WTF?? You sound like my father who spent a good portion of his life worrying his son is gay. For some of us, the mystery, the not-knowing, the unraveling (draping included), the teasing the masseur and discovery is the thrill and excitement we seek in going to known-to-be strictly legit masseurs or spas. It is in no way “frustrating or stressful.” The “ambiguity” is the essential part of the experience sought. And, when I seek this scene, a solid legit massage without an HE is not flushed money. This obviously doesn’t float your boat. Different strokes for different folks. But manliness is not in question.