@azdr0710 gave excellent advice: treat the overnight like you are hanging out with a buddy.
I did not know what with a quiet
but knowledgeable college student from New York state who met me in Philadelphia in 1991. We metb in a bar in New York City, and I wanted him badly. But, we also talked on the phone often. So we knew each other. And the conversation continued, until he took his clothes off. He stayed until the next evening