Chien Andalou

What the actual fuck? are you suggesting you don’t think they should enjoy their experience with you? I always try to give my providers a good time. It’s part of being a good lay. I will still get my nut either way, but it’s a lot more enjoyable when the guy is really into what I’m doing to him. I don’t expect a freebie or even a discount because of it, but I may swallow a big load, nut harder and deeper, or get a quicker and more enthusiastic yes the next time I ask for a meeting.

I care very much. Just because I’m a top doesn’t mean all I’m interested is sticking my dick in a hole. I love to suck cock and I love to eat ass. Those things are going to be right up against my face, so I want them to be pretty. They are definite factors in who I do and do not hire. On the topic of this thread, I also want to see the head of the dick. Sure, just showing the base gives a sense of its girth, but not how it will sit against my tongue or down my throat. If a guy has a ton of pictures of his pretty hole, it suggests to me he likes having it worked on and we’re more likely to be a good match.

Not showing face on any websites is a start. It will help keep your employer and grandmother from finding out. However, given all the requirements to post the ad, your identity is still at risk. Correct me if I’m wrong, but don’t you have to provide proof of age to advertise on any of the sites? And if you pay for your subscription by credit card, your bank will have access to the merchant info. Even bitcoin is not as anonymous as we had all been led to believe. If they all have this information, the government can access it if it wants. The ultimate question is, like so many here, the degree of risk you’re comfortable with. Then act accordingly.

SMOOTH. I love to eat ass and, according to the feedback, I’m really good. Individual tastes vary, of course, but I absolutely love smooth ass. The smoother the better. I do care what a guy’s hole looks like, and it is very much a factor when I’m deciding who to hire. I personally find a hairy, scruffy asshole disgusting. I have decided not to hire otherwise attractive guys because of it. The same holds true for the crotch. I think the old joke is, “I want to suck a dick, not floss my teeth.”

I use the function fairly often. Sometimes it means the guy really is available right then and looking for something immediate. Other times they’re just signaling that they’re actively looking for that day. Occasionally they just leave it up as the default, sometimes even after they have left town. Only the last one bothers me. I have had both very good and very bad experiences this way. It does give me the opportunity to see guys I have been considering for a while but hadn’t bothered (or cared enough) to plan ahead. Sometimes they’re grateful for the business when things are slow. Sometimes they’re just trying to run an assembly line. Sometimes they’re just crappy providers.

Getting back to the original query, OP stated that the masseur’s rate is already high. He has been multiple times, which suggests he has no problem paying him his quoted rate. For me, paying his already high rate is sufficient. Only tip if you feel he deserves something extra. Sounds like he doesn’t. If he ghosts you because of it, take it as a sign that this relationship has run its course and find someone more appreciative.

Start with what we all zero in on in the provider profiles: click the boxes of the things you’re into and skip the ones you’re not. Anal, Oral, Kissing, BFE, Foreskin…or not. If you say you’re only a top or bottom, you weed out providers whose offerings don’t jibe with your interests.

I read that as OP’s thought bubble, not what he actually said. I have never had anyone get pissed when I declined the additional person. There are some providers who say they only work together. I know not to contact them unless I want them both and to pay accordingly.

Whenever I travel for conferences, I always try to sample the local wares. The hotels are nearly always full of other attendees and maybe some colleagues. I try to get my room separate from anyone I know. I may set up the meeting during events, like the “networking cocktail parties.” If I have to meet him downstairs, I ask him to look professional and am fully dressed myself. I often wait outside. I will greet him with a handshake and make small talk as we head to the room. Sometimes I carry my laptop. No one needs to know that my hand is on his ass in the elevator.

It’s not that they’re Brazilian. It’s that Brazilians and other Latins often plan to service multiple clients in a day, especially if they’re traveling; they can’t do that if they drop a load with all of them. If they cum with you, they expect to be out of commission for the rest of the day. They want compensation for that. I don’t have a problem with that. When they do cum, I know it’s because I got them off and not from obligation.

Thank you, Simon, for your characteristically thoughtful response. I always enjoy your input. Your treatise on ass eating (with illustrations no less!) was a masterwork. I plan to incorporate some of your pointers into my own rim work. i agree with you about looking for escorts who also provide bodywork. This is a twofer, which should be compensated accordingly. It does bring up one of my pet peeves, which is “strictly-therapeutic” masseurs who think they should be paid as much as erotic ones. I’m sorry, but there is a “nudity premium.” If you’re wearing sweats and a hoodie and they’re staying on, and nobody’s dick gets tugged, you shouldn’t expect the same compensation. Full stop. And clients are guilty for agreeing to pay it. I don’t care how good the massage is, if you’re asking $200 an hour or more there needs to be something more.

I used to see Pan as well. He hasn’t updated his pics since about 1893, so I don’t know what he looks like anymore. He was sure beautiful though. I recall his massage being decidedly okay but not on a par with what I was discussing.

I don’t mind at all. It suggests to me that he might be horny and willing, and that the extras might be extra fun. At minimum, if he’s trying to drum up business he’s unlikely to be overworked and worn out when we meet.

Not exclusively. Here’s one in Oregon. SF used to have a special headquarters set up in the Tenderloin with fake street walkers to catch Johns. Multiple people arrested in sex trafficking sting KATU.COM The Washington County Sheriff's Office and other agency partners have arrested seven people on Thursday after conducting an online sex...

I’m in the SF Bay Area. I thought enough providers and clients travel we might want to know about all areas. My tastes also run to “conventionally attractive.”