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Yes Very different, but whether its a personal preference or a racial one, its still the subjects CHOICE, and his reasons for making those choices are irrelevant. They are HIS choices to make. The fact the WE disapprove is not his problem, its ours.... And the word "consensual" is just that. Not Mandatory. So we are basically condeming a man for making a consensual choice simply because the element of Race, which bothers US, comes into play ?

I never implied the escort WASN'T racist. All I asked is WHY that is any of MY business ?. It isnt.... If an escort chooses to exclude ME for any reason, all I can do about it is move on and select a different escort who has no problem with me. I think that's a more mature approach than whining about it. The escort here is voluntarily letting you know where he stands, so for those thinking that "outting" him with labels is helping others is just "a bit late to the party".. And all they are really doing is grandstanding their own political correctness. And since this is the internet, what people say here is not always how they Really feel. Many respond in a way that makes them more "acceptable" to their peers here which facilitates their time on the board... I clearly dont care about having an easy time here. God knows. But at least I am staying true to my beliefs..

YES Strafe, this is a very complicated issue and affects people deeply, but I will bet my life that many of those yapping about racism here with this escort thread are staunch supporters of Donald Trump who arrogantly makes his racist comments to widespread approval. You cannot CHOOSE the times and circumstances for Racism. You either are or you aint.... As for this comment: It is not the same as those jerks who callously put "no fats, fems, or old guys" in a dating profile. It is much deeper than that. It IS very much the same thing and just as hurtful to those people that are Fat, fem or Old. Diminishing the feelings of these people is a bit insensitive of you.

Yup exactly Newly, and most of the guys squawking here about what the escort didnt want are overlooking the fact that THEY have the same similar prejudices in their hiring choices, but noone makes a stink over it because it isnt made public. Most of these members repeated hire the same type of guy, overlooking and excluding an entire other spectrum of escort. I think open prejudices are much more honest and way less dangerous than hidden or "veiled" ones. Making the statement "NO BLACKS" in an Ad to me simply implies this individual doesnt have sex with black men. WHY the label racist is being thrown at him for it is beyond me. And its the issues of those people throwing the labels that are the real problem, not the escorts... The word "Racist" keeps being thrown around, but what ever happened to a persons "right to Choose" ?

Maybe you have been ? Unless hes a certified public accountant, I wouldnt be letting him do my taxes....

I'm Sorry Tru, and while I can never disagree with your well worded and presented logic here, even putting SEX aside as you say, this is REAL life and the truth is that often one's man's beliefs and words will be another man's Pain. It will always be that way and unfortunately we will not change that. And to be clear, the ONLY reason my focus was on SEX was because the discussion centered on an ESCORT not wanting to be sexual with a client of color. It was not about a restaurant refusing to serve same person, or a hospital refusing to treat him. It was about an ESCORT refusing sex based on race. To me, he has every right to do that. His physical body is involved. Its his choice whom he wants to give it to, and prospective clients WERE advised in his Ad. Now, if other people were emotionally "hurt" by his words, that is sad and unfortunate, but its something they must come to terms with.. What a beautiful world it would be if Everything was good for Everybody, but it Sho Ain't.... While members here want to jump on a bandwagon and make comparisons between an escort refusing people of color, and businesses refusing service to them, the comparisons are not apples to apples... and for me, that's just stretching to make a point... I am sure Dakota HAS thought about the impact his decisions have on his "bottom line", and he is obviously OK with that too. It seems the prospective clients that wont hire him because of his beliefs are the ones bent out of shape, possibly because of the loss of experiencing HIM ? EACH person needs to handle their own shit in situations such as these. Its OK to be a bit selfish and self-serving.. Whether Dakota is racist or not is NONE of my fucking business. We are each in control of ourselves; if we choose not to hire him, we dont and move along, but we have no right to tell OTHERS how to behave. That's the real injustice here.. Is it discrimination ? HELL YES, and I DONT condone that, but lets keep the issue at hand in perspective and not try to fit it into every other social and moral issue that exists in the world. As the saying goes "opinions are like Assholes, everybody has one". I have no beef with anyone here regarding this topic, but perhaps MY asshole is just a bit bigger and oddly shaped ? And PLEASE guys, stop with the pvt hate mail calling me ignorant and racist, and wishing me dead. If you have a comment, make it publicly and not in the cowardly way.

That's what NURSES are for...... Geesh ! http://bussorah.altervista.org/busapr14_files/finger.jpg

Hey Trudy, since we are "besties" can you send me a cashiers check for $10k. I need a tummy tuck !

