It definitely takes some time, as my image below suggest ?
I’m not active on Seeking at the moment, but have a lot of experience there. One tip on foreign messages and others out of your area, you can set filters on your incoming messages by geo range (in miles) that will (with varying degrees of success) filter out messages from the geo range you set.
Since Covid many, many more of the pic/video hustlers, and the “Platonic only” showed up. That, and not wanting to meet new friends at height of pandemic caused me to not renew my membership. I find I’m not missing it much, and I have a few friends I’ve met on seeking that I keep in touch with via text messaging....although it’s all just virtual even those few I haven’t met with live yet.
I’ll probably renew one of these days, it’s been a good resource for me in addition to RentMen etc. for meeting new friends.