Okay, so I had to navigate back to the first page to see what the actual topic was. The original question was, Do providers lose business if they insist on using condoms. As a consumer, allow me to answer on their behalf. Yes. If you only do one thing, you automatically lose the potential clients who don’t want that. Total tops or bottoms won’t get business from other total tops or bottoms. If you advertise Safe Only or Anything Goes, you won’t be hired by guys who want the opposite.
You know what else I haven’t seen in this thread? One single person say “you do you.” We are very fortunate that at this point in time, we can choose whether we want to use a rubber without taking our lives into our hands. We each have our own risk profile. If you and I are not getting ready to fuck, it’s none of my business if you want to wear a hazmat suit or if your tramp stamp says “cum hole” plus an arrow.
As gay men (or however you identify), we are each responsible for our own orgasm and our own safety. If you want your service provider to use a condom when he fucks you, 1) communicate that up front, and 2) bring condoms and lube to the meeting. Make it part of the play to put it on his dick yourself, and slide that dick up your butt. If you want it raw, tell him that before you meet and make sure any up charge for doing it or breeding you is factored into the quote.