a faint scratching sound, do not fear for your health unless you are certain that all valuables have been safely locked away. For it is far less likely that your Trick is suffering a communicable rash than that he is copying out your address book. The more vindictive among you may be interested in devising a phony version of said book in which you have carefully set down the phone numbers of particularly vile ex-Tricks next to the names of your most prestigious and least favorite former employers. 15. The mistreatment of Tricks is the revenge of the intelligent upon the beautiful.

Double above knee amputee now. I saw the vids, don't know where they are. I think he was discussed SOMEWHERE here before. Hot little fucker, Indeed!

When his price drops below $50/hr?

Of course, one has to draw the line between escort and gigolo.

"Companion". Of course, that reflects on my Victorian sense of the encounter.

... and not even clean shaven!

There's a go-to guy for me. I never notice his facial hair, even when he's right in front of me.

1. Put it in a pre=heated 450 F oven, and get out of there, pronto. (After Bachelor Home Companion, "Soup Nagasaki", P.J. O'Rourke) 2. Take a can opener. Force it open. Go to the hospital to have the cuts in your hand attended-to. 3. Throw it out and buy another one.

Just a random fantasy ... TB and VP together ...

See Mike Gaite when he comes through. He'll satisfy you, and loves having his nipples played with. The rest of it is rather fine, too ...

Does anyone else remember Russell's Barbeque at (roughly) Thatcher and North in Elmwood Park? I took my mother there, when I was in my 40's. "It tastes just like I remember it from high school," I said. "It tastes just like I remember it from high school," she said. Since 1930 ... http://www.russellsbarbecue.net/

From An Exultation of Larks: A Swish of Decorators.

The milkman, the ice cream truck, the knife sharpening guy ... all of an era past.

We still have one on my street ... we also seem to be accumulating kids. But the guy drives so fast, if you're not already out there, he's gone by the time you get out. Just as well, I suppose.

Add basil and oregano, and some fake parmesan, and some additional pepperoni, and a few red pepper flakes, and it's really quite servicable. Also, cook it for 20 minutes ... almost twice the suggested cooking time ... comes out nice and crisp!