These both ring true for me.
Gentleman, enjoying your spirited back and forth as well as this insightful thread.
Growing up in suburban white America in a racist Italian-Catholic family forced me to reckon first with my own racism before my sexuality and coming out. Here later in life, I go to certain spas because I prefer non-white masseurs and my last three long term relationships were with Indian, African American and Asian men. While I can truly state that I’m more attracted to, as my friends say, “a certain type”, it’s not totally untrue when my brother says “you just want mom and dad to roll in their graves.” The human sub-psyche is a complex place.