Yes, it’s so much the energy and the chemistry. I had an online friend recommend a masseur to me, my friend told me “never any extras”.
First time I met the masseur, he dropped his shorts halfway through, lots of body contact, HE by hand. Future visits evolved into him performing oral (hungrily), long showers together, and ultimately bottoming for me.
My online friend would always email me “isn’t it frustrating he won’t do more......” I always kept it to myself.