"Acceptance" of a person has a much broader definition.... I dont understand WHY you people dont get it. You can accept a person, be ok with them politically, socially, spiritually etc, but you just may not want to be physically intimate with them. Just because you ACCEPT a person shouldnt make it Mandatory for you to want SEX with them. And that's the fuckin bottom line here. And this has absolutely nothing to do with being GAY. Being GAY doesnt mean that you fuck EVERYTHING that lives and breathes. Stop telling people where they should stick their dicks.....!

No not at you. At all the negative comments directed AT him for his choices. These people need to just let it fucking Go.

In the other thread on this very same topic about the client that showed up at the escorts door, only to have the escort tell him he does not usuallyn engage black clients because they are always troublesome for him, BUT he will go thru will the meet up because the client didnt sound American, You all dumped on the escort and criticized him for not putting his preferences in his ad. But here we are with an escort that did put in preferences in his ad, and your panties are still in a twist or the mere reason he doesnt want intimacy with men of color. Get over it already guys. Anybody could and should have sex ONLY with those they want to, and your criticisms of that are just bullshit. Leave the guys alone. Its their lives and their bodies. I find it ridiculous that Anyone should have Anything to say about how a person uses their body. Enough.!

Listen & Learn...... http://33.media.tumblr.com/fbd54049f3b2f0b92de212951b4e5e04/tumblr_n1mn8gxcBS1qm1vx8o1_500.gif

And THEN, I started carrying the FAN.... now if someone does or says something I don't like, I smack em on the head with it. For you, that may not work long distance, so you'll just have to smack him "with your Words"....

Well, the situation doesn't only apply to "escorts". As a civilian, I had 2 friends (they were a couple) who always made "everything" about THEM. When we would make plans to do something, it had to be their ideas, what they wanted, when they wanted. They wouldn't be the least bit flexible on anything. They were braggadocious and "self serving" about everything. If you did something, they "ultimately did it better" . If you bought something, what they bought was better. It was exhausting... I tried to overlook and ignore, but after several years I just couldn't anymore. I confronted them and told them how I felt, but instead of receiving an understanding of my issues, I got the "oh, you're just jealous" line. At that point I realized they were all about themselves, and really didn't comprehend the idea of "Friendship"... I cut them loose...because i was getting absolutely nothing from the relationship.... So JD, my advice is to weigh the Pro's and cons of the relationship, and decide if you can exist in the space created for you with him.... Usually when you sit down and seriously THINK about it, the picture becomes perfectly clear as to what you need to do....

Man tits just sound so "unsavory"... It conjures up an unpleasant image for ME.... http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-3BDSwhp8lVQ/VIWNGxMuuxI/AAAAAAAAADQ/Eo60yEeGxzo/s1600/Lee_Johnston1_1877045a.jpg

The title should really be "A tale of 2 feuding Drag queens".....

The Answer: Caftans http://www.stylingyou.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Nigel-in-a-kaftan.jpg

But if you open the door and have THIS reaction ....... RUN !!!!!

I wouldn't say it will "ensure" it , but it will make the possibility greater.... There is always the element of Chemistry, which really cant be tested 100% unless you are face-2-face... Many, many things look and sound good on paper and in theory, but never really reach their full potential in a REAL LIVE meeting.

Well Greg, if you are 6 ft tall, you'd be perfection @ 200. I am 5'9.5" and currently at my highest weight of 230. It's a terrible struggle... I diet and workout but cant drop a single ounce... I am currently researching the "fat freeze" and lipo procedures.... People don't say I'm fat, but I am uncomfortable in this body... and this summer when I broke my beach chair, that was the final nail in my coffin....

OH MY, then you would ADORE me..!

There are "degrees" of bigness"... would you be honest with a client that showed up that you KNEW you were not attracted to, and knew you might not be able to become aroused and perform with. OR does that just not happen to escorts ? There's a saying that also goes "everybody has a breaking point".....

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Potato, patata..... it's all Ass shaking to me !

Its probably all the more difficult when you go from a sexy Hearthrob, living your live in front of a camera and in the public eye, to a regular out of shape Joe. Your struggle with self esteem is heightened, and everyone is watching your descent. Aging is a normal, natural process, and none of us look the same as we did even 10 years ago. There are very few of us that can look perpetually good without hard work on your body, proper diet and discipline. But Hollywood doesn't allow that, although men seem to have a easier time with aging than the women do. So I really feel bad for the guy...and his struggles..